Life is stressful when you live on the edge.

The edge of poverty and homelessness that is.

LI just texted DH crying about how her online bank is having technical difficulties with deposits. I can tell from her wording that she is very frustrated and upset about not having access to her money today. DH and I also use said bank (and a couple others) but we are fine.

Not much DH can tell her except that it will be back up when it's back up and she will just have to be patient. I'm sure she owes money to somebody today (she does most every day). This isn't the first time she's flipped out when her paycheck is delayed.

The sad thing is again, she has no buffer for emergencies and when I tried to tell her about how emergencies work and the importance of having a good job that allows you to put away and emergency fund, she wasn't interested in hearing it. She knows it all of course.

The even sadder thing is she had a path to such a job all laid out for her and paid 150% by the government. Had she put forth even the tiniest bit of effort into researching and getting a reasonable degree that would have allowed her to get a decent (perhaps not prestigious but one that comfortably pays the bills) job.... well then her father may not have to worry so much about her.

I can see is still on the path to riding the edge of poverty her whole life and keeping me on the edge.

Oh and the new restaurant job is already not working out. They are of course unreasonable and unfair (unlike the late lazy, laid-back manager at her old job who let his staff get away with doing whatever they wanted).

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Funny how that works

Your LI always reminds me of SD63. SD63 has the most amazing bad luck with banks, insurance companies, phone companies, etc. They continually screw up their accounting. That bank is definitely wrong to say she's out of money. The insurance companies always employ heartless bastards and the phone companies are definitely mismanaged. And, like LI, every place SD ever worked was in poor shape with bad management.

SD never had a shot at a degree but she did go thru beauty school and is a licensed beautician. Or was, I'm not sure she's kept her license up.

Continual bad judgement. I don't see it getting better. And yes, living on the edge is stressful.

Yup it's always someone else

Yup it's always someone else's fault. No accountability. Never their fault. Always innocent and need saving from unfortunate circumstances.

And do these men really not see it?? I thought about making a snarky comment "well it seems like she's got some urgent bills to pay... if she can't wait even a day for her funds... not the best money management" (and I get some people have no choice but I know her spending background and how she got to this point).... but in the end I decided against it. I'm still tired from Christmas.

It IS certainly exhausting. I already know she's going to just hover in the background of my life causing drama with her poor choices and problems until either DH or I pass.

"And do these men really not

"And do these men really not see it??"

He sees it he's just twisting himself like a tweeked out contortionist to avoid "seeing" it.

SD68 and my SIL have near verbatim perspectives.

Everyone else is an idiot. SIL invariably knows more than the people she works for in a job she has been doing for no more than a year working for people who have been in that industry for decades. Mortgage companies, banks, collections agencies, etc... are all at fault for her repeatedly being put into collections, their house going into foreclosure (four times so far), cars being repossessed, utilities being cut off, etc...

She gets it from her father. Always the same thing. Smarter, and better than everyone else, always told that they are the best at what they do, then get fired. Why one might ask? Because everyone else complains about them because of how good they are and everyone else is jealous.

This goes on with nearly any and every job, topic, etc.. SIL was losing her shit on the Docs when FIL would be hospitalized. The Docs were all idiots and of course the Docs ineptitude killed her daddy. No mention that he had avoided taking BP meds as Rx'd for years to avoid the costs, ended up frying his kidneys and being on home dialysis for the last several years of his life. Among many other poor lifestyle and heath choices.

Most recently she has been working for the school district as a SN HS teacher's/classroom aid. Teachers are all idiots, everyone is "begging her to finish her degree and get a master's to be a teacher". Of course she takes a haughty perspective that she wouldn't put up with what teachers put up with so she won't go back to school. Not that the school would even let her back on campus after her decade+ of school loan surfing, failing multiple classes each semester, and being denied entrance into the school of education, and ultimately not being allowed ot register for any more classes or apply for more financial aid/loans.

I'm guessing that her bank no

I'm guessing that her bank no longer gives her access to pending deposits.. likely due to her abuse in the past.

DH tried to engage me in the

DH tried to engage me in the situation but I just blew it off. I'm not sure exactly what she was short circuiting over... I'm sure is she was denied access to her pending deposits that would throw a monkey wrench in the rickety, precarious machine that is her finances. Every second of the day for her is an unpaid bill deadline so

her house of credit cards is

her house of credit cards is falling down

or ... someone put a freeze on her finances because there's a judgement over missing payments.

LI also has SD30 written all

LI also has SD30 written all over her from the sound of this. At least LI got as far as college, but what is good is that since she has squandered that oppportunities and the doors that could have opened for her if she had bothered to at least see that through to completion. Like LI, SD can always be ( at least) relied upon to cook up some bullshit excuse for just about anything. If nothing else, they are consistent in that aspect. I honesty dont understand for the life of me how anyone at their ages still have to be so coddled over every little inconvienience as if they are so different than those than any other full grown adult has to deal with in Life. It is also beyond me how the likes of SD and LI have even made it in life as far as they have.

In LI case she has always

In LI case she has always been able to con someone else into taking care of her. She puts on a very sweet amicable face until you try to get her to pull even some of her own weight, then she gets nasty.

As of right now she hasn't been able to land a boyfriend with the means to fully support her and all her bills so she's forced to work (since I refuse to take her in as our permanent dependent). DH thinks she's such a hard worker but the only reason she works is because she literally has no other option right now. And of course her "hard working" attitude didn't extend to her studies so...

and yes, nothing is ever their fault. That's all part of the sympathy game.

"She puts on a very sweet

"She puts on a very sweet amicable face until you try to get her to pull even some of her own weight " I know this old routine very well. The old phony SD putting on this front of being all nice and altruistic, until you dare to tell her NO. Or date to put any ounce of true ownership in her court. Then just like that , the mask comes off ( at least with me. Im sure she acts this way to others who dont fall into liine and put her first like the Princess she comes off like she is. Very telling that she doesnt really care about what I or anyone else has going on..all she is concerned about is whether or not someone can do for her the things that she wants. LI fits that bill for sure.

Here is hoping that any guy that takes an interest in LI, at least isnt so delusional as DH..and has the sense to run from her as fast as his feet can carry him! Sounds like she is the gold digging type for sure and a husband would just be another human ATM for her benefit.

I have a grown-(ass) relative

I have a grown-(ass) relative exactly like this--poor me, crisis after crisis, nothing is ever her fault when in reality her current position in life is exactly her fault. When she was younger and prettier, she was successful in conning successful men to pay her way/take care of her. Strangely enough, she was abusive toward them and always dumped them for something better. Until she aged and karma struck. Most of the family has turned their backs on her. She has no friends, no support. She will likely be homeless by the end of the year and there is no one willing to step up and help her out.

It's like these types have some sort of virus or allergy (to work and responsibility). It's baffling to me. Then they hover out there like a dark cloud, or, as my husband so eloquently puts it, "like a bad fart that lingers." lol. God help us.

like a bad fart that lingers.

like a bad fart that lingers." lol. That gave me a much needed laugh. It is so true. I would say SD is like also like a lingering rain cloud ( more like a cloud wafting of really stale nasty cigarette smoke. She can magically afford to keep up with that habit..funny) but the fart fits the bill too. The older I get, the more impatient I get with these woe is me types. Maybe its the BPD talking too for SD's part, but even that you can only take so far as using that as a crutch. Its like this addiction for them and you would think they had an advese allergic reaction to accountability with the way they dodge it. I dont know what she will ever do when those than enable her arent around any longer...when no one else will even want to fool with her anymore.

..We all have problems in life,. either you can let them pull you down and drown you..or you learn to swim. So far. people like SD would rather just sink..

"like a bad fart that lingers."

Mia, you kill me! I snorted up my tea, reading yon earthy, hilarious comment from your DH. Read it to my own DH, who also barked with hilarity. Guy thing? Probably. Thanks for the fun, Hon, it's so good to laugh.

Please tell your main squeeze how much we oldsters appreciated his humour.

lol. He is filled with them.

lol. He is filled with them. He's an oldster, too. I'm, well, almost there.

Why would this keep you on the edge?

Every day

She gets a little more like the Skunk Ape. The come is complete. Of course Daaadddeeeee fantasizes that LI is just like him.

Yup, TT,

Of course Daaadddeeeee fantasizes that LI is just like him.

Until she truly crashes and burns i.e. homeless. At that point, BI will insist that his daughter is exactly like the Skunk Ape. Alternatively, he'll blame AlmostGone for LI's downfall. And Rags, that's the reason that the situation keeps AG on edge; a homeless LI is a scaaaaary thing.