The thing that stuck with me from her talk was that she does these diagrams that show relationships of the whole family unit- exes, bms, etc....everyone is represented and the relationships between members as well. It actually helped me to have a visual representation of my whole mess!! Like a zigzag line between a sm and her skid would represent a strained relationship. It was only an hour-and-a-half talk, and it was to promote her book that I wrote the title of in the first post. Just really a collection of what she has learned in all her years of doing this. I intend to buy her book but it's $42 hardcover so...haven't yet. When I do I'll know more about her theories. It is interesting that she has been a sm in two stepfamilies now; her first remarriage did not work. She uses tons of personal anecdotes.