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SS9 pretending to be sick again

SMto3's picture

But I'm planning on doing what was suggested the last time I wrote about this which had worked at that time also. SO and I went food shopping this morning and when we got back at about one, SO laid down to take a nap before he starts his shift. Of course he gets a phone call from the school regarding SS9 saying he's sick. I told SO to ask the nurse if SS9 was vomiting, had diarrhea, a cough, a fever, active bleeding, or pain. SS9 says he vomited once in the bathroom. I told SO to leave him in school because it seemed like there was nothing seriously wrong with him. Plus SO leaves to work at about 230pm so I'm pretty much the one who has to deal with skid 1.5 hours earlier than I'm supposed to. For the sake of figuring out what is wrong with skid, SO decides to go pick him up.
Of course, skid gets home, I ask him what happened and he says "I don't know, I just didn't feel good. I went to the bathroom this morning and my teacher said I didn't look good and if I felt sick and I said yes so she sent me to the nurse. The nurse gave me medicine but it didn't work and I didn't feel good so I went back to the nurse and I asked her to call Daddy." in the pretend sick voice.
I said "well why didn't you feel good? Why didn't the medicine work? Do you have pain, did you have fever, what happened?"
He said " I vomited in the morning"....but I could tell it was bullshit.
So I said, "You remember the sick rules right?"
He goes, "I remember I got into big trouble the last time"
I said, "No, you're not in trouble and you didn't get in trouble last time. But when you're sick, no television, no games, no snacks, just soup and water, maybe apple or orange juice and you have to be in bed."
SO tells him, "Now go take a bath and get ready for bed" in a very nice tone.
When SS goes to shower, SO tells me, "no need to take it to another level or make him feel bad, just be consistent with the rules"
I told him, "if by taking it to another level you mean me not speaking with sarcasm in my voice, I can't do that right now. Obviously he's okay, which you see right? If he was vomitting, how come he's not continuing to vomit, why is there no diarrhea or pain or anything else going on? No, I can't speak in a nicey nice voice to him right now. If he was truly sick, I wouldn't do this and of course, I'd let him watch some television but he's not so he's just going to go through what he went through the last time". SO agreed and left to work.

I guess skid really fell asleep but gets up like an hour later and pours himself some Cap'n Crunch in a bowl with milk. I saw him taking a bite and go "oh no, no no! Your'e sick remember? You can't have this kind of stuff when you're vomitting, but you can have soup! Do you want soup?"

He nods yes, so I make him a cup noodles (which he likes). However, this skid loooooooves to eat and snack during the day, I usually make a home cooked meal now that I'm on maternity leave, but nope! Not cooking today! My brother is bringing me some chicken from his house, with mashed potatoes and biscuits. I would have shared with skids, but since SS9 has been so sick, unfortunately he can't have any. But he can still have some Cup Noodles!

After he did his homework, back to his room he went. I asked him for the iphone since he's not supposed to be using electronics because he should be getting as much rest as possible but of course, he "doesn't know where it is". I'm not going to push it. The day is still long so I'm sure he'll have a change of heart by say, 8pm?

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SMto3's picture

Sickness is definitely not black & white but this child has a history of pretending to be sick to get out of school. The last time he did it, I asked for advice here and learned how some parents and stepparents handle when the kids do this. It worked like a charm. By 8pm, he was apologizing and admitted to me that he had been lying about being sick. He's been here since 1:30pm, no fever, no pain, no diarrhea, no vomitting. Not enough for him to have called us to have him picked up from school. So in return, he gets to stay in his room and rest all day so that he can recuperate. I'm telling you, he's fine. So he has to learn that he can't do this.

SMto3's picture

Sorry about the migraines! One of my aunts and best friends suffer from migraines also so I'm familiar. Again, if he had said he had pain, totally different story. But I think the teacher may have accidentally asked him a leading question, not realizing how he was going to play into that. Unfortunately, it creates more work on us.

blueorblackink's picture

Annith, I have a base temperature of 96/97 as well. It's just so random that someone else does too.

LuckyGirl's picture

On a different note - one of our SD's did this. She was behind her class in math and reading - we put her into Kumon (google it Smile ) for both, and as her abilities improved, the sickness diminished.
At the end of year review, the teacher made a comment to my SO that "Oh yes she is doing better in class and the other children are not laughing at her anymore" WTF?? Turns out there were some Smart-ass kids that were laughing at her when they read aloud, or when she made a mistake in class. Bl**dy teacher had not thought to mention this before.
Part of it was fake but I also think part of it was anxiety manifesting in "stomach aches": she also has an underlying condition that can cause them.
Two years later it's not perfect but it's a LOT better.