Money Grabbing BM
Know what really pisses me off?? BM hounded DH for CS before it was even due, and as soon as he paid it, BM and her husband went to Niagara Falls for the weekend. Didn't even bring SD. That money is called CHILD SUPPORT for a reason. And her husband was laid off two months ago, so I guess it's a pretty good idea to go on vacation. We can't even afford a vacation and here they are just using CS like it's luxury money. How do they even get away with that?? She makes me SO mad...I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire. Rant over.
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Ugh...he didn't pay it early.
Ugh...he didn't pay it early. He paid it on time...she was just desperately waiting for it so they could have a nice weekend away, that's what the hounding was about. I hate her. They should have stricter surveillance on CS money for real.
I feel ya. We go through the
I feel ya.
We go through the same thing. BM doesn't even try to hide the fact that she uses CS to maintain a lifestyle she can't otherwise afford. She thinks DH "deserves" it for leaving her. It's sick. I can't wait until skids are older. Oh you want a car? Maybe we could have helped you with that but BM gets all the money. Oh college? Too bad we can't help you out with that either. Those are still luxuries in my book but DH could have done both by now if he hadn't been flushing the money down the toilet (giving it to BM). I'd be happy to see it spent on real needs at this point.
Yep, it's like what can you
Yep, it's like what can you even do? Nothing...just shake your head. I'm going to get whiplash from this crazy lady.
But, the skids NEED BM to go
But, the skids NEED BM to go on vacations and get her nails done! How can she be MOTY without those things?!?!?
Oh shit...I forgot about
Oh shit...I forgot about that. I'm just a shitty mom with my normal nails and stuff, so sometimes I don't think of these things! Lol
Oh man! I tell you it was the
Oh man! I tell you it was the most satisfying thing EVER when my husband and I won custody of my SD. Literally 2 months after the change and CS stopped coming to BM she lost her car, then 2 months after that she, her boyfriend and BM's 2 other kids lost their house and had to move into a low-income apartment complex. OH and 4 months after losing CS (and the financial assistance running out from her 3rd kid, in CA you only get 4 years per kid) she is now pregnant again and due this month. All so she can hold onto the "stay at home mother" persona even though we know all she and her boyfriend do is play video games.
I know this would happen to
I know this would happen to BM. She works so she wouldn't be totally screwed if she just lived within her means. I can't wait to see her lose her house.
It really was so wonderful to
It really was so wonderful to see mainly because the car she lost, was the same one she bought 1 month after the CS payments were increased. (Ya know, she popped out kid #3 and filed for more $$ from my DH).
I totally get your
I totally get your frustration. My SD's BM works part time making minimum wage. After she moved in with her BF and no longer had living expenses, she blatantly bought a quad cab Denali truck with the $1500/month CS she gets from DH. Then she has the nerve to constantly ask for more money because she can't afford swimming lessons or Girl Guides. If SD asks for help paying for a car or anything when she's older, we will most definitely tell her to ask BM where her money went.
Oh I'm 100% with you on that
Oh I'm 100% with you on that one. BM just bought a brand new GMC Acadian, they just built a brand new house...the list goes on and on. If SD has any brains at all she will automatically go to her mother for a car before she'll come to us because it's quite apparent that they have the money to spend (not).
A lot of people certainly can
A lot of people certainly can put up appearances.
This weekend SD kept telling me all the things that "Mommy wants". "Mommy wants to build a big new house like this one (ours)." "Mommy wants new furniture." Etc. I kept thinking "Mommy better work a little more then."
Rant away!! Unfortunately
Rant away!! Unfortunately you're in good company. SO pays 2250 a month. We are scraping by, no vacations here. I have to figure out when I can grocery shop and coordinate what gets paid when.
And BM is losing her house. I'm not sure how you lose your house working full time and collecting that amount for two kids. It should make me feel better but according to an attorney we spoke to she'll most likely take him back for more when she is forced to move and pay rent....and she will probably win more money. It's disgusting.
The whole damn system is
The whole damn system is flawed. After going through what my DH and I went through, we now have people from his work asking us for help with their cases. It always will be an uphill battle because for some unknown reason the court systems pity the mothers and their "struggles" and never the fathers.