Update on DH helping SD with homework and our DD being a smart A$%
So I blogged a few days ago about how SD12 is struggling and failing in a social studies class. She refused to ask me for help and would wait until DH got home to ask for help. Her idea of help was having DH give her the answers.
That caused an argument between DH and I. So after blogging here, I talked to DH again. I helped him understand and see that SD was using him to get answers and finally he is seeing it and so far he has stopped giving answers and just helping her find the answer herself and helping her understand the assignment. I told him that I thought she was actually doing work for all the hours in her room. I really thought she was, she had papers and books all spread out on her desk and "looked" busy. I guess it was a huge front. Ugh. Anyway..So the day after I blogged, I took it upon myself to check out her homework. She finally told me she needed help and I helped her with a math paper. I figured out the problems in my head and then asked her how she thinks it could be solved. After a few go arounds of "Uhhh Ummm, Hmmmm..Uhhhh" She got the idea that I wasn't going to give her the answer, but help her with strategies to get the answer on her own. While SD12 and I are at our kitchen table, DD8 walks in and is fussing about how she doesn't want to do her homework because she already knows the material. I tell her that homework is important and that if she thinks it's so easy then it shouldn't take long at all for her to finish it. She tells me that she doesn't want to do it and as she is saying this she notices SD12's math sheet and takes interest. We were kidding around and I told her if she doesn't like her homework then she could do SD's. As. A. Joke.
Our BD8 picks up the paper, grabs a scratch sheet and does the damn problem on the scratch paper. I was only joking with her and was hoping by showing her the difficult math SD is doing, dd would be happy with her own homework. Nope, it back fired on me. dd does the problem and hands the paper to me with a big ol' smug grin on her face. :jawdrop:
So, SD is finally doing her work on her own without DH giving her the answers and I've learned just how intelligent my little girl is. I knew she was quick and bright and how much she loves math and science, but I didn't know just how much she really knew.
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Man, she's got her big-girl
Man, she's got her big-girl smarty-pants on, doesn't she, lol!!!
I can see why she doesn't want to do her homework, hopefully you can get some guidance from her teacher for finding math that she does find challenging so she can get additional assignments.
The worst thing about public education is that there are other kids in the class, and set curricula, and only one teacher! I hope this one can help you keep DD challenged!!
Maybe it took an 8 year old
Maybe it took an 8 year old to show a 12 year old that math isn't impossible. Perhaps your daughters love of math with at the least inspire an interest in SD12.
Maybe. But it's not that SD12
Maybe. But it's not that SD12 can't figure out her homework in math, social studies, or English, it's that she doesn't want to do the work. SD has gotten away with playing dumb for a long time and DH is finally seeing it now. But, now that I am checking homework(SD hates it) maybe she will be more willing to actually do it on her own.
Brilliant !!!!! So is SD
Brilliant !!!!!
So is SD understanding the homework now that her sister showed her up ???
lol that wasn't supposed to
lol that wasn't supposed to happen. I seriously thought my 8 year old would see the 7th grade work and get stumped and think "Oh, my work is easier" but it back fired. I helped SD understand the work.
Is she learning common core
Is she learning common core math ???
Yes DD8 is...I'm not sure
Yes :? DD8 is...I'm not sure about SD, I guess since it's the same district that she is. Why???
I know my daughter is 10 n
I know my daughter is 10 n she is brilliant like your dd.
People in my area are in a stink about common core ~ they are boycotting it. I am profuse n my DF as well in math but something if the kid doesn't get it ~ they suffer big time.
I hope DD continues to
I hope DD continues to understand the math ideas that are being taught. I always struggled with math as a kid and was pushed through the grades every year and I am big on helping the kids learn basic math concepts early so they don't struggle like I did. In 3rd grade I remember we were supposed to know our basic multiplication facts through the 12's. SD says she "never was taught past her 8's because of the teachers." So, at 12 SD doesnt know her tables past 6 or 7. :?
TBH, my dad was a math
TBH, my dad was a math teacher and had me recite multiplication tables for hours for at least one school year. I still don't know them. I now know I have dyscalculia - including my complete unawareness of my place on the space-time continuum.
My husband is a walking map/GPS. He thinks it's hilarious to ask me if I recognize where we are. Half the time I think I do, but I'll get the city wrong lol!
Funny my kids learned their
Funny my kids learned their times tables from watching school house rock videos. Remember those ??? Or an I showing my age.
I just worry about kids with math ~ as it all is a building block to the next thing. Not all kids learn the same way. My youngest can add n multiply n divide in her head. Simply amazing. She is so into it as well ~ if they come home with an awesome grade ~ that's the most amazing feeling for them.
Just make sure it does not
Just make sure it does not make SD feel stupid. Ex-SD13 is a super brain, ex-SD15 is dyslexic. When they were 8 and 10-ish we had to separate them for homework as the younger would try and help the older (in a non-malicious way) but it upset the older one so much and made her feel incompetent. For a while she gave up, but by all accounts she is doing well now.
My BS7 is a math genius, I keep pushing him at home as right now school does not challenge him at all. I wish they would concentrate on reading and writing with him (where he is struggling) and give the math a rest, that is what sucks about a group setting! Having said that, he lucked out with his teacher this year (2 years out of school, young and bubbly, reading specialist) and he is coming on leaps and bounds! We also suffered as ex told him he was stupid, so this summer he shut down (not motivated by negativity), but he is back to enjoying it now.
Good for your DD! Keep encouraging her, just be aware of pitfalls. I was a straight A student, and my younger sister says now she never bothered with school as she was not the academic one, and even though my parents praised her etc she always felt there was no point trying as her B work could never compare to me. I never realized that growing up.
I have thought about that and
I have thought about that and my joking was in no way to make SD feel dumb. At all. DD is very brainy and DH and I struggle with report cards. DD gets all A's and SD usually gets C's and D's. But, I have noticed it wasn't because SD couldn't figure it out, it was BM(while SD lived with her until 2012) never pushed homework. BM didn't care about her kids doing good in school, BM cared about SD doing soccer. As long as SD did good at soccer, BM was happy. All that has changed since DH got custody, school is #1 in our home and SD is still struggling with that idea 2 years later.