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Hi. Our marriage has hit breaking point due to the issues surrounding the adult children from DH first marriage.
I'm not sure I'm even allowed to ask on here but can anyone recommend a couples therapist who specialises in blended families?
UK based
Ask away! That is what this place is for. Navigating blended
Ask away! That is what this place is for. Navigating blended family life.
I'm not in the UK so I don't have a UK recommendation.
Good luck and don't forget to take care of you.
TY
Thank-you Rags
Make sure you, and I mean you
Make sure you, and I mean you alone, interview therapists before committing. The reason I say this is because if a therapist has not received specific education and training in blended family dynamics, they can actually make things worse. Ask me how I know.
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Great Resource
Dr. Amy JL Baker is an expert in Parental Allienation and toxic step families. Her website has tons of resources. She does phone consults also so that might be an option for you even being in the UK.
https://www.amyjlbaker.com
I wish you the best. My marriage almost ended due to adult SKs but thankfully, DH and I got into counseling and today, we are doing well. Pray the same for you.
Thank-you!
I'll certainly look into this and I'm so pleased things are better for you now
Can I please ask…
Was your councilling with Amy Baker so someone else?
Local
Our therapists have always been local and our current one (with whom we will stay with) is super aware of PAS and toxic adult SKs. He's helped us navigate a few "testy" events and the results were great and positive for us.
I also brought a lot of Dr Baker's studies and information into our counseling sessions, though. So, our other therapists were also technically aware of StepHell.
If you don't do the sessions with her, definitely read her books and studies and pull those into your counseling sessions.
All I know is a bad therapists is just
A wast of time. Be ready to change your therapists in a given time if not helping. Like six months. Be aware that you both must change. In order to work