Following on from last night's text regarding SS stealing I get a call while I am out today from DH to say BM rang this morning to discuss SS stealing and lying and what punishment shall be implemented at both households.He then mentions he has been looking at boarding schools to send SS to if his behaviour doesn't improve, I say "I'm at the check out now can we discuss continue this conversation this evening" DH says sure.I then get a copy of an e-mail he sent to BM this afternoon,basically a summary of their phone conversation from this morning & in the e-mail he says " I have been looking at boarding schools for SS if his behaviour does not improve " and then he copy pastes a link of a school.I hit the roof!Firstly if your kid is playing up you deal with it not ship him away -it's called parenting dumb ass!Secondly if SS gets sent off to boarding school that will be paid for fully by DH as BM can never afford anything -allegedly- & she would jump at the opportunity to have SS out of her hair while still collecting CS.Thirdly although DH is the primary breadwinner in this household what goes out of this household financially should be discussed by BOTH of us together as it affects BOTH of us.Please let me clarify before being advised to keep finances separately,earlier last year I had to significantly reduce my hours as my job is quite a distance from where we live,this was a joint decision when we commenced our first cycle of IVF.I had been looking for a post closer to home but am in quite a specialised field so where we live options are very limited.Furthermore my work has been very supportive during my IVF and are aware am commencing a new cycle shortly. So I am not in a financial position to split finances in half (this would not be a problem if I was working full time,at this stage it's a case of either work full time and give up on having a bio of my own (totally not an option for me) or do what we are doing now.