Just a random thought
I was browsing thru Steptalk today... well pretty much all day since I have a desk job and kind of just skim on and off all day when I have free time and I couldn't help but think how unfortunate it is that the majority of us here have such issues with the Bm. Being that I'm going into my 6th month of pregnancy I can't help but think about how much I love this baby... don't get me wrong I've had my share of breakdowns because I'm terrified of the thought of taking care of a human but none the less, I love this baby with all my heart...even more so when I feel her move. Anyway, it got me thinking about how thankful I am that I have a pretty big family, as does Dh and it makes me happy that so many people are anticipating her arrival and are already expressing love toward this unborn person. What I'm getting at is, why aren't the cray Bm's we hear about here happy that one more person loves their child? I know some people can't stand their Skids but sometimes that has a lot to do with the resentment that comes from the drama that the Bm's create. For example, I know Bm doesn't like me, when Dh was still communicating with her via phone, she expressed to him multiple times how she "hated" me and how she wished I would just "die". But why? I've done nothing to her other than date someone that she dated on and off briefly. I love Ss5, not the way a bio would a child but I do care for him a great deal and she knows that... she's expressed to Dh before how much Ss talks about me and Dh and his "other" house. I just feel like if Dh and I ever split up, as long as whoever he dated was nice to my kid I'd be happy. I wouldn't ignore that person, or feed my biochild with crazy things to repeat to whoever Dh dated. It's just crazy to me. You'd think some of these Bm's would be happy that there is a another person that cares about the well being of their kid. Of course if Sm is a douche, that's a total different story but for those of us who actually like and care for their skids it sucks to have their biomom or even biodad hate you simply for existing. I didn't force Bm to cheat on my dh when they were together yet it seems like she resents me because I am now his wife. How does that make sense?? blehhh... okay I'm done... I was just pondering haha 
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I have always told my ex
I have always told my ex (father of BD7) that I welcome any positive influence into our daughters life. I have a very good relationship with my daughter so I am not in the least bit threatened by another mother figure in her life. If the woman is a good person and treats my BD well I would be an indiot to not support and encourage BD to have a relationship with her. As a BM in am with you.. I don't get it either!
See, this this this is what I
See, this this this is what I wish I dealt with. Ss's bm from the get go complained to dh about how mad she was that another woman/mthr figure would be in Ss's life. It was crazy to me. I mean, he's a great kid but I don't want to be his mother in any way at all.
Feel that same way about SD's
Feel that same way about SD's BM being crazy and wanting to get away from all of the drama. No bio kids of my own yet, but love SS more than anything. Wouldn't trade him for the world, would just trade the situtation.
I guess my placentas weren't
I guess my placentas weren't chalk full of 'hatred' juices when I had my bios
i love this!! lol. I hope my placenta right now isn't full of hate juice either, just in case things ever went south with my dh lol.
Yeah, a lot of BMs think that
Yeah, a lot of BMs think that when they are done havibg their fun: cheating, divorcing, screwing yet another woman's husband, taking everything she can steal from the men that she is with, she can just come back to good ol Dh and he will drop his current WIFE for her piece of sh*t self. NOPE!! It doesn't work that way! Just because the trashy BM in my life TWICE trapped my dh with her babies, NOTHING would drive him back to that wicked woman. I know it must just burn her up that dh and I are married, our house is twice the size of hers, we have a good marriage(as long as her intrusive ass stays away). I know it drives her crazy when she sees us together. And she's alone. Because she uses people and she is a fake, selfish, self-centered narcissist.
Yep, bm is also like this.
Yep, bm is also like this. When Dh and I first started dating he told me that Bm had seen a psychic and that this psychic has told her that she was going to get a with a guy with my dh's name and then break up and then get back together and get married so she'd always tell him they were going to get back together eventually even though he would always shut down any attempts she would make to try to get with him. then when we got together she broke up with her then boyfriend and tried to persue my Dh hard. To say the least she was pissed when he continually shut her down and reminded her he's in a relationhip. Her response was always "oh... i forgot".
You are assuming the person
You are assuming the person you are dealing with is rational...Crazy BMs aren't rational. They are angry and jealous. If the DH left he's a horrible bastard for leaving. If the BM left DH is a horrible bastard for not taking her back.
lol you're so right.. I guess
lol you're so right.. I guess I trip out because I believe I have a very rational thought process so when Bm here shows her cray I'm like "...huh???" In this case, my dh is a horrible bast*rd because he won't stay single and kick her money anytime she asks.
Omg right!?!?!
Omg right!?!?!
This is interesting. BMs are
This is interesting.
BMs are awful for not being happy about having one more person to love their kids.
BDs are clueless for wanting/expecting SMs to love their kids.
:? :? :?
Sometimes I get the feeling that BM2(the crazy one)WANTS me to hate SDs6&8. That way she'll have a valid reason for doing/saying the crazy stuff she comes up with.
My son has always had a great relationship with his SM. It never occurred to me to get involved in that. I trusted DS's dad to pick a woman who wouldn't mistreat his children or resent the fact that he had kids.