emotional ramble
A friend of my just dropped by to see my sweet baby girl. She had her son with her and he seriously lacked manners. He acted like I had a contagious disease. He was acting like he was scared to sit next to me or drink from the glass of water I gave him. I left the room to warm up a bottle and he asked my husband what was wrong with me and does my daughter have what I have. His mom, my mom, and DH explained albinism to him. I just took my daughter into the nursery. They are still here but I'm not going back out there. She's is asleep now anyway and she has seen enough people for one day.
I just need to ramble because I've been try to hold it in so she won't see mommy crying. She is just everything. I get such a high when I hold her. I just want to protect her from the world. It really troubles me worrying that when she gets into school age the kids might pick on her because of me. I know you guys always support me and tell me not to worry. And I know if will raise her up right but kids these days can be so ignorant and cruel. It hurts me even after living 28 years it still hurts when I get the stares and the comments. I try to brush it off most times and have gotten use to it but it still hurts. I'm not trying to elicit pitty or sympathy I just need to talk about it rather than keep it in. I just want to shelter her from that so badly. I know everyone thinks there babies are beautiful but she is just a masterpiece. I love the sound of her cry even last night when she awoke me from my rest 3 times I was happy to get to hold her and know that she found comfort in me I even let DH get some rest in. This child is just the most precious gift. I can't even describe.
Thank you so much for giving me a place to ramble. I may just end up falling asleep in the nursery or put her in the basinet and bring her in my room. I'm so tired and I'm not going back into the living room and I can't bare the knowing she is in a room all alone.
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HUGS!
HUGS!
Try not to let his comments
Try not to let his comments and actions get to you, darl - he is just a kid reacting to something he's not familiar with. You're probably still feeling very sensitive and emotional right now - and I get that over protective feeling you're getting with your sweet child... we call it, "waking up the Mama Bear"... hehehe..get used to that feeling.. you're gonna get it a LOT as your baby grows.
Hugs to you and I hope you feel better soon.
I remember when I used to get upset and all it took was for me to hold my baby close to me and it would calm me - be strong.. we're al here for ya
People just don't understand.
People just don't understand. Its okay to cry in front of your baby, my mom use to hold my brother when he was a baby and they cried themselves to sleep together. He was colicky, up every hour on the hour. Out of us 3 kids, he was the only one who liked physical contact his whole life. So remember if you cry while your holding your baby girl, your giving her the comfort and security of being held.
(((HUGS))) and congratulations on your bundle of joy.
Kids don't have the filter
Kids don't have the filter most growups are suppose to have, that is unless their taught. (oh the horrors that my skids were once till I put foot to the floor) Even my own dd when little only because it hadn't crossed my mind. We live in a town of white people, and when I say that I mean in my whole life growing up I knew one African american boy and one mixed girl and not till high school. However the city not so far has plenty of variety and I was not brought up to see any difference, but it hadn't registered to me my at the time 4 y/o would have no clue since our town had only recently (last 10 years now) started to see any and I mean really anyone African american living here. so we're at the park and she comes over to me holding hands with a little black girls cute as can be but my kiddo had a look of horrible concern on her face and I asked her what was wrong she said, "I think my new friend is sick but she doesn't know what it is, I don't know what's wrong with her." I asked her why she thought that and asked the little girl if she was okay and she nodded yes my dd blurts out "Can't anyone see how burned her skin is, she could DIE!" I was mortified. I felt like a terrible mother for one having never offered my kid the opportunity to learn about people of all colors but also not explaining to her how rude it could be to point out a persons differences.
So I sat her right there and explained it to her and she perked up and said "she's not hurt?" Me: "no she's fine just like you and me and any of these other kids." DD "oh okay were going to go slide"
My point is kids sometimes handle differences fine, sometimes they don't and sometimes it's the fault of the parent.
BTW because you are albino and I've only met one in my life (blind Chinese albino)who became a regular with his dwarf friend at the restaurant I worked and because my DS loves science and genetics I sat down and discussed Albinism with them. In doing so we found lots of beautiful pictures of a wide variety online. My children and skids think it's beautiful to be an albino. I really liked this family I never knew it was such a struggle with the skins sensitivity before. So because of you I educated children, learned something and we donated to the family for sunscreen and hats and lightweight long sleeves for them. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1210632/Meet-black-Brazilian-mot...
I understand it's so hard to
I understand it's so hard to have people react to you, stare etc , especially kids who have no filter. I am morbidly obese, and when kids would comment or ask questions, I used to just freeze up . My first reaction was to feel hurt / angry. Then I realized that if I made a big deal out of it, I would be perpetuating the. "Fat people are evil " stereotype. They're just curious. I try to be casual and say "yes I'm bigger than you. Some people are big, some people are small, some people are tall , some short etc. " That usually satisfies them, and hopefully they'll be more open to the next "different" person they meet. It IS hard to do sometimes..
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((((((((((((((porcelain))))))))))))))
Your friend really should have explained to her son before bringing him over that your coloring is different than he's seen before. I think at that age, that's really all that needs to be said, "Isn't it interesting how there are so many different colors that people come in? Porcelain has coloring that not many people do, cool, huh?"
Enjoy your sweet baby girl and don't worry about what others will say. She's going to look at kids like they're idiots if they make a comment about you and be like, "What? That's my mom. Nothing different about her!"