My partner has recently decided to stop helping monitor the SK time so they don't miss their bus. They have clocks, SD has a watch and alarm goes off over an hour before bus arrives, it's too taxing to read an analog clock for them, (not sure why it matters when our oven and microwave literally provide the numerical time stamp) blah blah.... 

So today SS barely missed the bus. He was too busy messing around to give a crap til minute of. But he made it.

SD I feel like just wants to test us. She doesn't believe Mom is gonna do what she says she's gonna do. SD was up and ready 25 minutes before bus arrives. So no excuse right!! She was in theory prepared!! She disappears into the bathroom to probably pop her zits. She likes doing that and just messing around in there... but Bus time rolls by, SS got on bus and left, partner tells SD she missed her bus and she's walking to school. 

SD immediately laments, "The bus is SO IMPATIENT!!!" Starts getting bad with outlandish outburst, then going to her "I don't wanna exist" whenever she is held to literally any standard. We both said this is how the world works. The bus doesn't revolve its life around YOU solely. It needs to pick others up and it's doing its job, why don't you do yours sort of thing. She's done this before and gotten a ride to school, but no more! This person really thinks everyone's just out to get her. She stews and says that this is what I want, I want her to walk to school. You know, in a begrudging way, assuming I'm evil etc. 

I had a talk with my partner last night about how every single American (adult included) should visit a third world country. Kids who waste food because they're spoiled and picky vs kids who only depend on a sole feast per day that maybe was or was not guaranteed. And they are grateful for what they DO have!. Families who don't have transportation exist even to this day. I see kids walk to school often. It's not mean or abusive. It's a natural consequence in this case and a health benefit in another. 

My father grew up with 12 siblings and they shared food growing up. They slept in the same room. My dad was your stereotypical "I had one pair of shoes that were broken and had to walk miles to school." He ADORES his mother, rest her soul. And how on earth do you expect to gain work ethic or self sufficiency as an adult if you don't practice now. 

In high school, I didn't need to get to class til 9. My mom would drive me. We lived 10 min from school. I would get up and be ready 3 hours before... which I'm probably an extreme case but I have pretty much never been late to anything in my life. I would feel ashamed to not be ready when my mom was taking time out of her day to drive me.

You gonna tell your boss it's their fault you didn't make the meeting on time?? It's their fault you didn't turn your project in on time?? It's a dentists fault you missed your appointment?? Etc etc. 

If we're mean, I'm honored to be mean. what's mean is not preparing your kids for the real world. Would like to know if it would be abusive or cruel if we worked in offices (we both WFH) and had no choice in the matter to make sure we made money for food on the table and roof over head. And SK would have to be responsible for catching their bus. Gotta do what you gotta do. 

just so funny the way a persons brain works.... just like her BM. Delusional, treats people like they're disposable, and doesn't accept fault or responsibility