OT Need Graduation Dinner Advice
I am graduating from college this Friday. I invited family to come see me. I have some family that are coming from out of state. I had planned on doing something at my house but it's kind of out of the way. The family that lives closer talked and decided that we should all go out to eat afterwards. I said that it was fine and chose a place that was convenient for people out of state going home and those living here. My FMIL states that I should pay for everyone and it would be rude not to. We are looking at probably 20 people and it would be 250-300 dollars. I don't have that kind of money especially since I just spent my semester student teaching and wasn't allowed to have a job. What is proper etiquette here? It started as an informal dinner that they planned that I tried to tweak to work for everyone.
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How should I do this? Should
How should I do this? Should I send a price list and menu out via email?
It's a family buffet down
It's a family buffet down here in the south. I had everything set up to do trays at my house when my family decided they would prefer otherwise. This is all immediate family grandmas and moms and steps. . . Blah blah. . I really try to keep up with etiquette. Maybe I should have something at my house even though the family out of town couldn't make it.
Also there is no way my
Also there is no way my mother or father would pay. To them, I became an adult at 14.
I would be happy not having
I would be happy not having anything lol. I didn't evn want to walk. My family pushed the issue. I don't think my parents should pay though. I'm an adult and that's the kind of entitlement we try and prevent in skids.
Were you planning on paying
Were you planning on paying for the trays at your home? If so, I'd just go back to that plan.
Don't let others push you around... which it sounds like they're doing a bit of...talking you into walking (I'm with you, and I didn't!) and talking you into changing your celebratory plans...
Yeah... none of this is for
Yeah... none of this is for me. It's really for them. I am trying to please because I'm the only person who has ever graduated from a four year college. Yes, I had planned on doing food at my house and had that all set up. To be honest, I don't know if anyone is going to come. I live an hour in the opposite direction of everyone included and an hour past the school. This would add two hours round trip and it would be late night for the people out of town. I'm not sure exactly what to do. I'm kind of stuck. I just want to accommodate everyone. I don't mind celebrating with everyone. I just wasn't sure what the etiquette was.