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Lost my cool and sent a text to BM......

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 2:30pm

I should have posted here first so ya'll could talk some sense back into me, but I didn't. Sad

Oh well, it doesn't matter.....she will just ignore them anyway since she likes to pretend I don't exist. Or she will text my husband and he will get mad at me for losing my cool but I don't care about that anymore either. I'm not wrong, she is. And someone needs to let her know that what she's doing isn't OK.

I actually feel a little bit better after doing it but I'm so tired of this crap. Three.....More.....Years.

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 2:46pm

Oh I know, and you're right.

But it's tough balancing up here on the high road for years at a time without faltering. I'll jump back up there and carry on for the next 5 years hopefully without falling off again. Smile

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 2:44pm

Nothing that wasn't true.

Basically, good parents don't hurt their children and if you want nice things, perhaps you should get a job so you can buy them.

Almost that nicely too. Smile

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Submitted by PleasantEnough on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 2:51pm

Sounds to me like you just told her what she needed to hear. BUT it did come from "the other woman" sooooo it pretty much went in one ear and right back out the other.

broke.lost is right - I used to get BM sooo mad...after DH filed for custody, she would send all types of crazy texts and I would just respond with "okay", "that's funny", "hope that works for you" etc. Just plain ol smart ass small comments that didn't give her any ammo on my end! Bahahaha! One time I just sent her a response that was a smiley face and telling her to have a nice day! I could feel the heat when I sent that one! Hahahaha, its making me chuckle now. Ahhhh the good ol days!

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 3:00pm

I've actually never done this before. And when we were in court she did text and call me incessantly ya couple of times and I just never responded or told her to contact my DH directly.

Not sure why I lot it this time. I'm just tired of seeing my SD hurt and crying at the hands of her own mother.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 3:06pm

I have done it occasionally. Not proud of it. But, when my SD did something and then BM didn't support us on it, I was done. I sent off a venomous text and followed with a long email about every bullshit thing my SD did to us. She never responded and I even acknowledge she would because she knew I was right. Her response was an email to my husband telling him she knows we don't agree with her parenting style, but she is doing the best she can.

BS and then he doesn't reply to her.

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Submitted by cfmommyof3 on Tue, 05/27/2014 - 5:50pm

oh boy...I will admit I have been really guilty of this in the past. I never did it as myself though. HD and I share a cell phone (we have a house phone we use for everyday use and a pay by day cell for texts and such since we get such crap service where we live). At times she has suspected it was me texting her back but she cant prove it. DH always knows after I do it and has only gotten pissed twice but that was a time ago. Now I usually do the texting back but only word for word what he tells me to (I have much smaller fingers than he does and can text much faster) and we only respond if its an emergency or to talk about a possible schedule change and even with the schedule thing it depends on how stupid she is being. It felt good to rage at her a couple times but looking back on it I was actually so much more stressed and had the adrenaline going so high that I realize short simple responses or none at all are best. She gets pissed and mouthy and text happy and we sit here with much less stress laughing at her.