I went from being married to a man, with no children, to overnight, being separated from that man, and living with a woman with 4 kids, 12,000 miles away from that man....how does that happen you ask? I came out to my mother as a lesbian (well, bi, because I thought that would break it to her easier) when I was 15. She was less than thrilled to say the least, started crying and carted me off to a pastor to "pray away the gay". For those of you that may stick to that "logic", I will be the first one to tell you that it doesn't work....but because I did not want to be sent away (that was her threat at the time), I told her it was just a phase, and went back into the closet for 15 years. I married a man, because that was what I was supposed to do, and after 8 years of doing what he wanted, when he wanted, while he played video games for 18 hours a day, I decided that I needed to make myself happy...so I got online and found a support group for bi/lesbian women. I wasn't going on there to meet anyone, just for support. I ended up meeting Jess, and I fell in love, hard....I decided that I was going to leave my husband, and fly 12,000 to be with her, and her 4 kids, E (boy) 9, AJ (boy) 7, A (girl) almost 3, and J (boy), almost 2...I have been involved with the family since J was 4 months old....