Is This a "MAN" Thing or What? --Added a Few More
1. Never checking items we already have in the pantry, therefore buying duplicate items (several bottles of the same thing in the cupboard) I am FOREVER trying to consolidate condiments etc.
2. Having several boxes of stuff opened without finishing the first (similar to item 1)
3. When cooking, making HUGE batches of food that we'll never eat even if we freeze (WTF???)
4. Making an extreme mess especially on one of the unfinished counters (don't ask)
--akin to not using cutting boards, coasters or spoon rests
5. Not using the right tool for the right job (using my cake baking tins for broiler racks) (again WTF?? would it be ok if I used your hammer drill to pry off a jar lid?)
6. Slamming and banging doors in the kitchen (possibly due to all the booze consumed)
7. NEVER putting kitchen utensils back in their proper places but saying the kitchen needs "re-organizing" instead (remind me again, how LONG have you lived in this house for? almost 8 years?)
8. NEVER writing things down on the white board when we run out of stuff-as though I have a bar code microchip in each item that "phones home" when you either a. throw out the empty or b. put the empty container back for the next unsuspecting victim (me)
9. Handing me an item to "take care of" when clearly both of my hands are full--I'm supposed to drop everything to take care of your errand?
10. (Related to item 9) Expecting me to drop doing what I was in the middle of to come "help" him do some sort of grunt work. (really?)
11. When shopping with me he'll take off in front of me; at the cash register, he'll leave me to pay and take off to get a "head start" on loading things into the truck. He leaves me with one of the carts to push over to the truck as well.
12. Has ZERO concept of what things cost. I often ask "how much does/did this cost?" He'll just shrug and say "I dunno." He just grabs things at the store without looking for value--Probably why he is constantly overdrawing because he can't/won't keep a running balance in his head.
13. When bartering his services, he'll WAY over pay the other guy for his services. Example: He'll go out in the middle of the night to fix a guy's heat in exchange for a few dumploads of dirt and spreading it around with a bulldozer. He'll then PAY the guy for the dirt, pay for his diesel ($45 a day) and throw in a $300 plow off of a plow truck he wants to sell (ARRGHHH!!!) He's ended up giving things away for FREE because he can't barter properly and getting nothing in return. I think guys see him coming down the street a mile away!!!
14. BLASTS the stereo when he's drunk (which is every night) My poor fur babies!!! He'll also listen to the same song over and over and over and over like some sort of TEENAGER!!
I think I've already covered the INCESSANT bragging about every excrutiating minutia of the things he "does" around the house and expecting subsequent and immediate praise.
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Oh, I'm not talking about
Oh, I'm not talking about buying stuff on SALE!! I do that all the time and stock up. I'm talking about buying MUSTARD at FULL RETAIL PRICE when we have PLENTY of mustard already in the frig.
Right! My kitchen is MY
Right! My kitchen is MY realm! Biodad fancies himself a chef--he give homage to his deceased father who was a GREAT COOK (roll eyes) and thinks of himself as "channeling" him (roll eyes)
I leave him to the new two story garage. It's 24 x 36 and STILL looks like a BOMB went off in his work area. Now granted my work area at work looks a little junky. I fix computers and invariably have computer parts spread out, but he just piles stuff up for WEEKS and never puts anything back--I leave all that alone, but when he comes into the kitchen and tries to do that, I get aggrevated.
We went to a cooking class
We went to a cooking class together at the local culinary institute (a present from bioson and his GF)
For all his big bragging "chefdom" he was a timid little mouse there. All he cared about was getting wine from the bar. He actually stood back and fell into the role of "assistant." I have some knife skills and was chopping up all the ingredients for the Pad Thai while he was bumbling around looking for utensils!!
I'm sending him to a Father's Day cooking class with "man food" Just him and his work colleague. I think he wants me to go! Hell NO! It will be a wonderful few hours without him!!
1. A couple of times yes.
1. A couple of times yes. Never? No. DW and I actually do a pretty decent job of taking inventory. We got a grocery app on our cells that is basically a shared file. It really helps!
2. Egads no. Never.
3. I used to, but I don't anymore. I usually try to make enough that will fill everyone up and have enough left over for my lunch the next day.
4. Always, always, ALWAYS use clean cutting boards when cooking (Mom taught me well)
5. No. I'm an engineer. Using the right tool for the job is kinda in my job description.
6. Never...
7. DW is the one that wants to "re-organize". Okay, she may have a point, but she should probably stop buying kitchen utensils before we decide to re-organize.
8. LOL! We have a whiteboard, but it is pretty much useless. Writing things on there would be as effective as writing it down underneath the bedroom mattress. No one is going to look there.
9. Nah, I prefer taking care of my own sh*t anyways.
10. Not unless it was an emergency.
What grocery app do you use?
What grocery app do you use? I have tried a couple of different ones that I ended up deleting, if there is one out there that is "shared" I would LOVE that.
"Our
"Our Groceries"
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.headcode.ourgroceries
For a free app, it's great and the sharing feature is a big plus. DW giggles when I use it, because I cross items off on the list while I am shopping. She says she can tell exactly what aisle I'm in.
Well I don't trust DH to buy
Well I don't trust DH to buy groceries alone but I'm gonna have to look this one up thanks!!
Heh. Well I don't trust
Heh. Well I don't trust myself when I go grocery shopping, especially when I am hungry...Stick to the list! Anything not on the list isn't bought!
I'll have to check this one
I'll have to check this one out!
I'm guilty of 1 & 8. I have
I'm guilty of 1 & 8. I have enough bottles of syrup to host a pancake breakfast for the city.
I keep saying, "We should write stuff down when we run out of it." Neither of us do.
My husband grocery shops like money is no object. Pisses.me.off.
A lot of couples have that deal, "you cook, I'll clean." There is no way in hell I will clean the kitchen after he cooks. I will re-clean it after HE cleans it, though.
Putting stuff away? If he unloads the dishwasher, I need a map from him showing where things are. I ask him, "How long have you lived here?" Of course, he doesn't know that, either.
OH yeah, he's attempted to
OH yeah, he's attempted to unload the dishwasher and an item that was not cleaned is put back!! Also the WAY he loads the dishwasher. I took a photo LITERALLY of how awful it was. Stuff just piled/thrown in!!!
Almost the ONLY time we go
Almost the ONLY time we go shopping together is at the Big Box home improvement stores. The store card is in my name. I have to keep an eye on things to make sure costs don't get out of hand.
Invariably every Friday after he gets paid, he trots off to the high end (and high priced) grocery store which has won awards for being high in culinary excellence and just grabs stuff he thinks he likes (not what we NEED). Steak at $18 a lb? No prob. Scallops at $22 a lb? Not to worry. And just spends up a storm paying full retail using his debit card that he doesn't keep track of. By Monday when the "rent" automatically withdraws from his account to mine, I get that call. . . "Babe, I won't have enough to cover the deposit***; can you put $50 back into my account?" :barf:
He REFUSES to deal with cash aka the envelope system. "Too awkward" he says and He got all hostile saying "I'm a GROWN MAN and NO ONE is going to tell ME how to spend MY money!!" (no one but NYS and the BM) Then the booze which adds up to probably $50-75 a week.
I shop either online or at the local generic grocery stores to get the best quality for the least amount of money. Not him.
If I bring up, however nicely, the fact that he would have money to cover if he wasn't spending it all on fancy food and booze, he flies off into a rage. VERY thin skinned and doesn't take criticism at ALL (that's why I vent here)
*** I should note that he thinks the "rent" is his savings plan not to be used for household bills. HA!!
>Then the booze which adds up
>Then the booze which adds up to probably $50-75 a week.<
The hell!?!? What's he buying!? VSOP Cognac?
DW and I pay maybe that much a month and our wine and a beer fridge is always fully stocked.
Conservatively 10 beers a day
Conservatively 10 beers a day plus 3 shots of bourbon a night. He goes through a 750 ML in about 4-6 days.
And NO he is not an alcoholic sayeth he.
It was funny travelling to Wisconsin with him. Right around 4pm in Indiana, he was desperate for alcohol and was running around like a guy on fire trying to find some booze (they have different booze regs in Indiana than in New York)
He couldn't stop trashing Indiana for not selling cold beer in their convenience stores!!!
I do not have a man right
I do not have a man right now, but my ex was a hoarder (we had one 20x15 room that was filled floor to ceiling with piles of old newspapers, papers etc) and would never throw anything away. He would go nuts if I did. He always thought we might "need" it later - problem being, even if we did we could never find anything! So now, my little apt is so organized! I have very little and have to resist the urge to declutter constantly! Poor BS7 goes from one extreme to the other, so I have toned it right down, but he has no concept of mess due to his dad!