BM, Still an Ignorant Slut
So, let's see. Last night was one of BM's Court Ordered phone calls with SS14. These two times a week are when she is allowed to contact our home since DH has a restraining order against her.
Now... she's an idiot, has no control over the situation, so she tries to use it as a time to create conflict, yet again.
So the order states that she is allowed to call between 7 and 8 on Mon and Wed evening. Somehow in her mind she will interpret it to read that SS is supposed to call her at 7 on the dot. Or she will interpret it to mean that the phone call is supposed to last for on full hour. She is a pot smoking drunk though and has been told by the police on other occasions that that's not what it says.
So last night at 7:10 DH gets a text message on his phone saying, "it's 7:10. I guess I'm going to have to call the police". DH and I were actually napping until about 7:30 so when he woke up and saw the text he went to check with SS to see if he spoke with his mom yet. He had.
Now mind you, the only phone number she has is DH's cell phone. She will usually call that if SS doesn't call her from the house phone - which she is blocked from calling. And again, even though SS tries to be proactive and call HER, that is not what the order says or was meant to address.
Such an idiot.
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Right!!!! BM is crazy! I
Right!!!!
BM is crazy! I think I said the same thing to DH last night, "I wonder what the police say to her when she goes down there"
BM - My son hasn't called
911 - OK, well let me see the order.... this says YOU are to call HIM... did you call him?
BM - No... but that's because... my exH won't let me talk to him
911 - Ma'am, if you haven't attempted to call him, then there's nothing we can do here
BM - OK, oh wait. that's my son calling on the other line. I 'll call you back so I can finalize my report
She will text or call. The
She will text or call.
The order states that BM is allowed to call. It is the one exception to the Restraining Order where she is allowed to make contact.
It really depends on her mood. Right now she is pissed because the DA contacted her about her breaking the restraining order. She has no power so she tries to cause trouble.
She's lame.
I know. The woman is
I know. The woman is ridiculous.
"allowed to call" - how does that mean that SS must call her?
She has the poor kid convinced though. Oh, and many times when he calls, she won't even answer. He'll call her over and over. We usually just encourage him to wait till she texts or calls so he knows she's ready otherwise he's sitting there calling and calling like a miserable little puppy.
Like a teen girl who is mad
Like a teen girl who is mad at her boyfriend for something so won't pick up the phone. How sickening.
HI ignores everything that
HI ignores everything that comes from her direction.
He totally does. And if you
He totally does.
And if you all remember, when he had his little girlfriend a few months back he would text this girl incessantly, ask her why she likes him, tell her he loves her and then after they broke up, SS was getting in trouble from the school because he kept staring at her or following her. The girl even told the teacher that he was making her uncomfortable.
His mother has trained him to have woman/mommy issues for the rest of his life. He's broken.
I hope you're right. DH and I
I hope you're right. DH and I also think we show the kids a very healthy, loving relationship and family life.
But... SS has been dealing with BM for a long time and has been her caretaker on many occasion. DH has taught him to lie to his mother as to not cause her to flare up. I explained to DH that that was not the way to teach SS how to deal with people. That that is actually extremely co-dependant behavior and should NOT be the way he teaches SS.
So DH has adjusted but a lot has been done and learned already. I want to get him back into counseling but SS thinks counseling is dumb...and doesn't understand how talking will help "change" his mother or his situation.
Sigh... I try to explain it's not about changing things outside of your control but how you deal with it and carry on in life.
ANd yes, he's very scared of
ANd yes, he's very scared of her response.
I mentioned last week that he came down during his call with her, crying saying that she was going to call the cops if he got off the phone.
Oh yes. Mommy was very proud
Oh yes. Mommy was very proud that her baby boy had a GF. She took him to the mall on her weekend and bought about $50 worth of Xmas gifts for SS to give to the girl. This was right before the girl broke up with him...
Stage 5 Clinger anyone?