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Submitted by msg1986 on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:36pm

Okay, so now that court has come and gone and Dh now has a court order I've had a few crazy thoughts/ideas. Tell me if I'm crazy...

So in the past Dh has never considered sharing the cost of school supplies for SS because Bm claimed Ss every year on her taxes and also because he did all the transportation. Now that Bm will be responsible for 1/2 the transportation and also Dh now being able to claim Ss every other year, is it crazy for me to bring up to Dh that he should probably start buying supplies/school clothes every other year/every year for Ss? In the past Bm has complained every year school starts because Dh refused to help her. Ss never went without of course because Bm would eventually break down and use CS for buy Ss his supplies. Now with all the changes though, I feel like it's the right thing to do... Thoughts?

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QueenBeau's picture

Submitted by QueenBeau on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:41pm

I think you should stay out of it & let your DH handle it. You're stressing yourself & wanting to stress him about a problem that may or may not even happen. BM may not ask. & if she does, your DH can consult with you & you can give him your opinion.

Just enjoy being in the calm after the storm.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:49pm

Agree!

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Submitted by msg1986 on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:50pm

lol it's funny you say that because I've been thinking about this a lot since court and when I read your comment I thought to myself "she's absolutely right, why am I worrying about this!?"

You have a great point. Thank you. I think I will take your advice and leave this up to Dh and see if he says anything.

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Submitted by QueenBeau on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:51pm

I understand. After a bunch of drama it's hard to get the whole situation off your mind. I regret spending so much time thinking about BM & CS & the drama.

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Submitted by QueenBeau on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:47pm

That's another thing. If he starts paying for them every other year, then next time in court if BM has proof he's been doing it, it can be added to the CO.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:49pm

I dont act that way in normal life, just step life. LOL. Isn't it sad how step life changes the way we do things?

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Submitted by msg1986 on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:53pm

They actually didn't agree to anything regarding school supplies.

I see what you're saying. The CS wasn't altered at all so Bm still receives a good amount of support. I'm being too nice... why am i being too nice?? wtf is wrong with me?? lol.

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:50pm

Stay out of it and leave it alone. It's about time some of these Bm's actually start taking care of their own damn kids, don't you agree?

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:56pm

LOL, seriously though! Like WTF?!?! I wouldn't dream of pawning off my responsibilities off just because it's "DAD'S" job to provide. Fuck that. My exH hasn't even met GB! His first GB! She is 6 months old and he hasn't met her ONCE???!!!!!
When I expressed my anger about it to DH his response was "She doesn't need him, just like BS17 doesn't need him."
Sad isn't it? And my BS17 has NEVER done without. As a matter of fact, BS17 has EVERYTHING he needs and then some, as does GB. Without a red cent in CS. The nerve of some of these women, I swear.

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Submitted by msg1986 on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:56pm

Unfreakingreal! lol!! I couldn't agree more!!! haha. It's funny you say that, in court Bm had the nerve to say that Dh shouldn't claim Ss because he only has Ss 104 days a year and thus he isn't dependent on Dh... Umm I guess Bm forgot she doesn't work and that her only income is what Dh pays and the health insurance that Ss has is paid for by Dh... geez.

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 3:01pm

Yes, it's like there is some unwritten rule somewhere that says a mothers job is only to carry the child for 9 months in her belly and then once the baby is out, the only responsible party is the father.
I don't get it!
I cursed out ExH one day and said "And the reason I took BC for 4 years without you knowing was because I knew that if I had a kid from you, I'd be stuck with not 2 but THREE kids without any fucking help whatsoever! You bamboozled me you piece of shit and I hate you for it. Thankfully, I've never needed a man to take care of me or my kids."

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Submitted by Sports Fan on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 2:55pm

I wouldn't pay anything that wasn't listed in the CO. Once you pay for something it sets a precedent and can be expected or ordered in the future.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 3:41pm

Time for a glass of wine. Unwind and not worry about issues for awhile. Forget about BM. Enjoy your hubby - sex, wine, cuddles. Smile