BM2 pays $50 a month in CS for SD11. DH has had custody of SD11 for years, despite the fact that BM2 has taken him to court a few times to try to get custody. She's unstable. Unreliable. We live in Alaska, and she moved to Georgia in October of 2012 with her newest guy (who she had then been dating for about 4 months). He is military.

She has 8 weeks a year of visitation in the summer.

She pays the state minimum because she has 4 younger children (two of whom are supposedly severely autistic). Her children, as of this year, all attend public school. She cried in court when CS was established and said that she couldn't work because she was a single mother, and paying more would take food from the mouths of her children.

The younger 4 children are NOT DH's kids. SD11 is her oldest child. She did NOT have custody of SD11 when she had these subsequent children.

I would like DH to file for an increase in CS. She is no longer a single mother. Her circumstances have changed. She now has a breadwinner at home, so she is no longer dependent on welfare to survive. Also, there is NO reason she can't work while her kids are in school. I want DH to ask the judge to impute income in her case and increase the CS.

Part of the reason I want this to happen is because BM moved to Georgia and the judge ordered us to contribute to the cost of the ticket in the summer, even though BM didn't move for work, and has NO custody.

DH doesn't want to do this because we are doing alright without the extra money and he is afraid that she will start lobbying for custody if $50 a month becomes several hundred dollars a month. He feels like it isn't worth the hassle.

It bothers me because we have 7 kids, and finances are often tight. I work hard and live small in large part because his children's mothers don't contribute as they should. I also understand his view, though. Courts are mommy centric and we are unlikely to get much from the court.

What would you do?