About Pregnancy, "My mom says...."
We recently told SD7 that we are expecting her first sibling! She is very excited, but immediately started talking about her mom.
"When my mom was pregnant, she ate..."
"My mom says it hurts when babies are born"
"My mom said I stretched her stomach out"
I hope this trend doesn't continue, because I'm going to have to find some way to tell SD to STFU about it...in a nicer way. Has anyone else told their skids they don't care hear about these BMs stories? I don't generally care about other times she wants to talk about BM, but this is not something I care to hear for 9 months.
I think I may just say something like, "SD if I want to hear any pregnancy stories I'll ask my sister or my friends who have kids, thanks"
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Oh boy... hang in there,
Oh boy...
hang in there, more is a'comin'
SS14 (yes 14) still does this shit. "Dad do you remember the day I was born?". "No Buddy - I was drunk in a bar that day". (kidding of course).
It won't end, dear.. be prepared.
This. My SO's 10 yr old
This. My SO's 10 yr old daughter was always bringing it up, it's much less now than it was. I think it was a jealousy thing for her...the hag told her that SO wouldn't love her anymore because we were his "new family."
She's seven, completely
She's seven, completely natural. Actually, it's normal for anybody to talk about what they know or have heard regarding a certain subject.
Forget about the fact that it's about BM, who cares? That's all she knows, give her new information.
Instead of saying, "SD if I want to hear any pregnancy stories I'll ask my sister or my friends who have kids, thanks", talk to her about your sister or friends and steer her away from the BM thing.
Then, use the opportunity to include her in this experience and maybe she will be more interested in the now instead of talking about the past.
I just went through this and
I just went through this and I'm sure more is coming now that I've actually had the baby two weeks ago. Most times I just say "okay", or one of my household signatures "So anyway..." But one time I couldn't do it anymore. I was in my last couple of weeks of pregnancy and having some issues so we were going to get ultrasounds weekly, usually he came with us. Well he started talking about how they were going to cut me open and take the baby out and how I was going to have a scar...his mom had two C-Sections and while there is nothing wrong with them, it's not what I pictured for the birth of my child. I just told him "no, that's not how baby was going to come out" and I tried to leave it at that. He kept going with the "well mom said..." So in true immature hormonal fashion I just said "I don't care what mom said, baby will be here when he gets here and nobody is cutting my belly open to take the baby out".
Not my proudest moment but DH was there too to recover for me and he smoothly changed topics before SS could realize I was ugly to him. I'm sure I'll have more moments but hopefully I'll handle it better
Aww I wouldn't worry too much
Aww I wouldn't worry too much about it! It's not everyday that you are hormonal and having issues on top of it! Really your DH should have stepped in before it got too aggravating for you!
Aww I wouldn't worry too much
Aww I wouldn't worry too much about it! It's not everyday that you are hormonal and having issues on top of it! Really your DH should have stepped in before it got too aggravating for you!
Thanks, I was really just the
Thanks, I was really just the worst pregnant person ever. No woman wants to hear about C-Sections right before going into birth in general but my kid is already sharing a birth date with SS other brother from BM so hearing about her really just tapped right on that nerve. I was overly emotional and I'm so relieved I'm not pregnant anymore! Haha
not sweet to me, annoying
not sweet to me, annoying actually cuz noone wants to hear about the bm, especially a hormonal pregnant sm!
but yes i totally agree with you, she's trying to relate. it sounds more like a bonding thing, she's trying to share what she's heard about it, as a common ground.
i say go for what a previous poster suggested, and share a story w/ her about your sister or someone else. most likely she's trying to swap stories.
there's always the possibility she's an "attention whore" who is trying to one-up you. doesnt sound that way from the OP tho'....
My SD6 did this a lot as well
My SD6 did this a lot as well when I was pregnant with my DD. SD was 4 at the time. I would always answer her with a distant "That's nice" and then change the subject. I really didn't want to hear about BM's pregnancy.
I'd want to tape her mouth
I'd want to tape her mouth shut to not hear that shit. (I said "want to" not "would" so keep those panties unbunched, our overly critical palsies on here...)
Anyway, get the kid a stack of books (age appropriate) about new babies, new siblings, etc and let her read those. That should give her something else to talk about.