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rowevalo's picture

Hello everyone!

I wanted to share this with everyone to get an outside opinion of some things happening with my ex husband and his wife. Thanks to anybody who can help!

I've been divorced for 10 years. My ex husband has been with his wife for 10 years but they just recently got married about 2 years ago. Since my ex and I split they have continued to have contact with my family to the point that it is creepy. It is so weird because even before she got with my ex she has always wanted to be like me. She was even thinking about joining the military because I had joined. Since she has gotten with my ex she does things just to try to take my place. Since I don't live in the same city due to the military it is her perfect opportunity to try and build a wedge in between me and my family. Initially, my family went around them so they could see my son more often when he visited his dad. But all him and his wife did was talk bad about me to them. Most of them quit going around for this reason and yet they still try to always hang out with them. My ex husband always tries fighting with me and when I asked him why he stated "I enjoy fighting with you. I'm sorry, I know it's not healthy". I think he is still in love with me and she is jealous of me and that is why they are trying to hold on to my family. Some of my family still goes over there and to me I just don't feel like that should be ok since all they do is bad mouth me, especially in front of my son. We were both at fault in the marriage, I take my share of the responsibility, but I do not talk bad about my ex in front of my son. I don't want to give my family an ultimatum, but I also don't like what is going on either. Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! Smile :? :? :?

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furkidsforme's picture

Have you been direct with your family about how their socializing with your ex makes you feel? If you haven't been mature enough to speak with them about it politely but directly, then you have no right to bitch. They may have no idea it bothers you at all.