Well, unfortunately, the deluded heifer never did tell SO the actual reason for the call..however..we did some sleuthing and have deduced this..

It wasn't an actual real emergency - if it was, then all partners would have been present to discuss and sort.

It wasn't school related. BM confirmed this.

BM is aware that we are about to move into a 3 bedroom home (from a 4 bedder). She knows that if we do this, we have more or less accepted that SD15 will no longer be coming over, and SO no longer tries to contact her...and..we believe this is the reason she contacted SO.

A couple of years ago, she did the same thing when SO and I were discussing moving in together. They met to discuss a parenting plan, which turned out to her giving him HER opinion on him and I moving our relationship forward. Back then, she felt perfectly justified in telling him how he should live his life. She told him not to move in with me as it would "not be in the kids best interests". Damn hypocritical piece of shit, she is (she moved in with her lesbian lover 2 years after dating). Needless to say, SO more or less told her to stick her opinions where th sun don't shine (and never, ever will).

So, apparently, she felt she could do the exact same thing when she learnt we were moving into a smaller place. She even told SO that SD15 wasn't aware of her contacting him. This tells us that she still believes SD has every right to dictate to her Father. She still supports SD's horrible attidue and lastly.. obviously doesn't give a shit that her intrusions will 'cause SO and I to fight. She also is of the opinion that SO needs to continuously crawl up SD's ass despite her horrible attitude and who cares if SO looks like a pathetic fool in front of SS and us.

The good news is - SO will never answer her calls again and will stick to insisting she email unless it is a real emergency. SO is pissed at her for trying to interject herself, yet again.

This bitch will now be shot down at each and every turn. If she continues to try and guilt him..then I guess I'm taking my "disengaging" gloves off and I will front the heifer and insist her partner be present so we could all see how she's trying to maniuplate SO, yet again.

and...we got approved for our new place and move next weekend. I'm over the moon and can't wait to start packing. This will send the strongest, clearest message to both BM and SD that we are moving on with our lives and they will no longer be allowed to manipulate or guilt trip SO any more! WOO HOO!!