I don't go through DH's phone. Ever. Period. If I need to know what's going on, or ask to know, he tells me what's happening. We talk about the relevant, important stuff. I ignore the rest.

She's blocked from texting/calling me. She's blocked on my FB account. I delete any/all emails from her before opening them (although, she hasn't emailed me in over a year).

I agree with you .. she's just not worth my time/energy/thoughts.

SS13 has his own cell phone. BM does not know about it. She is able to call him at anytime at the home phone number or through my DH's cell. We told SS13 not to tell BM about the cell number due to previous events. BM's sis does have his cell number and we're ok with that. BM's sis seems to be the only one in that circus of a dysfunctional family with even a little sense. I never have gone through his texts, however, after recent events, I am considering it. I believe that even children have a right to privacy. I just seriously question if BM and her husband do in fact have his cell number and if they currently have questionable motives for some of their recent actions. Even if I do decide to read his texts, I will only read those from BM & her family. His other texts are none of my business unless he starts starts getting into serious trouble, which I doubt he will. He's a good kid. As far as voicemails, I don't even listen to the ones on the home phone if I can avoid it. I hate hearing her high-pitched, fake voice, baby talking as if SS13 were a toddler.

No....

I have DH's kids' cell phone number but I do not call or text her. That is in case something happens to DH and I need to get a hold of her. I do not have her email and she doesn't have mine either.

Both she and Uberskank are blocked on FB.

I do not have Uberskanks' cell or email info either.

Why? I don't need the effing drama.

Every once in awhile I read texts to/from SD16. I stopped for a long time bc it was feeding my resentment towards her she would talk crap about me or constantly ask for money and things then use guilt to get what she wanted and FDH was allowing it. I stopped. Now I get the urge every once in awhile and usually find out info or see that FDH clearly lied about something to make himself look better.

Not saying it's right, I just do it

BM only calls when FDH is at work, she does not want me around when she talks to FDH so she catches him at work

No, I don't read texts to DH from skids. I'm not FB friends with skids, and BM is blocked from DH's and my accounts.

BM is blocked from both mine and FDH's FB and from FDH's phone because of her crazy texting (Skids are older and can contact him if there is an emergency).

When BM has texted FDH in the past spewing crazy I have read them and they only caused me to be more annoyed, angry, upset. So it's a 2 way benefit that she can't text/call him anymore.

I do read texts from the skids. Reason being is that I need to know the crazy before it starts.

FDH is the most non chalant person I have ever met. He avoids all conflict. He avoids any drama. He avoids anything that is not nice. Skid could text FDH and say they were coming over to kill me and FDH would just ignore it and act like it's not happening. Yes he is that bad.

So in order for me to get a jump start on any craziness I do check his phone when I have that "feeling", ya know woman's intuition.

Now if the skids actually texted about something personal, etc I would probably feel differently as I would feel I am invading their privacy.

Reading their texts, I know how they truly feel about me. While it hurts and to an extent causes unnecessary hurt feelings, it allows me to know the truth. FDH will do anything to protect his bubble, he tells me skids like me when I know different, just to not cause drama.

FDH knows I look at his texts. And I know 100% its not a good habit to have. I'm not perfect and this is def. one of my "faults". I think though sometimes we have to go routes that aren't the conventional route to find out information we need.

We're custodial. I will read texts to make sure DH remembered to send information to BM, but I usually just remind him to make sure he did. However, DH has almost no communication with BM and when he does, it doesn't phase me at all. Even if BM is being confrontational, we both just kind of shrug and move on. I don't think it is as much about reading the texts/listening to voice mails as it is about just not caring so much. Who cares what BM thinks of you? She is just your skids mom, nothing to YOU. Why be resentful of someone who really shouldn't matter? The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. Of course during court stuff things were different, every text/email/phone call meant more because there was a lot of money and time and the skid's well-being riding on the results.

DH and I are the last people on earth that not to have a facebook account. Not really but sometimes I think we are. Dh and I are on the computer and phone all day, with our jobs, it is the last thing either of us want to do at night. DH tells his kids, we live our lives we do not post about it, we do not have time

I would not look at Dh's phone to read the messages. DH tells me when crazo text him so that I am not in the dark as to what the skids have been put thru before they get to us.

Crazo doesn't' really FB much. The skids don't either they mostly use instagram or twitter. MY DD is an adult and talks to the skids constantly so she know if there is something going on that shouldn't be. She monitors their FB, insta, and twitter for us :)And she takes care of it with them, they listen to her because they respect her, she's cool. But we have only had a few very minor issues.

The skids both text me from time to time and I do them. Crazo is blocked from my phone so she cannot contact me at all. I have said less that 10 words to her in the almost 5yrs DH and I have been together. The skids really don't talk to her much when they are with us and it would be via text anyway so we would not hear it. I am very thankful for that.

I don't usually read texts or emails etc. Only when my DH shows it to me, which he usually only does when he either thinks its humorous or when I actually need to know.
My SD has blocked her dad from her FB and I have never even attempted to friend her. There is way to much drama with that one without going to look for it.

BM does not text, email and rarely calls. Her preferred method of contact is using her daughter to do her dirty work. Of course she rarely admits that her mom sent her. The most recent one is the issue of child support. Since she has been at our home for over 2 months with 0 overnights at her moms DH stopped sending the support check (just before she was served with custody papers) SD asked DH if he was going to ask for child support. He responded that he asked for custody and the rest was up to the court.
BM has called me twice. The first time she told me she was having problems with SD and wanted to know why DH hadn't answered when she called. I responded that I hadn't a clue because I was on the way to work and he was in the shower getting ready to go when I left. The second time was after DH had hung up on her. I just don't answer. I think she got the message the last time we had contact. When she gave me parenting advice that I disagreed with and then told me to look at her when I talked to her I put her in her place very quickly. I told her if I wouldn't allow the SD to disrespect me she was sure as H#*$ not going to. She was literally scared, which is funny because I'm half her size.

I don't usually read texts or emails etc. Only when my DH shows it to me, which he usually only does when he either thinks its humorous or when I actually need to know.
My SD has blocked her dad from her FB and I have never even attempted to friend her. There is way to much drama with that one without going to look for it.

BM does not text, email and rarely calls. Her preferred method of contact is using her daughter to do her dirty work. Of course she rarely admits that her mom sent her. The most recent one is the issue of child support. Since she has been at our home for over 2 months with 0 overnights at her moms DH stopped sending the support check (just before she was served with custody papers) SD asked DH if he was going to ask for child support. He responded that he asked for custody and the rest was up to the court.
BM has called me twice. The first time she told me she was having problems with SD and wanted to know why DH hadn't answered when she called. I responded that I hadn't a clue because I was on the way to work and he was in the shower getting ready to go when I left. The second time was after DH had hung up on her. I just don't answer. I think she got the message the last time we had contact. When she gave me parenting advice that I disagreed with and then told me to look at her when I talked to her I put her in her place very quickly. I told her if I wouldn't allow the SD to disrespect me she was sure as H#*$ not going to. She was literally scared, which is funny because I'm half her size.

No, I don't. Dh does, though, mostly to keep tabs on bm.