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I quit.. The "mini-wife" can have him!!!

Luvthepolice's picture

:jawdrop: well H came in from out of town last night. He kept asking me what was wrong and I told him it had to wait until morning. Well I talked to him about SD12 being way to damn clingy. Even pointed out how she come in between him and I when we are trying to touch hold hand hug anything.. But he says nothing.. So I go on to how this looks to my family and the looks we get in public. He says I can't tell my baby to just get away from me! Then he ask me if it was my 14 year old doing the same thing to me would I tell her to stop.. All that took was a look.. Well hell yes I would make her stop.. It would have never got to that point!! I was taught to raise my kids to be responsible adults.. We will not be around forever to hold their hands and coddle them!! They have to know how to survive on their on.. But I guess we will go our separate ways and he can raise his anyway he wants... But me and my children will not have a front row seat to the freak show!!!!!!!

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Luvthepolice's picture

He is living at my house and has his house rented out.. He said he wants to talk more after I told him that he would have to leave by this weekend. So unless he can tell his little baby that she needs rules and boundaries, he is leaving. If my children have rules, chores and a bedtime, his precious little baby can! And clinging to him like a toddler will have to stop!!

Luvthepolice's picture

Read my other blog.. The way my SD12 clingys to her precious daddy is awful and he just thinks it's ok.. I think it's disturbing and aggravating!!!!

Luvthepolice's picture

She clings onto him in public.. At home she sits everywhere he sits.. If he tries to hug me, hold me hand she will get in between us.. The entire time we have her I can't get near him. So if he is ok with this then he can deal with it.. I may try to disengage to show him how that will feel.. I was a little jumpy and making him move.. He will have to get the renters out of his house.. So until then the weekends she is there I will stay in my bedroom with a good book and the helpful woman from this site.. That way she can have her ddaaddddyyy all to herself.. I will not cook, clean or go anywhere with them!!!

luchay's picture

A few months after we moved in together sd(then)11 told me "I love it when you go out with DD's early on Saturday mornings because I take your place in bed with my daddy!"

That was the last day THAT happened!

OH and I sleep naked, I leave the house early on Saturdays so he is still dead to the world, we f*ck on those sheets and she's crawling into MY place and snuggling in with her naked daddy where just hours ago I was? NO WAY BUDDY.

He saw nothing wrong with it "when I realise she's there I put on shorts!"

Still HELL NO!

And yes, it was all about letting me know she's peeing on her daddy so to speak.

Not the Brady Bunch's picture

You should have said, "So when do you realize she is there? When she grabs your penis?!" LOL Sorry! Couldn't resist.

Since you shared your gross story. I will share mine. We have two large dogs and 1 little. The bigs dogs will sometimes stand under tall legs. So you have to use your imagination on this one, ladies! The one dog has her shoulders and head out SO's front, and he is scratching its ear. We are all in the kitchen with big picture window out back hill overlooking opposite neighborhood. SDthen12 gets on her knees and starts petting dog (it is getting daddy's attention, you see), then she leans her face in and starts giving dog's nose little pecky, chicken-like kisses! Do you have the visual!? I put my hand over my mouth and say quite loudly to SO, "Do you know how that looks?!" He gets angry and tells me I have a dirty mind, which by the way, No I do not. Bllllaaaaaaaaaah! Hope the neighbors weren't watching, they would have called CPS not knowing what the hell was happening!

luchay's picture

I just spit my coffee out! LMAO when she grabs your penis!!!

I was just utterly horrified but the whole thing, I did recognise it even then as an attempt to get at me, so I didn't react AT ALL to her, just said "that's nice" or something and carried on with what I was doing.

OH did cop it later - and of course *I* was the sick twisted one for seeing anything other than innocent daddy/daughter time. OMFG.

The ONLY thing that stopped it (he saw NOTHING wrong with it, "it's NORMAL for SOME parents to snuggle and share a bed with their kids!" Like me not co-sleeping with my kids made me such a bad parent, heck when they were 3 snuggling in the mornings was fun, at 11? My dd11 wouldn't dream of it! Anyway, the only thing that stopped it was me saying "that is MY personal space and NO kids are allowed in it! Think about what a mess we left on the sheets just hours earlier? Do you really want your "baby girl" laying in THAT? And just absolutely forbade it." I also took to leaving sexy underwear and my vibrator on the bedside table or laying around }:)

Yes, I can see it, and OMG - but how funny for the neighbours!!! :sick: :sick:

Luvthepolice's picture

He just told me that the 3 months we split up SD12 slept with him.. All I could say was WTF!!! He said well I could make her sleep alone on the couch and she is used to sleeping with her mom!! Holy fucking shit!!!!!!!!!!!! Like I said before he can raise her how ever they see sickly fit.. But as for me and my kids we will not have a front row seat to the damn freak show!! Then they can all just keep getting even more obese together.. While me and my bios keep our six packs!! So done!!!!!!

Bio-Step-Mom's picture

SD and BS are the same age. When I point out that he would flip his shit if BS14 did the things to me that SD does to him (stand between us and announce "I'm jealous". Interrupt us while talking to hug daddy. Ask "where's mine" if DH buys me something, etc)!

And he calls SD babe and me babe. So I dont' answer when he calls me babe. And sometimes just to piss him off I call BS 'babe' and watch him roll his eyes.

Men are stupid.

I'm kidding. Partially.

Not the Brady Bunch's picture

^^^^nhbmof3smof2^^^ BIG A' FIGHT! Me too! Only it was also skid's therapist who set SO and skid(then 13) straight! I couldn't do it alone! Sad Sometimes ignoring it LTP isn't enough!

Come on ladies…LTP needs ideas on how to train daddy to drop the mini-wife co-dependency NOW in the early stages of their relationship. Be prepared. …many here will say change the locks when he leaves and good riddance!

Neither answer is right or wrong…kick him out or re-train the man, if possible. Neither is painless, but they are two different paths to your future.

Luvthepolice's picture

My sisters just told me to start videoing them in public and the looks they get! And that is a great idea.. We are not supposed to have her this weekend but I am going to suggest that he gets her... Every time she touches him I wil wrap around him.. I will snuggle up to him on the couch.. Everything she does to us! Plus I have a plan for Saturday.. Since we are racing I am going to tell him that we will go back to his house (his best fiend is renting it and that's where he stayed while we were split up).. That way we don't have to take the race car back to the shop Sunday... And since he has been letting her sleep in the flor beside his bed I am going to tell her she can sleep in the floor beside her dad's bed and I am going to sleep on the couch so his friends can see all of this;-)... Let's see how his buddies react!! I will let everyone know how it turns out!

IslandGal's picture

Can't wait to read the update!! Please please let us know what happened!!

Not the Brady Bunch's picture

Since you decided you are "in", then you go GIRL! His friends will definitely wonder what is wrong with him. Just make it clear to them that you are not the weird one here, it is the dynamic duo!