Does anyone else deal with this?--need pointers
So this past week was our week with SS. After a day or two, he settled into the schedule. Everything went really great. No complaints. We even managed to finish his room (he loves it!)
However...
When I made SS's schedule, I added in "Call Mom at 6:00". Can I just say that it was like pulling teeth to get her to even answer the phone? This poor kid would call his mom multiple times, and when she'd finally answer, she'd put the baby on the phone. Mic and I weren't trying to pry, and we really tried to respect SS's privacy and all, but all we could hear was SS asking his 1 year old brother to stop screaming and pressing buttons. What's worse is that I think he spent more time talking to his brother than his mom. It's like she couldn't even be bothered to hardly talk to him, after he spent all this time just trying to get her to answer. Then, when she picked him up, she took him down to the shore (to compensate, I'm sure), and stuck him on a bunch of rides. Now, I know that SS had a ball, but Ms. Perfect had the baby with her, so it wasn't like she went on those rides with him or anything. Then yesterday, Mic calls and she's taking SS and his friend out to eat (yeah, at the time that the court specifically said he needs to be home to talk to his dad). Turns out he'd been playing with the friend all day and he was spending the night.
For the love of God, I just don't understand. She pawned him off down the street for dinner knowing she wasn't going to be seeing him all week before he came last week, then she couldn't be bothered to talk to him on the phone, and then she fixes him up with a friend so that she still won't actually have to spend any time with him almost immediately after he is returned to her care. I mean, if her bleeding money all over is her way of showing love, great- she can try to compete with us all day long...at least SS gets some fun out of it. But eventually money and dinner out, etc. is not going to fill the void of his mother's love. If it's all like that, all she has to do is say the word, and we'll take him full time. But it comes off like she doesn't want to be bothered with him, she just doesn't want Mic to be able to spend time with him.
What do we do?
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I kinda understand last week
I kinda understand last week was our first week with sd for this summer and the last night her mom had her she spent with a baby sitter while mommy and her boyfriend went "out" they were gone long enough that sd didn't get a bath because it was really late when mommy came to get her and the baby she was asleep. WTF I am sorry but expically the night before my boys go to there dads I try to spend a little extra time with them. Some parents just don't care.
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Bm does it too.
De inimico non loquaris sed cogities.
DH's bm has kept his son from him for a year and half now, we are headed back to court in hopes that by the grace of God and some understanding Judge, we can get her ass in line with all she has been doing. When we were allowed to see ss previously, it was not at the court ordered visitations...nnnoooo!!! It was only when bm decided that we could see him and that was usually when SHE had plans, like a vacation, a date ect. Of course dh always took any opprotunity she gave him with his son, but it so pissed me and dh off because she didnt and still doesnt give a crap about ss seeing his father, it is always about her.