Is there a badge, like in girls scouts?
We should have merit (or demerit) badges.
For the first time DH has said it out loud.
What happened:
Skid is supposed to put his phone in the kitchen while doing homework, otherwise it takes an entire weekend to complete. (BM bought and controls, and refuses to set limits.) DH was out and texted skid to remind him to put the phone out. Skid didn't do what he was supposed to...again. When I talked with DH about it I suggested he just take the phone away (OMG how over the top of me) until all the homework was done. I got told both that I'm picking on the skid and that we shouldn't "jump" on him so fast.
Points of order:
The rule breaking happened during the day, it was not addressed until bedtime.
This is a pattern.
Skid told DH he "didn't see the text" even though the same skid came out of his room with his phone in-hand worried about getting back to a friend about his event that day.
I drove the skid to his event to help out, so the skid still got to do his thing even though he didn't follow directions (and he was supposed to have a certain amount of homework done which he did not).
Yes, I did suggest the phone be taken away until homework was done in front of the skid. But not meanly.
I did not suggest that the skid be banned from every electronic device or have only bread and water.
I also go told that the rule is unfair since the other two don't have that rule. And that this skid is an A/B student...as an excuse not to have the consequence.
Points of order:
I did not make the rule. DH did.
The other two (skid/kid) get their homework done in a timely manner.
One of the others (my kid) is in the same grade as this skid and there isn't the same issue.
*ALL* of them are A/B students.
Skid was doing okay with homework speed until BM bought him his own phone.
Based on DH's protests, I said fine, that means all other individualized rules/consequences are now null and void OR all kids have exactly the same rules/consequences. And I gave examples of how things would change under each scenario. DH didn't like either scenario.
Duh... because it's unfair to put a rule on a kid who doesn't need it, and it's appropriate to put rules in place where they are needed.
How old is the skid? My SD was 12 when I met her. She was also an A/B student at that time (7th grade). I witnessed a great deal of this kind of crap and got told my "expectations were too high."
Now she's pushing 16 and flunking many classes with a truancy problem. Guess who just got religion on things like phone access? We do not yet know if she will even graduate. She seems to think it isn't important.
If you cannot enforce staying on task when they're younger and more pliable, expect to see dropout behavior when they're older. A huge part of the problem with sd is she's so far behind now she's given up on catching up. Couldn't see that coming, could we? Oh. Yeah. It's only visible in the Stepmother Dimension. Sheesh.
He has also 'used' his homework as an excuse to get out of doing things on the weekend that he doesn't want to do. (Meaning he will purposefully go slow or "forget" something has to be done.)
And one time he convinced DH that he should bring his laptop from BMs to our house for the weekend because he needed it to do homework. Okay, I'm thinking, maybe he has a program on there (like Powerpoint or a drawing tool) that he started his homework in and lots of files. Nope, BM installed a game on it and he played the game all weekend. His homework was in Google Docs...that he has always accessed and used just fine through our computer. I talked to DH and told him it'd better not show up again.
He's not surly like my BS (the other 14yo), so DH seems to think that the skid isn't trying to manipulate him or a situation. Sigh.
SD's doppleganger. Don't worry. When the first Fs show up your DH will be like Scooby, "Roaurggh??" and forgive and forget but when the 3rd and 4th crops of Fs show up you won't have to talk anymore. Waves of Fs speak for themselves.
Oh, that will never happen with super stealth black ops ninja helicopter BM in the picture. I foresee medications, tutors, an IEP, and her just outright doing his homework to 'help.'
Pretty soon you will get the "you just don't like my kids" badge and after that its' What do you have against my kids badge". I am so excited for you!!!! We'll have matching vests with our badges sewn in soon. eeekkk. girl squeal
"You treat(ed) my kids like pigs" (wow I have scars on my tongue)
"They're just kiiiiidddds"
"The teachers CATER to the smart ones" (just what are you saying here?)
"They're late bloomers just like me" (the jury is still out on that one--has been out for 47 yrs now)
I already have badge #2 in your list. That was the first one I ever got.
Do you have the "but maybe we shouldn't have so many rules since they have less rules at BMs house" badge? Or the companion badge "it's just that they aren't used to following rules since they don't have any at BMs"?
The rules imposed on your SS are similar to the rules imposed in our house. If they are violated, the consequences are similar to Robin Williams stand-up routine on describing cops in England. "HALT! Or I'll say HALT again!"
I read this at work and nearly gave myself an aneurysm trying to hold in my laughter! That is EXACTLY how it goes.
Thank you. Now I have a nice little saying that will go off in my head every time something like that happens. The snarky part of me will be amused and I will smile, so my frustration will be hidden. Let's just hope that I don't break and say it out loud in an extremely sarcastic tone.
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Here's the real post: Is
Here's the real post:
Is there a badge, like in girls scouts?
We should have merit (or demerit) badges.
For the first time DH has said it out loud.
What happened:
Skid is supposed to put his phone in the kitchen while doing homework, otherwise it takes an entire weekend to complete. (BM bought and controls, and refuses to set limits.) DH was out and texted skid to remind him to put the phone out. Skid didn't do what he was supposed to...again. When I talked with DH about it I suggested he just take the phone away (OMG how over the top of me) until all the homework was done. I got told both that I'm picking on the skid and that we shouldn't "jump" on him so fast.
Points of order:
The rule breaking happened during the day, it was not addressed until bedtime.
This is a pattern.
Skid told DH he "didn't see the text" even though the same skid came out of his room with his phone in-hand worried about getting back to a friend about his event that day.
I drove the skid to his event to help out, so the skid still got to do his thing even though he didn't follow directions (and he was supposed to have a certain amount of homework done which he did not).
Yes, I did suggest the phone be taken away until homework was done in front of the skid. But not meanly.
I did not suggest that the skid be banned from every electronic device or have only bread and water.
I also go told that the rule is unfair since the other two don't have that rule. And that this skid is an A/B student...as an excuse not to have the consequence.
Points of order:
I did not make the rule. DH did.
The other two (skid/kid) get their homework done in a timely manner.
One of the others (my kid) is in the same grade as this skid and there isn't the same issue.
*ALL* of them are A/B students.
Skid was doing okay with homework speed until BM bought him his own phone.
Based on DH's protests, I said fine, that means all other individualized rules/consequences are now null and void OR all kids have exactly the same rules/consequences. And I gave examples of how things would change under each scenario. DH didn't like either scenario.
Duh... because it's unfair to put a rule on a kid who doesn't need it, and it's appropriate to put rules in place where they are needed.
Sigh.
No, but I thought I had to
No, but I thought I had to get the "picking on skids" badge before I could go for that one. Can I do them in parallel?
How old is the skid? My SD
How old is the skid? My SD was 12 when I met her. She was also an A/B student at that time (7th grade). I witnessed a great deal of this kind of crap and got told my "expectations were too high."
Now she's pushing 16 and flunking many classes with a truancy problem. Guess who just got religion on things like phone access? We do not yet know if she will even graduate. She seems to think it isn't important.
If you cannot enforce staying on task when they're younger and more pliable, expect to see dropout behavior when they're older. A huge part of the problem with sd is she's so far behind now she's given up on catching up. Couldn't see that coming, could we? Oh. Yeah. It's only visible in the Stepmother Dimension. Sheesh.
Sorry, 14. He has also 'used'
Sorry, 14.
He has also 'used' his homework as an excuse to get out of doing things on the weekend that he doesn't want to do. (Meaning he will purposefully go slow or "forget" something has to be done.)
And one time he convinced DH that he should bring his laptop from BMs to our house for the weekend because he needed it to do homework. Okay, I'm thinking, maybe he has a program on there (like Powerpoint or a drawing tool) that he started his homework in and lots of files. Nope, BM installed a game on it and he played the game all weekend. His homework was in Google Docs...that he has always accessed and used just fine through our computer. I talked to DH and told him it'd better not show up again.
He's not surly like my BS (the other 14yo), so DH seems to think that the skid isn't trying to manipulate him or a situation. Sigh.
SD's doppleganger. Don't
SD's doppleganger. Don't worry. When the first Fs show up your DH will be like Scooby, "Roaurggh??" and forgive and forget but when the 3rd and 4th crops of Fs show up you won't have to talk anymore. Waves of Fs speak for themselves.
Oh, that will never happen
Oh, that will never happen with super stealth black ops ninja helicopter BM in the picture. I foresee medications, tutors, an IEP, and her just outright doing his homework to 'help.'
You know? I actually think
You know? I actually think that might be better. At least he can go out into the world and put h.s. grad on his job applications.
Our BM actively enables SD to flunk. My fear is she won't graduate and no job will take her cuz how can you manage to not graduate high school?
Silly Wabbits. Skids are for twix. Or something. Sigh.
Pretty soon you will get the
Pretty soon you will get the "you just don't like my kids" badge and after that its' What do you have against my kids badge". I am so excited for you!!!! We'll have matching vests with our badges sewn in soon. eeekkk. girl squeal
I'll order my vest now!
I'll order my vest now! Yay!
They are bulletproof, right?
They come in very handy in
They come in very handy in Sleestack and Jade Helm attacks
Sleestacks!!!
Sleestacks!!!
But WAIT there's MORE!!!
But WAIT there's MORE!!!
"You treat(ed) my kids like pigs" (wow I have scars on my tongue)
"They're just kiiiiidddds"
"The teachers CATER to the smart ones" (just what are you saying here?)
"They're late bloomers just like me" (the jury is still out on that one--has been out for 47 yrs now)
Operators are standing by. . .
I already have badge #2 in
I already have badge #2 in your list. That was the first one I ever got.
Do you have the "but maybe we shouldn't have so many rules since they have less rules at BMs house" badge? Or the companion badge "it's just that they aren't used to following rules since they don't have any at BMs"?
dup stupid web filter!
dup stupid web filter!
The rules imposed on your SS
The rules imposed on your SS are similar to the rules imposed in our house. If they are violated, the consequences are similar to Robin Williams stand-up routine on describing cops in England. "HALT! Or I'll say HALT again!"
I read this at work and
I read this at work and nearly gave myself an aneurysm trying to hold in my laughter! That is EXACTLY how it goes.
Thank you. Now I have a nice little saying that will go off in my head every time something like that happens. The snarky part of me will be amused and I will smile, so my frustration will be hidden. Let's just hope that I don't break and say it out loud in an extremely sarcastic tone.