Update on FIL and some other stuff
Hey everyone,
So, after FIL made a big deal of calling DH and saying he was going to call off the engagement and not allow "L" to move in, we didn't hear from him for a week. Now, this was telling, since FIL usually talks to DH several times a week, if only to ask a silly question about his computer (to me) or just a quick hi.
I told DH on Friday that it's likely FIL hasn't "manned up" and done a thing about calling off anything and that's why he hadn't heard from him. So on Sunday afternoon, we decided to pay FIL a surprise visit to see what was going on. We also were stopping by the grandparent's home, which is directly next door to FIL's place.
FIL was shocked we stopped by without calling first. Guess what he was doing? Hanging out with "L" planning the new layout of his living room for when she moves in. She's already done a bunch of landscaping and planting flowers outside his home to make it more "homey" and is talking about how her dogs are going to love the big backyard! LMAO
So much for FIL "manning up". DH says "when he does call me and says how they worked everything out, he's simply going to say "well, dad, is she retiring so you can travel together? Who will watch her dementia-stricken mother and dogs while you're doing all this traveling?" And the answer will be "no, she's not retiring and we're not going to travel" and then DH will tell him "Then I guess you HAVEN'T worked out your MAIN issue that you called a deal breaker before, eh?"
I already told DH that I'm done with FIL and his personal life. What he does doesn't affect or concern me and I frankly am tired of talking till I'm blue in the face about how he's fucking his life up and I'm just DONE.
Anyhow, started a new healthy eating and fitness program on Memorial Day. Feeling sore but good today after "arms" day workout last night. Plan to fit into that bikini by my birthday in September!
BIG game tonight - game 7 Wings vs. Blackhawks. It's do or die tonight!!!! Happy Hump Day everyone! Enjoy it.
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He is a chicken!! Too afraid
He is a chicken!! Too afraid to tell her. What's going to happen when she finally moves in!! Who is going to take care of all the baggage she is bringing with her!! So crazy.
^^^^EXACTLY what I told DH as
^^^^EXACTLY what I told DH as we left his dad's and walked over to his grandparent's home. Then DH asked the grandparents what they thought and grandma (bless her heart, she's a strong Texas born woman and speaks her mind without filters) says "He's being an idiot! He's going to be miserable with her living there with her elderly mom, dogs, daughter - but no one can tell him anything. He's stubborn!"
I know, and since DH and I
I know, and since DH and I have already told him this, he likely won't even mention a word to us when he does become miserable!!!
Either way, I don't even care what he does anymore. Out of my hands. DH is about fed up too.
Good for you Lavender! Glad to hear it. And yes, even being as sore as I am today, I sure feel so much better than when I was just lazing around the house every night. Now I barely have enough time to get everything done before it's time for bed!
And NO - GO WINGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What a wuss...
What a wuss...
^^^Wuss, definitely. The man
^^^Wuss, definitely. The man has no spine and I understand now where DH got that pushover gene from. I was able to toughen DH up some by showing him that he IS a man and he DOES have control over his own life, not BM, not SD. But FIL still hasn't found his strength. Glad I'm not responsible to help him with that! LOL
I told DH it's likely we won't hear from him for a while too because he KNOWS that we're disappointed in his lack of doing the right thing.
Reminds me of my MIL. She
Reminds me of my MIL. She disappears when she is doing stupid crap. Haven't heard from her in a month, I had a hunch yesterday and checked the Sheriffs website. Sure enough, she was in jail last week. What an idiot.
Jail? Holy Hell. At least I
Jail? Holy Hell. At least I don't have to worry about that with FIL. He's as straight as they come.
He needs to be honest with
He needs to be honest with her, it's not fair. She thinks he wants all of this with her and in reality he doesn't, no good will come of this.
Piss me off or hurt my feelings, but I always want the truth from the people I care about in life. I can get over being pissed or hurt, but I can't get past a lie. And he's lying to her, it's just not fair.
I think you're doing the right thing, stay as far away from this as you can.
Good luck on your diet, started my own, my beach countdown is on, little more than 30 days till I've got my toes in the sand and I'm soaking up the sun.
Oh I know he needs to be
Oh I know he needs to be honest with her but he's not going to until things are just too far gone and he's desperate. Oh well. I don't fucking care what he does. I wish *I* could just tell her myself, but no way in Hell I'm inserting myself into something that dramatic if I don't have to! I want to be as distanced as I can from all this bullshit!
Good luck to you as well! I have a long ways to go before I can get into that bikini I have my heart set on. Another 50lbs to go. My goal is my 41st birthday in September. I've lost 115lbs in a little more than a year and then put 35 back on, so yeah, I'm determined this time!
You can do it!! I lost 70
You can do it!! I lost 70 pounds little over a year ago, I've gained about 15 back, those damn Reese Cups, their my weakness.
Thanks for the vote of
Thanks for the vote of confidence. I truly have all the motivation and ambition in the world this time and as long as DD15 coming in for the summer doesn't side-track me, I should succeed!