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Submitted by AtoZMom on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 1:50pm

I posted a week ago or so about me and DH moving away and having to leave SD5 with her BM. and I appreciate all the advice people gave and different situations.
But the last few days I have been thinking that not seeing SD5 won't be so bad, i almost like the idea (i love her like my own daughter and I will miss her) I kind of like the idea of it being the 3 of us (DH, BD1 and myself) and have SD5 come for summer and some holidays.
is this wrong for me to feel this way? I know i will miss her and I know DH will miss her horribly :/

oh my

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Submitted by MommyMayI on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 1:58pm

I have had these feelings before. It would be soooo much easier if it was just "our" family, but the truth is skid is part of our family. Dh would be miserable and so would our girls if they couldn't see ss every week. Life isn't easy, but we have to do what is right for the whole family. At the end of the day I just wish we didn't have to deal with bm.

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Submitted by AtoZMom on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 2:00pm

yeah I think most of my issue is with BM if she was more reasonable or just not around it would be better but thats life.

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Submitted by QueenBeau on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 3:11pm

We are moving away and SD will no longer be with us on weekends. I feel like you do. I do not lie and say I love her like my own daughter, because I don't, but I do love her. It's sad that we are moving. And I am more sad that DH is going to be so sad. But the truth is, our location and jobs weren't working for us and BM caused a lot of drama. It was better for our family to move. So we did.

Though I think SD is better off with us, that is not an option and she was not better of watching BM loose her damn mind EOWE either. It should cut on the drama which is better for all of us.

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 3:12pm

I felt this way once, when BM moved for a couple of years and we didn't see SD much. I did miss her but it was such a relief not to deal with high conflict, bitch BM.

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Submitted by AtoZMom on Fri, 09/11/2015 - 10:37am

Thanks for all the comments. jsut to clarify DH didn't make me feel I needed to Love her it just happened. I think my problem is with BM mostly, not having to deal with her on a daily bases sounds awesome! I have said it would be easier if SD5 was mine but thats not the case, i'm sure we will figure it all out and SD5 will get the best from both of her parents Biggrin