So first off, this is really more MIL drama, but just so freaking annoying! MIL invited us to her house for dinner/gift exchange last night. Last year we didn't go and it was wonderful. This year, DH told MIL that we were NOT going, but SIL3 begged me to come, so I decided BS5 and I would go after all. It's so frustrating because I LOVE all of DH's SILS, FIL, everyone... except for MIL and DH is really the same way. So literally 15 minutes before we need to leave, I ask DH if he's going, he says no, that he already told MIL that.. I said well I can't believe you're making me go to YOUR family Christmas without you!!! We laughed, my guilt trip worked and DH decided to go. So we get to MIL's and 15 minutes after we show up, BM2 is dropping SS16 off. WTF??? I promise DH did NOT know he was coming, because like I said, DH was NOT planning on coming until last minute. And I bet MIL told SS that we weren't coming which is why he showed up but whatever... MILs grandkid too, her house.. enough people there that I just steered clear. So like literally 30 seconds after SS gets done eating, he's asking DH if he can take him home? Oh that's right, you got your loot, and free dinner, so time to run home and smoke dope or do pills or whatever is it you're doing these days.

So we drop pothead off at BM2s dump and head home. About an hour later, DH asks if he can use my phone because something wrong with SD phone but she told him he could call her through FB because SD and I are friends... so whatever, I dial it for him and off he goes. They talked for like 45 minutes... apparently SD feels like Aunt J is pressuring her to do ROTC or military route. We ALL agree that this would be the BEST thing for this girl. She needs structure and discipline. SD is scared to go into the military because GBM has her convinced that she will most definitely get killed by ISIS. SD says she wants to go to a community college. Last year at this time, SD wanted to do something along the lines of state park police. In November when I talked to Aunt J and Aunt J told me that SD was doing soooo wonderfully, she said she wanted to go into nursing. Last night when DH talked to her, she now wants to be a speech therapist. Whatever, I get that kids change their minds and that it IS a difficult decision to make sometimes.

Well after DH talked to SD, he called Aunt J. Apparently things went from "wonderful" a month ago, back to same old SD horse crap now. Apparently Aunt J caught SD and her boyfriend having sex in the house.. Aunt J was pissed, and now feels like she's dealing with a freaking toddler who can't be left alone without getting into trouble. Also Aunt J said that SD lies about everything and she and her H are just sick of it. She said she understands why I got so upset out it, because it's constant. You seriously can not believe a word this girl says. Of course DH defends... "well it's how she was raised by those scumbags.. blah blah" So then Aunt J drops the bombshell... Aunt J has been taking SD to different colleges around the state in Virginia, has been really pushing ROTC etc. Aunt J just found out that SD has applied to ONE college so far.... SUNY Oneonta.... in New York... and guess who has lots of family in Oneonta?? Yep! GBM/BM.... so guarantee this is the end game plan..... SD WILL go running back to these scumbags the millisecond she graduates from high school and the cycle will perpetuate itself. I seriously thought there was some kind of hope for this girl, moving her to Virginia, getting her away from the trash, but GBM and BM just have their claws into her too deep. Funny last night DH said something to her about she needs to stop talking to GBM and letting her feed her with stupid crap. SD said "I haven't been talking to GBM! I really haven't because I haven't had my phone" But of course when DH was talking to Aunt J, Aunt J was frustrated because she took SD phone away after the sex in the house ordeal and after some incident with GBM but Aunt J said that she just uses her friend's phones, or her IPad etc that she most DEFINITELY IS talking to GBM... so as usual the lies continue.

This girl is going to be 18 in 6 months...last night DH told Aunt J "Well, when SD graduates, I will come down and load her shit up and bring her back here and she can figure out what she's doing if she hasn't by then" I immediately got sick to my stomach.... I DO NOT WANT HER BACK IN MY HOUSE... ESPECIALLY with no freaking plan! I don't think my marriage can survive that crap again!!!!!!!! FML