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Teenagers and cellphones

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Thu, 01/10/2013 - 10:57am

Quick backstory. Over the summer, in August, SD got caught kissing a 17 year old boy. She was grounded, her phone was taken away because we found out she had been talking to him for a month prior to the incident and they had engineered her spending the night with her friend (his cousin) so they could see each other. The restriction period was only supposed to be until October. Well, then we found out she was getting on her e-mail account (which she was also grounded from) and having romeo and juliet style talks with him (we'll be together forever or we'll hurt ourselves, blah blah).

Poking the hornets nest

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Tue, 12/18/2012 - 3:12pm

I almost want to take bets on how BM is going to reply to DH's e-mail we had to send.

The school sent a letter this weekend about SS's tardy's. SS had 12 tardy's as of last Wednesday. Our district counts every 3rd tardy as an unexcused absence. So that's 4 absences, in addition to the 4 he already has (because BM kept him home for funsies). If he misses much more school, they can actually request he repeat the 3rd grade...

SD has 6 tardy's as of this morning as well as 4 absences.

That didn't last long

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 12/12/2012 - 3:01pm

Why do these POS BM's get away with everything?

My skids weren't at school today. Again. Apparently the babbbbbby kept BM up all night, and after Tuesday's morning irritation, stepdad didn't feel like taking them to school. So they just stayed home. Even when she got up she didn't feel like taking them to school.

That's 5 absences now, only one of which they were really sick. *sigh*

You know, when I had my BD eons ago, I got up and had to go to school the next week to take my final exams (in college), WITH STITCHES.

Teenagers and playing the parents against each other

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Thu, 12/06/2012 - 3:32pm

I want to preface this by saying I have a very good relationship with my SD. I've been a mother type figure to her since she was 7 years old because her BM has had her head so far up her new husband's ass and is too concerned with being her friend, it just sort of happened. My DH is active and involved in the kids well being as well and does all the disciplining, does not allow disrepect in the home, and is a wonderful dad in general. MOST of my problems lie directly with BM being batshit crazy.

Maybe I'm old school?

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Mon, 11/12/2012 - 4:18pm

So I don't know about you guys, but I was under the impression that when kids have school...they should, I don't know, GO TO SCHOOL?

If I'm off from work a day, and my kid has school, I get up and take her to school. I mean, that's what you do right?

Not BM apparently. Both kids already have five tardies and have missed three days of school already for various purposes (one doctor's appointment, one sick day, and one stayed up all night talking after the kids told her they wanted to live with us). Today she is off work for Veteran's Day.

Dangit....now I feel sorry for BM....

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Fri, 11/09/2012 - 9:12am

My SD has been in therapy for the past couple of months to deal with a lot of her issues surrounding her mother and her stepdad. She was cutting herself to relieve the stress of being in the household and making some really really bad choices. DH and I seriously considered yanking her out of there as fast as we could but honestly, it's really not going to help SD with her issues. So therapy it is and it is a godsend, SD seems so much happier and at peace with herself.

Not letting BM affect ME...

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Wed, 11/07/2012 - 8:29am

I've got to do something, anything to stop letting BM affect me the way she does. I hear every day about step parents getting on pills or drinking or whatever to make it through their stresses, well my vice is smoking.

My MIL has been up mine and DH's ass about smoking. She recommended a book called the Easyway method and I actually sat down and read it. Was doing FANTASTIC, and then BM got her ass in a twist and started cursing out my DH again and of course, like a typical smoker, I blamed my bad day on my nicotene deprival and got all whiney for a smoke....*sigh*