Was having a fun camping/deer hunting trip with DH and our younger kids. We arrived a couple of days ahead of the rest of the family, found and set up camp and were enjoying ourselves. SD29 and her husband showed up two days later with SD30, her husband and kids. Upon arrival, SD30 insisted that I had given the group wrong directions to camp even though I had texted her and SD29 exact directions to camp. Fortunately, I had DH review those directions before I sent them. SD30's father-in-law had also given SD 30's husband directions to his camp which was close to our camp. SD30 was very put out and would not give up on what she considered were wrong directions even though they had taken a wrong turn and gotten off course. SD30 wanted to know why dinner was not ready for her and her family when she arrived to camp even though I did not know when to expect them and had not said that dinner would be waiting for them. My DH, younger kids, and I loaded up in the truck and went for a drive in order to get out of camp for a while and to allow SD30 to settle down.

The next day we all went on our separate ways to our own hunting areas. In the afternoon we returned to camp. SD30 wanted DH and I to make breakfast. Since it was afternoon I said I was going to make chili and have lunch. SD30 made her and SD29 breakfast (using my cook stove) while I was cooking chili. SD30 did not make breakfast for anyone else, not even her own children. When the chili was finished I told everyone it was done, but that the cornbread was going to take longer than I expected it to (I'd read the recipe wrong), but they were free to start on the chili so they could get back out to their hunting areas in plenty of time.

SD29 was joking about how difficult it was to wake up SD30 and how they would have left home for the camping trip if SD30 would have gotten up and motivated earlier in the day and how hard SD30 was to wake up this first morning in camp. SD29 was commenting about how SD30 flails around and is difficult to awaken. The rest of the family started joking about how difficult it is to get SD30 going in the morning and I was joking along with them not thinking much about it. SD30 quickly became very angry and started calling me profane names. SD30 then brought up how I tried to wake her up one time when she was 15 by shaking her toe (I did so in an effort to stay out of the way of her fists back when she was skipping school all of the time. DH and I were having to deal with her truancy issues so it was important to make a solid effort to try and get her up and off to school). SD30 continued to call me profane names and then told me to shut up and to leave. I told SD30 that she was in my camp, that she was getting upset over something that happened a long time ago, and she was difficult to wake up. SD30 then came over to me and shoved me and told me to shut up, that everything in her life was my fault, called me more profane names, pulled my hair which was in a braid and threw my hair tie in the campfire. SD29 told SD30 to stop acting out and to calm down. SD30 continued calling me profane names and again told me to shut up, then yelled at me from her tent to "shut up you (profane name), if you don't shut up I'm going to come over there and shut you up! I'm going to punch you in the face! You deserve to be punched in the face! You've got it coming!" SD29 told SD30 to stop. SD30 then came over to me and yelled at me in my face some more, "Admit it! Everything is your (profane word) fault!" I told SD30, "Fine, if it will make you feel better, than everything is my fault." SD30 then yelled, "Good, YOU admit it!" I said, "You, know, not everything in life, including your life is my fault." Then SD30 yelled, "That's it, I'm punching you in the face because you (profane word and name) deserve it!" Then I said, "What is really going on is that you have issues with the way your own mother treated and still treats you and since I'm here right now you are taking it out on me because I'm the next best person for you act out on. The family psychologist made this clear to your dad and I when you were 15. If it will make you feel better, go ahead and punch me in the face, but be aware of the consequences that will follow." SD30 stomped back to her tent. I went inside my trailer for awhile. SD30 then came out of her tent and was now in a yelling match, face to face with SD29 telling SD29 how she (SD30) needed to be driven home, "This instant". Home was a mere 300 miles away and they had just arrived the night before at SD29's expense. SD29 told SD30 that she wasn't driving SD30 home and, "You can't always demand things and expect to get your own way. Grow up." SD30 then came over to my camp stove where the chili was simmering and poured 1/2 gallon of cooking oil into it ruining the big pot of homemade chili. Everyone just stood still for a moment (lunch for the rest of us was now gone). Then SD30 came over to me and again told me I deserved to be punched in the face and she was going to do it. She also informed everyone present that I was there to serve her and that was the only reason for me being there. SD30's husband took her by the shoulder and moved her away. I walked over to the trailer and started raising the hitch in order to back the truck up to it and hook it up when SD30 announced "Look at her, she's getting her fat ass work out for the day! SD29 yelled at SD30 "STOP!" DH came over to me and tried to stop me from hooking up the trailer and tried to convince me to stay in camp. I had to remind him of the pact we had agreed upon before we left on the trip that if SD30 acted out we would leave even if it meant leaving our own camp. I realized our kids and the grandkids were upset, so I went into the trailer and consoled them, telling them they were OK, that me and SD30 were just having a disagreement that couldn't be resolved at the moment, and how we were going to pull up camp and move to another camp to stop this episode from continuing. I went out and finished hooking up the trailer. We pulled up camp and moved to a new camp. But before we left camp SD30 yelled at us that we would never see the grandkids again. Which of course, obviously upset the kids, grandkids, and the rest of us.

DH, our kids, and I were mentally and physically exhausted after all of that. It took several days to recover from SD30's toxic behavior. We won't invite SD30 back into our camp again. Currently, SD30 isn't allowed back at our house, I don't want her around my kids, and I don't want her around me. She is scary. I'd be glad to have the grandkids and my son-in-law come over, but not SD30. No one needs to be exposed to SD30's emotional and threatened/potential physical abuse.

Even though this is for the best, I feel it is tearing our family apart. SD30 has been acting out and getting worse over the past year. I'm not sure what her trigger is, but she's been mostly fine since 2011 until this spring/summer and now fall.