Cucumber in school lunch? opinions pls
So maybe Im being too touchy but these things really annoy me!! We have been given custody of ss (long story). Vegetables have never been an option in my house and BS is great at eating whatever is put in front of him. SS has never been given a varied diet just 'chips, beans, chips and more beans'. DH is equally to blame as BM in this regard as thats all he had in his cupboards when we met.
DH is always saying how great his life is with me and how I treat him like a king (to be fair all I do is keep a clean house and cook healthy meals! but hey if he thinks thats above and beyond Im happy to take the thanks!!)
SS hates most healthy foods so I have been trying to incorporate small ammounts of new tastes and textures into his meals. I dont expect miricles I just want him to try. So his packed lunch for school ydy consisted of: Beef sandwich, cucumber sticks, Apple, yogurt and a small homemade biscuit(cookie).
MIL and SIL pick him up from school and inspect whats left in his lunch. When I go to pick him up MIL says
'what were you thinking making him eat that veg for his lunch, you know he doesnt like it'
so I reply
'I just want to get him used to seeing it and maybe just tasting a little bit. I dont expect miricles'
SIL replys
'theres enough cucumber in there to choke a donkey, I think its ridiculous'
(there were 4 thin sticks of cucumber)
Am I living in a parallel universe???? How does trying to encourage healthy eating make me the bad guy???!!!
DH just laughs and thinks its funny.... I do not
Any thoughts? should I keep trying?
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It's obvious you won't have
It's obvious you won't have the support you seem to be wanting from anyone else, so if you do continue trying, do so without expecting support from your DH, MIL, or SIL.
That sounds like a lot of food to pack in a kid's school lunch, IMO. The sandwich & cookie & the cucumber sticks, the apple, OR the yogurt would be plenty.
I don't think it's bad that you make an effort to help a child learn to eat healthy foods if you want to, but your DH & his family have shown you how supportive they'll be with it.
I would have been really
I would have been really tempted to turn tables on them:
"Oh he didn't EAT it and WASTED it?!?!? Thanks for letting me know, I will DEAL with that when I get home!" }:)
No, I'm not saying punish the kid... but if auntie or grannie think their chastizing you will be seen by you as narking the kid out it might end it.
Btw that is ALOT of food for a kid.
Scale it back a little. Leave out the apple if you want him to try the cucumber. Or have his afterschool snack be whatever he didn't eat at lunch to prevent waste.
DH complained earlier in the
DH complained earlier in the week that I hadnt given him enough food which is why I put the cookie in. I cant win either way!!. I think Il just let DH do the damn lunches and have myself an extra 10mins in bed!!
I like the idea of pretending to take it out on SS (not that I would) but its a grt way to mess with em!! haha.
^^ This sounds like a plan!
I do a lot of healthy foods
I do a lot of healthy foods in lunch, and skid has to have a vegetable every night, even if we eat out, they eat a salad before we leave.
For what it is worth, I don't think you packed too much. I pack my skid one less item then you did, but they get a snack later in the day at school. Better to pack a little extra than not enough! The cucumber probably wouldn't have been eaten if you had only pack that and a sandwich.
Aw thanku FM everyone was
Aw thanku FM everyone was making me feeling really stupid saying it was too much food. Id rather he had too much than went hungry
Too much food...One veggie or
Too much food...One veggie or fruit is enough...What worked with my son was just leaving a bowl out of cut up stuff for him to snack on...Now, if there is a cucumber in the house he just takes it and eats the whole thing, same with most fruit and veggies...If it is readily available, they will eat...So try that stuff at home.
DO not take any advice from IL's.
He loves yoghurt which I
He loves yoghurt which I included and homemade cookies which I included it was not all veg it was one portion.
Health guidelines stipulate
Health guidelines stipulate minimum of 5 pieces of fruit and veg a day. So I dont think the lunch was excessive. My problem was not that he didnt eat it. I didnt expect that he would, I just want to get him used seeing it and if he tried it then great. I just didnt like my inlaws making me feel stupid especially when I have a BS who eats a very healthy diet with loads of fruit and veg. I am not the bad guy his mother and his early life with DH are to blame.
I don't think giving him the
I don't think giving him the opportunity to try it is bad or wrong. It just sounds like a lot of food, IMO, for a kid's bag lunch.
A sandwich, an apple, yogurt, & a cookie is more than enough to satisfy his appetite. If he's wary of cucumber & has a full belly, it isn't likely he'll try it.
If you give him a sandwich, cucmber, & a cookie, I would think he'd be more likely to try it.
Your in-laws opinions don't matter any more than BM's would. You're trying to do a good thing for your SS. That's never a bad thing.
No, which is why he got a
No, which is why he got a sandwhich, yoghurt, apple, cookie, juice and cucumber sticks. He gets snacks inbetween at school as well as milk mid morning. I'm not a health freak we have crisps and sweets in the house too I just want him to have variety. Protein in the beef, carbs in the bread, dairy in the yoghurt and two portions of fruit/veg.
I will take all this on board tho its given me lots of food for thought!! (get it!)
Just want to do my best for a kid whos had a crap life.
Your ILs need to butt out.
Your ILs need to butt out. Your DH needs to have a chat with them about not sticking their noses into it.