Yesterday and my IDGAF anymore moment with FIL

Hey guys!

Well, being on the high from our anniversary weekend came to a screeching halt yesterday as I drove to work. My Lola, my 2000 Ford Explorer, decided she was going to overheat on me. I put extra water in and limped her to work, arriving 10 minutes late. I called DH and let him know what was going on and he suggested taking the rest of the day off and getting it looked at. He came to get me at work at 10AM and we left for the shop.

Had to drive with the heat blasting just to keep her from redlining the H on the temp gauge. It was already in the high 80's by then and hit 100 by noon. Record Denver high temp. Great, Lola - great day to decide to overheat!!!

Got the truck to the shop - opened the hood. Huge crack down the side of my radiator. $400 to replace, but I'd have her back by 5:30pm same day. Good deal. Went ahead and handed over my keys. Since we were both off work, DH decided to get the alignment and oil change as well as his tires rotated on his truck so we borrowed his grandpa's car and now both trucks were in their respective stages of automotive repair. $535 for both.

Had our workout, grabbed lunch and did a little running of some errands until we got the calls that both vehicles were done. Picked them up, test drove them a bit and all seems well. Got home and DH started dinner. His dad called shortly afterwards and DH put him on speaker.

Do you guys remember my FIL update from TWO whole days ago where I said that FIL called off the engagement to "L" and she moved what stuff she had over his house out? Well, FIL decides he's "IN LOVE" with "K" a woman he's known from his exercise class for about a year. He decided to take her to lunch and see where things go. Well, "K" is VERY busy and VERY independent and basically said she wasn't changing her lifestyle to be by his side every moment like he wants.

So get this! He goes back to "L"!! A whopping 2 days after she moves her stuff out of his house. This is the 2nd time in less than a year that they've called things off, he immediately runs to an ex (J, who turned out to be the psycho stalker) and now "K" and then right back to "L". DH and I think all "L" sees is dad's money, he's 12 yrs older and when he passes, she gets it all.

We asked dad "what's changed between you and "L" since Friday?" And he said she was going to cut back her work hours and travel more. Hmmmm, with an elderly, dementia-stricken mother who now is moving in with you, their dogs that he can't stand in the house, her 25 yr old daughter who supposedly is moving out of state in a few months and the other daughter visits constantly with her special needs 2 yr old son (which dad has already said he feels jealous of since the kid gets ALL of "L"'s attention and he feels invisible when the kid is around).

After explaining to him that he basically threw DH and I under the bus with "L" using us as a reason to break things off, we'll never feel comfortable around her again and that blows, since we can't just visit him like we used to. HE did it all. He won't take responsibility for anything. So I laid into him on the phone and I don't feel the least bit bad. Apparently, "L"'s grown children are all FURIOUS with her as well.

DUH doesn't that tell you something? So I asked FIL one last question "Do you realize how insane and stupid you're being?" And he said "Yes" and I said "That's all I have to say then, I'm done".

I'm completely backing off him now. Totally disengaging. He's a fucking moron and she's just as bad for taking him back on 2 separate occasions after he'd gone running to other women the day afterward and deciding things wouldn't work out! These two are 52 and 64 yrs old. You'd think they were fucking teenagers! IDIOTS!

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Fuck I know right? After DH

Fuck I know right? After DH hung up (I left the room I was fuming and didn't want to explode) - he said "Well, I don't plan on seeing dad anytime soon after that". Yeah, this coming from a guy who is VERY close with his dad and grandparents and we'd go visit at least 2-4 times per month (they live right next door to each other).

The man (and "L") clearly need therapy!

I told DH this morning "I can't wait till your dad calls and says that he's miserable having so many people living with him, the dogs in the house and "L" is still working and not traveling anywhere because she has too many family obligations". And I'm hoping and praying the dogs just decide they don't like living there and shit all over his carpet! LOL

LadyFace, you made me spit my

LadyFace, you made me spit my water out! LOL I just can't get over it. He's changed so much in the few years I've known him, DH said he doesn't even KNOW his own father anymore.

He's always prided himself on being a one-woman man, genuine and honest. He's turned into a lying, cheating WHORE. It's disgusting. I know he just wants to find someone like DH's mom and settle down but come on. He even asked DH to lie for him when he was in between "L" and "J" before "J" lost her shit and started her stalking psycho-ness.

I don't fucking get it. To meet DH, his dad and grandpa, is almost like meeting the same guy in 3 different eras. They are all so sweet, kind, sensitive, HONEST, GOOD people. FIL is straying from that big time and we just don't even like to be around him anymore!

Early onset slut-heimers!

Early onset slut-heimers! That's a good one! Gonna have to run that one by DH!

No kidding right? I mean,

No kidding right? I mean, shit...he gets 100% of the grandparent's estate when they pass, which will be half "L"'s if they're married, and then all of his estate will also go to her. You have to think that is what is keeping her around after all his wishy-washy bullshit. Grandparents are worth MILLIONS and he has a million in the bank.

DH says he doesn't care if he ever sees one red penny, but his dad always said he was set on giving DH and his 2 brothers plenty after he goes so that all the grandkids were taken care of. Now, it seems like "L" and her family will be set.

Scubed, I'll bring that up

Scubed, I'll bring that up to DH. I know his grandparents definitely want to leave their fortune to their kids and grandkids, but have put DH's dad in charge of their estate after they pass. If he inherits 100%, and he's married to "L", isn't she automatically entitled to half of that unless it's specifically divided among family members?

Pardon my ignorance, but I honestly have no clue. My parents have always been broke and I've never inherited a dime from anyone.

Dh said that grandpa has it

Dh said that grandpa has it set up that 25% of his monetary estate goes to DH, another 25% goes to each of his two brothers and dad gets 25% plus the house and car. I hope that's how it goes, for DH's sake.

It sounds like your FIL isn't

It sounds like your FIL isn't so senile after all. He sounds like a silver playah & you guys are his alibis always. "Tell her I was at church with you guys until 2AM, k?"

Yeah we never claimed he was

Yeah we never claimed he was senile, just fucking STUPID!

And yes, when he asked DH to say he was with him while he was with "J" DH was FLOORED. Since when does my dad LIE he said!

So, he's turned into a lying, cheating man whore and it's making us both sick.

LMFAO Identity! No shit eh?

LMFAO Identity! No shit eh? I told him I was done and I am. I don't want to talk to him for a good long while and if I do, it'll be simple chit chat.

Wow......is he in a

Wow......is he in a retirement community or something? Which one is it and can you hook me up with it when the time comes for me?? }:) I loves me geriatric soap opera drama!

Nope, no retirement

Nope, no retirement community. Just a nice neighborhood with modest, 3 bedroom homes and well manicured lawns. He bought the house right next door to the grandparents just last year so he'd be close by in case of an emergency (but that contradicts his constant desire to travel now that he's been retired the past few yrs).

He's a walking contradiction if you ask me. He says he's a one-woman man. He was with DH's mom until she passed away 10 yrs ago and then got right into a relationship/marriage with her friend as part of a pre-death pact the four friends shared. Weird, I know. Then when he couldn't stand her anymore after 8 or 9 yrs divorced and started just whoring around. But he's "IN LOVE" with every woman he dates and wants to marry them all within a month or two! It's just downright nuts.

After he acknowledged the fact that what he's doing is insane, that's when I said that I had nothing further to say and I'm DONE.

What I can't wait for is when "L", her mother, dogs and daughter move in and the 2 yr old special needs grandson is constantly over, ffffing up all his lovely plans of traveling and he calls DH and says "What do I do now?" DH said he's going to just say "Well, dad, I've told you already. You're a grown man, you made your bed, YOU figure it out, because I'm DONE".

ETA - you want to see a pic of him and stepdevil? Get on facebook and I'll show you!

He can be Hugh Hefner's wing

He can be Hugh Hefner's wing man

Only he's no where near as

Only he's no where near as wealthy or famous as Hugh and he can't pull the talent Hugh does.

Some of FIL's girlfriends are just ICKY looking. Take the crazy "J" for instance. The top reason FIL says their relationship didn't work out is because she's "homely" and he didn't feel proud to have her on his arm in public.

And this coming from a man who claimed to be NOT superficial? He also says unless the woman is younger than him, he has no interest. Oh and they have to be large chested as well. "L" has size B if she's lucky, but she is the prettiest and youngest woman he's been with so far!

Ahhh bringing out the list.

Ahhh bringing out the list. The list: A deterrent to conveniently scratch off potential life partners & trick them into believing they fall short. Gotcha.

Has he ever heard of hookers? Like maybe the Golden Girls version?

LMFAO I know right? Dh asked

LMFAO I know right? Dh asked him what he was looking for in an ideal life long mate and he whips out this list. With "Big tits" being in the top 3. Talk about superficial!!!!!!!!!!!

Superficial =

Superficial = Superbroke!
Watch out grandpa, you aint no Jedd Clampett.

And Shook - he stayed 4 more

And Shook - he stayed 4 more miserable years with his 2nd wife because he was too afraid of losing too much money to her! She took him for a cool 100K!

Hope she was worth every

Hope she was worth every penny Gramps :?

shew, I don't know how you

:jawdrop: shew, I don't know how you keep up with him, he gets around.

Glad your Lola is back up & running. I lost my 'Old Girl' last year, she was a '97 Mustang, she took me there and back again. I loved her, when I lost her it was like a piece of me went with her

Clydella, Thanks - my Lola

Clydella,

Thanks - my Lola may not be fast and looks like I could haul a soccer team around all day instead of the sports cars I so miss owning, but I love her and she's a good ol truck.

I have had several Mustangs and Camaros in my day. My first car ever was a 1978 Camaro with a 305 built and bored over. She was rusty in the rear end (It was Michigan, after all) but she'd beat anyone that dared challenge me.

My 2001 Mustang convertible in Hawaii - well, I damn near cried when I sold her. She was FAST, pretty (deep red) and had a killer stereo system. I tooled around the island in her proudly and miss her even to this day.

Sheesh...I'd be looking into

Sheesh...I'd be looking into getting him declared mentally incompetent and possibly committed if I were your DH. At least then he won't be asking you to cover for him anymore, I don't think they let them out of the home unsupervised

Kathc - I know right? He

Kathc - I know right? He doesn't "believe" in therapy or counseling and never got grief counseling after DH's mom passed away.

I also think "L" is a bit mentally unstable for putting up with his bullshit and wishy-washy-ness. All she sees is dollar signs. She's a hairdresser...not like she makes a ton of money. And here comes the son of the wealthy woman client she sees once a month and WHAMO...she and her family are set for life!

That sounds like EXACTLY what

That sounds like EXACTLY what she's thinking. (And probably her family, too!)

I think it's admirable that your DH doesn't care about getting family money but, really, it would be better left to charity than a gold digger.

Maybe he could talk to his grandparents and make sure they understand what's going on with their son and "L" and maybe they could be convinced to put everything into a trust that your DH controls since their son can't be trusted to make a rational decision...

Kathc - I agree with you. DH

Kathc - I agree with you. DH and I visit the grandparents every week. We were just there yesterday due to my vehicle problems and all. They think their son has lost his mind and are VERY concerned. Of course, grandma likes "L" - she's been her hairdresser for the past couple of years. "L" is a very nice person, I have nothing against her either, but yeah she does appear like a gold digger. Especially after Dh's dad dumps her twice, she gets stalked by his ex and then moves stuff in and the following week back out, only to move it back in 2 days later - MONEY is her only motivator.