His brain is in protective mode so that he doesn't recognize what a mess she is.  At least she's gone.  Life is good!

But, I'd be aggravated, too.

DH is now insisting that college is a "waste of time and money". 

Waiting for the complaints when both BI and LI realize the loans have to be repaid even if you did not finish.

Of course it is! Now.  *dash1*

Omg.... 

Those comments...

Of course when he thought his kid was finishing he called others losers and now that she doesn't finish its all a waste of time. 

What an idiotic comment that college is a waste of time. Sure. 

Does he even hear himself 

I hope LI is officially out of your peaceful sanctuary and ran back to FL to SA/ Fidel or the Fool..etc and wont be back for a long time for your sake. 

I am actually surprised that she at least admitted the truth about her college stint. The hypocisy surrounding DH and LI is also not suprising though infuriating of course. 

Im with Yesterdays asking if these people ever hear themselves once in a while and think critically. 

I wouldnt hesitate to point out his comment about the "loser" nephews for not attending whenever the chance comes up.. I also would ask if he or LI are going to think it was all nothing and will retain that caveliere attitude , like its all a game ..once she finds herself up to her neck in crippling debt over it for who knows how long. 

It's not just LI or my lying SD63, The Grifter, but whenever one of our 5 tells me a long, convulated story, my antennae go up.  It almost always means lies.

My favorite lie this year was from Grifter when she dropped by Christmas day to get her $.  "Oh, gosh, I forgot!  I had your gifts under my tree and I just walked out without them!"

I know it well!

When OSD was fourteen, barely. She was going the Dolly Patton way, in other words, she dressed and acted like a….like a….

Well, one evening, I got my crystal ball out and made a forecast. After I told him what I saw and where she was going, DH fought me tooth and claw, saying, don't talk about my sweet, innocent, virginal daughter like that.

This is what I saw for OSD’s future:

 I saw OSD:

In, a skintight mini dress in a loud, flashy color, cut low to reveal cleavage.

Wearing fishnet stockings with a small tear near the knee, either by accident or design.

Balancing on platform heels, too high to walk in comfortably, making her steps slightly unsteady.

She had thick foundation that doesn’t quite match her skin tone.

Heavy eyeliner, smoky eyeshadow, and false lashes that amplify her eyes unnaturally.

Overly glossy lips, coated in a bright, attention-grabbing red.

A dusting of glitter on her cheeks and collarbone for added effect.

Did I mention her hooker nails or claws?

Her Hair:

Dyed an unnatural shade (platinum blonde) with visible roots.

Styled in loose, straightened until it hangs unnaturally flat.

Her trademark accessories:

Did I mention, ½ inch eye lashes?

Large hoop earrings that swing with every move.

A cheap faux-leather clutch or purse, held tightly against her side.

Several rings on her fingers, some too big, giving the impression of costume jewelry.

A choker necklace or dangling chain, chosen to draw attention to her neckline.

At the age of fourteen, she was beginning to have that 1000 -cock stare; she wanted to quit high school and do porn with her current bf while he stayed home and ran a puppy mill. I can't make this stuff up! 

When I was done with my crystal ball, DH wanted to ‘assault’ me for saying such nasty things about his sweet, innocent whittle virginal daughter. Ha! Right!   You mean the one, DH, that bragged about giving her flavor of the month BJs in the movie theater. Then there was the one she was planning an extended sleepover with at her BMs. I won't tell you about the sex-texting she was doing all through high school. 

He kept his denial up until OSD joined a college skank house. Everything I predicted came true.

Far forward to Christmas time, OSD is 21 and now ‘president’ in her college brothel, for Christmas DH sent his mother a picture of OSD in her little Bo Pee’s outfit, the one with ¾ of her ass hanging out (I’m not exaggerating).

These skidmarks are so messed up because they have one or maybe two parents who have their heads up their [you fill in the blank].

Now, DH is claiming he didn't see anything that was happening and that maybe she will change. 

Back to you - sure, he will brag when she's at school - she's in college. But when she isn't - he will say college is a waste of money and time.  There's way too much, 'go along to get along' and no parenting whatsoever. Like our Crazy-BM tells toxic MIL all the time, "You have to LOVE OSD UNCONDITIONALLY!" 

Unconditionally...my ass! But, I'm not most folks! 

My DH used to say that it didn't matter what college one went to, as long as you did well, no one cared about WHAT college it was on your resume in the end. And anything other than a good state school was a waste of money. Which is true really, we don't look at what college when hiring, just confirm that they have a degree as they say. BUT when it finally came down to it and HIS daughters were applying for college, oh no, the state schools were not good enough and if they wanted to choose the expensive private colleges, then that's better!  He still is in this mode a bit (less mad, less emphatic, which is great), and I point out his hypocracy at times. But I'm so far out of the skids lives, I really could care less at this point. 

Funny how college is a waste of money only after LI has wasted no telling how many tens (hundreds?) of thousands of the government's money and 6 years of her time with nothing to show for it.

I agree that there are many paths to self-sufficiency. Hopefully LI will actually take one. 

Hypocrisy, delusion, denial. What else do we call this? My DH went through the same thing, especially with his son, but the false super/superior unrealistic kid narrative was driven primarily by BM (and really hard on the skids, although it created an awful arrogance in them).
It took some awakenings/smackdowns from reality for DH to recognize that 1) his kids were NOT better than other people and were not super geniuses 2) in many ways his kids were inferior to many others 3) they "ended up" not doing so well as adults and are in general pretty unlikable.
I understand it's hard to admit your children are not the super heroes they pretend to be or are made out to be, or that you want them to be, but it's also freeing (I've witnessed it) to see and accept the truth. Sigh. 

However, the facts are and likely reality is that those without a degree will work for those with one.

Though not all degrees are viable for preparing the degree holder for a viable career, even just having one tends to qualify the degree holder for some positions that require a degree that disqualifies those without.

My first company out of engineering school had a program when moving manufacturing from CA to TX that all employees in TX had to be degreed regardless of the role they were hired for.  That prevented many experienced long term company employees from transferring from CA to the large new facilities and organizations in TX.

So yes, just having one is far better than not having one.

Also, the long term numbers are irrefutable.  Those with a Bachelor's degree will earn $1,000,000 more over the course of their work lives than those without one.  Of course there are exceptions to that statistic, but  it is a long standing fact that is far more often true than not.

I would not tolerate avoidance and ignorance on this topic from my partner if I were you.  That represents an income of $2000/mo more over the course of a 40 year career.  Of course that income is not load leveled for the entire 40 years and will show up in the middle to later career years at much higher than $2K/mo. I load leveled it as a discrete representation of how that additional $1,000,000 looks in the career of someone who has a degree Vs someone who does not.  I do not know of many who would not benefit from an extra $2K/mo or much more than that as professional income increases over time.

Daddy needs his hypocritical dance shoes nailed to the floor on all of this that happens with full frontal realization of the facts regarding LI.  Not only will she far more likely than not never finish a degree, she will also never pay off her loans and those will grow with penalties and interest to astronomical levels during her life.  She will rot as a Sr. citizen and likely never amount to much. At this point her only shot at a decent life is to either hook a mate of means or to breed herself into a huge monthly income in CS.  She will ruin many lives with her shit choices.  Kids, a number of men with poor mate RADAR, etc....

As sad as that likely reality is to consider.

IMHO of course.

'''LI was thrown out of college''' [ she does know why she was going]. ''''She has 126 credits in Bowling, ping pong,  and beer drinking.''''But there's no degree program in beer drinking.  '''The loan money is cut off.'''  How is she going to survive?   
'Be prepared for a onset on LI needing....money...money.   She spent 6 years advording working. She not ready to start now 

BI: "Thats probably a GOOD thing...a roof and 4 walls are overrated.  Think of the money she'll be saving on rent/the mortgage.  I think I'll get her an RV."

I see the flip flop... lol.

Actually, I am someone with both an undergrad and a masters and I think college IS a waste of time and money for a whole lot of people.. because college is NOT for everyone.. There are a lot of ways to earn a living that are respectable and have high earning potential that don't require a degree.

I also am a proponent of people going to work entry level for companies that support tuition payments/matches to aid their employees in getting their degrees.

I would actually hazard a guess that more people are not college material vs those that are.  The kids arrive at these institutions woefully unprepared.. end up having the curriculum dumbed down.. they have to take remedial courses to catch up etc.. 

In this current day, the cost is not worth it for so many... it used to be a better value.. but that's when fewer people attended, so your degree differentiated you.. not today.  Easy student loans also caused universities to compete for that money by enticing students with lush acccomodations... meal plans.. lounges.. gyms.. etc.. again.. none of that fancy frosting helps them become smarter.. just enticing for their 4 year vaca from reality.

And time for idiots. YSD26 had to go to an out of state, prestigious school and now she works as a fry cook. It took her an extra year to graduate. She has spent most of her time since college unemployed or job hopping. Lol

OSD, same story in that she isn't even using her degree but unlike YSD, at least she has held the same down job for longer than 2 weeks. 
 

I am annoyed that DH spent so much $$$ on their college but find some comfort that BM paid 1/3 of the cost so at least it took her down a notch and she has no earning capacity to make more. She is too lazy to find a  full-time, real job.