My stepson is 18 years old. He's already been thrown out of his dads house, his grandmothers house, 6 high schools in 4 years. But his mother enables him, and I have no rights in my own house. The kid rules. He has been asked numerous times not to smoke at the house (pot or cigarettes). We returned from a trip over the weekend to find dirty glasses and ashes on the floor of my meditation room. He's helped himself to my room, in the attic above the garage. This was the final straw for me. My wife will not enforce any rules. Police called the other night because I was yelling at him about the smoking and she assaulted me, scratching my face. She has has numerous conversations with him, but really no enforcement. He comes and goes as he pleases, no job, loser, filthy, stinky, signs himself out of school because he is now 18. I'm at the point of separating from wife and selling house just to get away from the BS.

I also would like to mention that I did raise my 2 boys by myself after my wife was murdered in 1993. My oldest at the time was almost 4 years old. He found her stabbed in the bedroom. He always had issues after that. Last year was the 20th anniversary of her murder. He couldn't handle it anymore and overdosed on his 24th birthday and died.