O/T SIL rant
My brother and I do not get a long...at all. We haven't spoken in a few years which kills me because it means I don't get to see my nieces and nephews. My mom occasionally tells me things going on with my brother.
My idiot brother is finally getting his life together. He's working and getting his bad debt paid and taking care of his wife and 4 kids without any government assistance.
My mom called me his wife took the two younger kids, she can't take the two older kids(Brother has custody from the last time she left) I told her to tell him to get them counseling. I do not understand why she keeps leaving them. She took their car, ALL of the kids clothes including the school uniforms for the two older kids. WTF is wrong with her? She said she left because my mom and my aunt are plotting against her...
I told mom to tell brother to file for custody of other two and ask for a psyche eval. He said she took them back to her home state. I told him to check residency requirements. In some states you have to live somewhere 30 days before you are considered a resident of that state.
I hate her.
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Why do you hate her? The
Why do you hate her? The woman is probably just sick and tired of your bother. Getting his life together now may be too little too late.
It's pretty sad that she didn't take all of the kids. To be honest, I would have left along time ago.
You know I would have left
You know I would have left long before now as well but she stuck around. She is also the one that introduced him to drugs and does not want him to work. He had a good job when they met she did not. After they had their first child, she would get mad because he would go to work and leave her at home all day with the baby. Her mother told me she is bi-polar but doesn't need meds. She just reminds me of the crazy BMs on this site. She took the only car they had which was in his name, took ALL of the kids clothes not just the clothes belonging to the kids she took. I'm mad she keeps leaving the older two. I can't imagine what that does to them. They are 6 and 4.
He and I don't have a good relationship because he was doing drugs and making crappy decisions. He borrowed money from me that I later found out was to buy drugs. He stole from my husband. I can't have that around my family. So I cut him off.
She is probably having
She is probably having similar problems with him that you did. Before you judge, learn more of the facts. Odds are good he is doing something to contribute to her leaving. No one is innocent.
I'm sort of baffled why
I'm sort of baffled why people are defending her, to be honest. She took 2 of her kids, but took the clothes for ALL of the kids, which tells me she's perfectly willing to use her kids as pawns to hurt her H. She also took 2 of her kids away from their dad, their siblings, and all of their friends by going to another state, and she apparently expressed some paranoid delusions about people "out to get her". It was a dick move, and it sounds like it's fueled by mental illness, how can anyone defend it? :? Sure, the OP might be lying and it didn't happen like that at all... but then why bother to read or respond to the post?
For me to defend him takes a
For me to defend him takes a lot. We don't get along because when I cut him off he was doing drugs and making other crappy decisions like stealing from my husband and using my mom's brain injury to steal her money.
Mom's says he's been clean 2 years now and had this job for nearly 2 years.
I'm not saying he didn't contribute to her leaving. I'm sure they had their problems like everyone else. But she could have just left. Or if she was going to take two of the kids just take their things not ALL of it. She would have taken all the money if he hadn't separated it. She took the grocery money.
Leaving two of the kids
Leaving two of the kids behind was crazy.
But hell, spending years with a man who can't /won't work to help support his family will make anyone crazy.
The fact that this family -with two able bodied adults- had to live off of government handouts is sick. Yeah, the woman is making some c razy moves, but I don't blame her for finally walking away. I would have been out the door the fist time I/he had to go beg for a handout.
Needing help when both adults are working and doing the best they can is one thing. Having to apply for help because your husband is a loser who lost his big boy pants is nuts.
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