This house isn't big enough for the 3.5 of us

Now that SD has moved in indefinitely I am wondering how we will have any space once the baby arrives. I heard that BM is moving her sleezy BF in with her so she is basically choosing him over her daughter and she has only known that guy for less than 3 months according to SD. So SD will not be staying with BM anytime soon according to DH and herself and BM is fine with that even called her own daughter a B*tch. I agree that I don't always like her but I wouldn't put her in harms way and have the chance to be sexually harassed or worse by BM's BF.

Now I am worried. We live in a small 2 bedroom. We are tight on space as it is. My bedroom barely has enough room for our queen sized bed and two person computer desk/vanity. We have no room to fit a crib or even a basinet. I see us taking shifts sleeping on the couch by the basinet. DH's solution is to get a new bed for our room a full sized one with draws underneath and put most of our clothes there so that we can use our walk in closet for the baby's room. And to store all of the babies things in the garage.

I really don't like the idea of knowing my baby is sleeping or getting their diaper changed in a closet. I am not suggesting we kick SD out of her room so don't jump on me. I am just frustrated. Before SD moving in we had planned to move her bed into the garage until the week she came over and then move it back and one of use would sleep in the living room next to the basinet. This house is to small but we can't move for another year do to the lease and to our finances. So I guess we will have to make do.

This house is not big enough as it is we only have one TV in the living room and computer desk in the other two rooms. SD loves to just sit in front of the TV all day. Watching Netflix or going on you tube or Facebook on the Xbox. She is super lazy and will sit in that same spot until 4am and when she is not doing that she is laughing away on her cellphone loud enough to disturb me even with her door closed. I feel like I just need some space. I just really wanted a nursery for my baby where I could play guitar to them or read a book to them or just sit on the rocking chair reading one of my favorite books and watching them take a nap. I almost want to take out a loan and break the lease but that would be really stupid. I just need space and I don't want my baby in the closet.

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That is an idea. But the desk

That is an idea. But the desk is to long to fit in the closet but we can put this one in the garage and get a smaller one for the closet and mabey and extension cord for Dh's laptop. I don't really need a vanity I can make do with the bathroom mirror. I like your suggestion thanks.

I couldn't handle having SD

I couldn't handle having SD sit in the main living room all day. Maybe you could have a small tv put into SD's bedroom? Not all parents like that idea, but if it meant I had more room to actually relax myself, I'd buy her one in a heartbeat. She's going to spend all her time watching the thing anything, might as well might as well get her out of your face and give her one out of the way.

by groomed you mean trying to

by groomed you mean trying to talk to her and tell her that in less than five months things will change and she will be a big sister while she talks over us saying " I know I know " and rolling her eyes.

No, as in start expecting her

No, as in start expecting her to behave in the manner that you want her to once the baby comes. If you don't want her with the TV blasting in the living room or YouTube blaring on the computer in the common spaces once the baby is here.....don't allow it now. Reclaim your common areas because you are going to need them once the baby is here, esp if your bedroom is so small.

Get her a TV for her room and reclaim the living room. Set a time when she has to get off the family computer and has to be in her room...say 9pm. Don't wait for the baby to be here for all this or you will have a nightmare on your hands AND a baby to deal with.

My suggestion? Get a smaller bed with storage, use the closet for your dresser/desk. Get a pack and play for the baby to sleep in (will last you longer than a bassinet) . personally I would skip the changing table if space is an issue. Ours just became a place to put junk and we rarely used it to change our first....and we got rid of it entirely when #2 came alone because we needed the space. We changed the baby on our bed or the couch.

All other baby gear can be put in the living room. Claim your house back

This is really good advice. I

This is really good advice. I am going to share it with DH because things do need to change.

I will look into the classes

I will look into the classes and have a talk with my doctor because I can already see it coming. Thank you.

I have 2 daughters. Here are

I have 2 daughters. Here are a few things you could look into:
A Moses Basket: My NBD (my 2 week old) sleeps in a Moses basket during the day and in her bassinet at night (you know, when she actually sleeps at night...). Makes life a lot simpler. I got mine at a thrift store for $20.
A Cosleeper: You put it in bed with you and your child can sleep in there safely. Cheaper than buying a new smaller bed.

You don't need a changing station. I literally NEVER used BD2's. I put all her diapers and supplies into a backpack (Read: more convenient and cheaper than a diaper bag) and included a changing pad. I could change her on my lap, on the floor, on the couch, on the bed... Anywhere. I'm doing the same with NBD's diapers.

The first 6 months of your baby's life should be spent in your room with you nearby anyways (reduces the risk of SIDS), nurseries are kind of pointless until then.