I want my son and my stepkids to grow up and be good men and good human beings. But in today's society we have so many things influencing our kids. From the internet to TV/video games, radio and friends at school. We can't cant monitor them 24/7 especially when they grow older.

Its doubly hard with stepkids because they are not always with you. At our house its 2 hours of TV a day and you can earn an extra hour if all chores are complete. We eat pretty healthy and try to stick to organic and fresh foods as best we can afford. When we do go out its to an vegan restaurant. There is no cursing in my house. At BM2's house its constant cursing, fast food and processed food and just go to your room and watch all the TV you want and play all the violent video games you want. The little time SS5 does spend with BM1 its getting spoiled with candy and toys and listening to her PAS DH and I and her having her random friends always around cursing and drinking so she barely gets to see him.

I want them to all grow up and be good. Its not always about being a good parent and you get great kids. My parents were awesome sweet and strict with a steady hand and the fear of God. Yet my brother still went and moved in with his 35 year old girlfriend as soon as he turned 18 and he decided not to go to college and to try to get famous on youtube. Now he is a skateboarding mechanic with a younger girlfriend who has a big potty mouth no matter who is around and who will drink up everything but the kitchen sink. I want my son and my stepsons to be better than that and better than DH and not stick their penises in the first girl that looks hot in the bar or the girl that all the guys in high school say is hot even though she is a drunk pothead because once you get girls like that pregnant you're screwed.

what can I do to keep them on the right path or is it a lost cause?