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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:17pm

BM has some balls!

DH received a response to his e-mail about the tardy's and absences today. Basic gist of the e-mail was BM saying that she could "do what she wanted" and "she would continue to allow the kids to stay home if she felt like it" and "there is nothing he can do about it". She also said she called the school and they don't follow the 3 tardy = 1 absence policy anymore. Which of course, DH found odd considering they JUST sent a letter home stating they did. BM then went on to say if HE wanted to come get the kids to take them to school to let her know otherwise, they needed to go to HER schools.

DH responded that I was more than happy to come pick them up at 6:45 AM every morning to make sure they got there. That obviously didn't sit well and her response was "Well, I'll ASK the kids if they want to do that but I'm sure it won't last long since Aislinn is going to see what a pain in the ass it is to drive that every morning..."

I love my DH, he responded with "I'm appalled that you are seriously going to ASK the kids if that's okay instead of doing what you need to do to be a responsible parent. Seriously, I'm in shock right now."

That of course got "I'm the best mother on the planet and the kids are fine and in no danger and I'm going to do what I want, oh and btw, I also have a bill for you for $369 for SS's ultrasound."

But it gets EVEN BETTER....SS begged DH last night to make sure he went to school today because they were getting special prizes.

DH goes to the school to pick SS up....HE'S NOT THERE.....he calls BM who informs him that SS wanted to stay home with her but SD wanted to go to school. DH informs her that he's on his way to which BM tells him that he better not show up until after 12 PM. DH says he's on his way and hangs up on her.

And no, BM did NOT give him a copy of this "bill" she claims she has, but she did make Homewrecker answer the door with her because she was afraid DH would get "violent". Really lady? OMG...

I told DH, that's it, the next time those kids don't go to school, I'm calling the truancy officer and that's it. I'm freaking DONE. She is a stupid cunt who doesn't care about anything but herself. I'm FURIOUS.

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:28pm

This isn't the first time this has happened either. The last time we were in the middle of court proceedings and the judge gave her a slap on the wrist about it. She shaped up for about a year and a half.

Now she's back at it, cause you know, getting prego and having a baby is SUCH HARD WORK.

I told DH we may not have a choice but to take her back if it gets much worse. I really don't want to have to, I really just wish she'd fucking be a damn parent. *sigh*

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:35pm

Since September 17, SS has 13 tardy's and 5 unexcused absences.

Since September 17, SD has 7 tardy's and 4 unexcused absences.

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:55pm

SS is in elementary school and SD is in middle school.

SS's school day begins at 7:40 and SD's at 8:05.

On ALL the days SD was tardy, SS was tardy. But there are some days where she apparently managed to get to SD's school on time, even though SS was tardy.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:48pm

WOW...The tardys are crazy. I admit, I was one of those BMs who let my kids stay home a few days a year just to hang out with me if I had a random day off.

But they were rarely, if ever late. That is crazy.

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:53pm

DH said the same. When he was in high school, if he was making good grades and his mom took off work, she would let them have a fun day up to about three times a year. No big deal.

However, during a three month time period, this is ridiculous.

SD - one absence because she was throwing up (this was on our time), one absence because her stepdad slapped her across the face and blacked her eye and her mom didn't want to send her to school because she was afraid (yes CPS got called anyway and they didn't even open an investigation), one absence because BM was off for Veteran's Day, and the final because we were so heartless and only let the kids go see their new baby sister for an HOUR on our time, so even though she saw the kids the following two days in a row, she let them take off school to spend time with their sister (SD told us that BM didn't get up until 9:30 AM that morning and said it was too late to take them to school so they stayed home).

SS - One because of the stepdad incident, that he was not involved in, one for veteran's day, one for baby sister/BM didn't feel like getting up, one for a doctor's appointment that Homewrecker didn't turn a note into the school from the doctor because he "forgot", and today because "he didn't feel like going to school."

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Submitted by StepX2 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:49pm

In the school district I work at, we have a School Attendance Review Board. Basically it follows the attendance of students and when a student has a history of several absences, the parents must attend a meeting to discuss why and work on how to improve. Once a family has been before the review board, the student's attendance is watched closely throughout the rest of their school years in the school district. If the family moves, the new school district is informed.
We have several families where the parents or parent has been taken to court for failing to ensure their child is attending school.
Do you know if your skids school has anything like this? I've seen cases like yours where the parents are divorced and the absences are always on the days that a specific parent has the kids (easy to prove if the CO is being followed) and then only that parent is taken to court. I've also seen the parent who does get the kids to school eventually get more custody for the simple fact that they have proven that their child's education is important to them.

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 12:58pm

I don't know if we have anything like that but I'm sure going to go looking now!!

Additional evidence, my BD goes to the same school as SS and has 0 tardy's. They are both listed at the same address. Not to mention, every single tardy slip I have ever seen come home says "MOM OVERSLEPT", and all the notes are from her on the days they are unexcused.

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 2:22pm

SD5 missed 30 days of school last year. 30!

To this day, she SWEARS it's because her asthma was so bad when she visited DH regularly and she was sick all those days.

I guess she forgot about the 2 weeks she took the kids out of school to go to visit her family in Michigan. Or the week she took them out of school because "DH got to have a spring break with them and she didn't" (her words, not mine).

And let's not forget the 3 days (that we know of) she kept the kids out of school to hang out with her and her friends visiting from out of town.

That's 18 out of 30 days the kids were out of school and perfectly healthy .. on HER watch.

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 3:02pm

SD11 lives with us, SS13 with BM. SD11 was calling her Mom every morning so BM could get SS to school. Pretty effing sad. SD finally told DSO that she was tired of parenting BM.

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Submitted by Newstep on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 7:21pm

Our BM does the same thing. Education means nothing to her in her twisted head getting knocked up and mooching off a guy is how you support yourself.

All three of my kids are in college full time. SO's kids are not. SD13 might have a chance go making something of herself if she goes to college. But I see pregnancy and loser boyfriends in her future.