I have this compulsive need to plan everything in advance. I was asking DH about the fall schedule. DS is starting kindergarten and wants to ride the bus so either of us could get him on the bus in the morning but I would have to send him to the Y after school. DH told me that SS would have football practice until 520 in the evening and if he couldn't pick him up would I? I said that I would. DH then says that BM wants us to bring him to her house on her days. I said he could if he wanted to but I would do no such thing. I need to get home and make sure the kids get their chores and homework done and get dinner started. I will not disrupt MY son's schedule because she CHOOSES to have an overnight schedule and can't pick up her kid after the practice session of a sport that she is so adamant that he play. I also said that I didn't understand why SS just didn't stay with us since his mother goes to work at 5pm and his stepdad drops him off at our house around 7am to catch the bus.

I'm all for SS staying with his mom 50% of the time. Despite the fact I think BM is a POS, it's still his mom and I think he should see her. But he really wouldn't be seeing her.

I also think that if she insists on him being at her house on her days then her DH can come pick him up after SS is done with his homework because no one at that house makes sure he does it and it's a big part of why SS almost failed 6th grade. So he won't be going to her house until 7pm.

I'm all for coparenting and working together for SS but I always feel like we are always doing ALL of the work. While I was writing this DH texts me and says "You know that math thing SS is doing this summer? BM can't do the drop off or pick up and wants us to do it." Well great I can drop him off at 7:30 but I can't always get him 1:30. I told DH he better figure it out.