I'm so sorry live.fate!

I don't know what I would do in this situation as I'm sure it is devastating. Here you are loving your baby unconditionally and wanting to share that with his father and he admits that he just doesn't feel that.

There is no right answer here. I guess if I were in your shoes I would try to be grateful that at least your DH is getting counseling with you and he did admit this, which I'm sure was not an easy thing to say and if he is anything shy of a sociopath has his own guilty feelings about that. Do you think he would have admitted that if he didn't want to figure out a way to make things work?

Now that you have this devastating information what do you do with it? You're a mother now, you do what is best for your child. If you could handle it, I wonder if some separation would be a good route to go. Do you have someone you could stay with temporarily? I strongly believe that separation often brings clarity. What if you do a six month trial separation? At the best, your DH will miss you like crazy, realize how much you do, miss your child, feel like he is missing out on your child and you guys can find your intimacy again with some clarity on both sides. At the worst, he realizes and you realize that you are fine without each other and that it is over. At least now you know and you didn't waste years of your life and your DS's life trying to make something work that wasn't going to?