Good news and Sad news
We'll start with the good. NB arrived bright and early Monday morning. She and I are 100% healthy. She was 9 lbs 6 oz (I won the bet) and 21 inches long. Great sleeper and eater. Everyone has been joking that I perfected human cloning, she looks identical to DH. BD2 and SD3 both love her to death and are tripping over each other to help me with her.
TMI WARNING: Labor was easier this time, I made it through with no pain medicine, no IV, and no Pitocin. I didn't tear and only had to push 3 times (Perineal massage, Kegels, and good genetics...). Highly highly highly recommend the natural route if you can do it. I was up and showered two hours after I gave birth and have felt great all week. Much better than how I felt after BD2 was born when I had pitocin and an epidural and an IV.
END TMI: Begin the sad news
We had a visit at GBM and BM's new house today due to schedules conflicting. BM will probably be delivering at the same hospital I did, due to her high risk pregnancy. DH stepped out with GBM for a moment and I was telling BM what the hospital was like while the girls played. I mentioned it was comforting that the major children's hospital in our area was right next door and actually attached to the hospital, so if anything went wrong we could still have seen NB. (This was in reference to after Nephew was born and SIL was stuck in our local hospital while he was in NICU in the major hospital). She got very quiet and muttered, "Yeah, that'll be nice." I didn't pry.
After we left, DH said that GBM had wanted to talk to him. BM's baby has a high amount of water on her brain and an obvious issue with her heart. They don't expect her to live very long after birth, if she even survives that long. 
Such a sad situation. It also explains why GBM was loving on NB so much, and why BM seemed so sad. I know I can't stand her, but I'd never wish the death of a child on anyone. Not even BM.
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No, I wouldn't wish that on
No, I wouldn't wish that on anybody.
I would not wish that on
I would not wish that on anyone.
There is hope though. A friend of mine was pregnant with a (absolutely gorgeous) baby girl. Pregnancy went fine, no warnings issued by physicians ... but the little girl was born with less than half a brain. She was not expected to live 24 hours.
She just turned 4. She goes to a day care actually run by the hospital for extreme special needs children.
She is special needs.
She was expected to be blind. But she will track you walking across the room with her eyes.
She was expected to be deaf, she smiles anytime anyone talks to her.
She is not expected to walk but in the last year has figured out how to pull herself up to her feet.
She was expected to be mute. She speaks her own language. She has one sound that definitely means mama, another that means daddy. More that mean sissy, her cousins name who is always around and one loud one that means HUNGRY.
From the eyes down she looks like any normal child. From the eyes up her skull/head almost does not exist. She is bi-racial and thanks to her daddy has a head FULL of amazing curls, the way my friend styles her hair you almost cannot tell that most if not all of the top of her head is missing (imagine the skull ending at the eyebrows nothing upwards from the eyebrows)
She is a beautiful, loving and wonderful little girl. Severe birth defects sometimes do not mean death of the child. I hope for your BM's sake is is blessed with a child that will enrich her life.
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But congrats on your baby.
But congrats on your baby. Don't let her sad news make you feel guilty for the incredible blessing of your own baby. Its still okay to be happy and joyful for your own delivery.
My cousin was born with
My cousin was born with hydrocephalus (water on the brain) was pretty serious too he's in his 20's now, holds a job in IT lives on his own heck he's taking care of his ailing grandma. So there's possibility it could be okay, and the possibility it's being exaggerated maybe?
Now that I've had time to
Now that I've had time to process it and think about it, BM generally exaggerates stuff for attention, especially with DH. Hopefully her baby will be as fine as it can be with two mentally ill parents.