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My H insists on having separate bank accounts. I'm like whatevs， maybe its for the best. He pays the mortgage and buys the groceries and I use all my money I make on all the rest of the bills which is a lot and I barely or dont have enough each month and then my H will ask me to pay for his CC bill "because he doent have enough money" I figure I better pay for it so I do. But I just got a savings statement for SD in the mail and it shows he puts $400 in her account every month! WTH? why does he need to do that? and why does he give her so much money but never our DD we have toghther. I swear he favors his evil D over our DD ｗｅ ｈａｖｅ ｔｏｇｈｔｈｅｒ．
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WHAT?!?!?! Well, I think you
WHAT?!?!?! Well, I think you just paid hubby's last credit card bill, eh.
I agree with this. Split the
I agree with this. Split the joint expenses proportionally. Do not pay for things for his kid. That's his job. Also don't pay his credit card, that's his job.
How much are the mortgage and groceries compared to all the other bills? Would you be able to cover your percentage of joint expenses.
$400 per month for a kids saving plan is ridiculous. I would consider that only after
1. Paying all remaining consumer debt (credit cards, car loans) -in full, not just monthly payment
2. Maxing out both your retirements.
Cut off cable. Give up your
Cut off cable. Give up your landline. Do whatever you can to get YOUR portion of the expenses down.
He will get upset, of course. Then you can justify that you need to be able to put $400 a MONTH into an account for YOUR daughter as well so you need to tighten the belts.
Does he buy food especially for you or just all the household groceries?
If you guys are separating finances, this will be the PERFECT time to renegotiate the household bills. Make a spreadsheet of all the bills you both pay and show how it is unfair to you (and your daughter!!!).