Things are back to bad with Aunt J and SD17
Well, I guess the report of SD17 "doing much better" back in November was short lived because Aunt J has about had it with her now. Same old, same old, same old stupid crap that SD was doing at our house... which is just more proof she is NEVER going to change.
Aunt J said that after Christmas they were going to move SD17 room down to the smallest bedroom in the basement because she has literally trashed her room that she's in now and trashed the bathroom also. They actually had to replace the ceiling in the floor below SD17 bathroom, because she got water all over up there. Aunt J has been trying to help her pick a college somewhere in her state. She is stressing either military , because SD NEEDS the structure and discipline or a 2 year community college to start. So Aunt J finds out that SD17 has applied to one college... A freaking state university in MY state... a freaking university that is known for it's arts and music programs... supposedly SD wants to either be a nurse or a speech pathologist????? I asked DH why in the world she would apply to this school??? He said that apparently Great Grandma BM lives there... and GBM/BM go up there frequently. So THAT explains it, she's already conniving to run right back to those scumbags. The scumbags who just got evicted for the 200th time and are now back living in a dumpy ass trailer park.
Aunt J said she will fulfill her commitment to get SD17 graduated, but that the minute she graduates, Aunt J wants her gone. SD is doing the same crap there that she did at our house, blowing her money instead of saving it, acting like she is some damn princess that everyone should be bowing down too, thumbing her nose at rules and simple requests, lying, lying and lying some more. DH said he has no idea how all of this is going to work because he really doesn't want her back at our house. He said and I quote, " I really like the happy peaceful life we have right now" Amen to that mister! I told him, her moving back in with us would just be reliving that nightmare because NOTHING has changed and NOTHING is going to change.
I'm just so glad that EVERYONE can see now that it was NOT me!
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She should graduate in June
She should graduate in June and she'll turn 18 beginning of July.
The only reason she even has a chance of graduating is because Aunt J lords over her and makes her do her homework and hired a private tutor for her as well. Which is why we firmly believe if left to her own devices aka going to college... she is NOT going to be successful, which is also why DH refuses to pay a dime towards college.
Nobody has to take her in
Nobody has to take her in when she is 18. Providing a home for a legal adult is a privilege not a right of the adult.
No one should waste time or money trying to spoon feed responsibility to an adult who doesn't want to participate in the process of growing up. Some lessons have to be learned the hard way.
Pretty much what DH and I
Pretty much what DH and I discussed and agreed upon... she basically needs to fall flat on her face and wind her ass up back in the trailer park with GBM/BM before she recognizes the problem lies within herself.
I worry though, because DH and I have been in agreement on these types of things before, and then he caves and gives in to her demands.
HAHA that's what I told DH...
HAHA that's what I told DH... her only hope is finding a man who will put up with her crap and pay her way in life. DH said, she'll probably get knocked up and wind up just like BM1.
Sad to say, I'm not
Sad to say, I'm not surprised. No reason for her to end up back at your house. She has been given plenty of opportunities and continues to act like the entitled princess. There were plenty of reasons she went to Aunt J's, and I would be reminding DH about all of them.
She's not going to change
She's not going to change until she's out in the real world and its smacks her in the face. The sooner she gets out in the real world, better it'll be for her, or not, but it will be up to her.