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LIBERATION! I moved!

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 4:05pm

Feeling so grateful and FREE because earlier this month, I moved. Two states away. Therefore:

  • No more DRIVE-BYS from xH
  • No more memories in every room, or in the yard, or on the streets of my xH or xSS
  • No more anxiety when I see a vehicle that looks like xH's post-midlife crisis vehicle
  • No more dread of running into xSS in town
  • No more sleeping with my handg*n under my pillow every night
  • No more mail for xH arriving

I re-read some of my ST messages from 2019-2021 last night (=much more detailed & graphic than my blog posts) and can hardly believe I lived through that nightmare. But I did, and am now on the other side. 

I'm glad I had all those details written down. Proof and evidence. My gut was always right. I was like a deer paralyzed in headlights from Fall 2018-Fall 2021 when I finally filed for divorce. Some of you StepTalk friends were instrumental in helping me take action to extricate myself from that nightmare, and I thank God for you and the whole StepTalk community for all your encouragement, validation, and understanding.

Living my best life now!

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Fri, 08/16/2024 - 1:00pm

Neighb saw my xH drive by the week before I moved. The day my pro movers & the big truck were there, I had anxiety xH would drive by, stop, and barge into the wide-open house. Now, I get to be free of that. 

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 4:12pm

Lots of prayers for my Steptalk family and Im super glad to hear/read of your escape and current happiness.

Im taking some stay-cation days and plan to be step-free!!! Well temporarily. What a huge burden, so now you can enjoy this great weather we are going to have.

Biggrin The sun continues to shine.

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Submitted by Yesterdays on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 6:11pm

Happy to hear you're far away from that now and in your own place, on a new path to freedom and peaceful living  ❤️

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 6:51pm

... I now live a 20-minute walk from the beach. ♡♡♡

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 7:56pm

Congrats on your freedom from XH's stupidity and stalking!  Hopefully he won't know your forwarding address.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 10:08pm

Woo hoo!!! I'm so happy for you! Hope you felt the weight of the worries drop away. *yahoo*

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Fri, 08/16/2024 - 7:44pm

Thank you Aniki! Literally 60 lbs to lose; with the trails through the woods to the beach, and my friends dog to walk, that's my next goal!

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Submitted by grannyd on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 11:42pm

Dear Lady,

I’ve long considered yours to be one of the real success stories on this site. You were so beaten down and confused that you seemed to have lost yourself during those terrible years with that stone narcissist and his spawn. Your recovery and escape are a testament to courage, determination and strength of character. Your updates are simply wonderful to read and I am so thankful that you’ve stuck around to ‘pay it forward’. 

Since a narcissist can never bear being rejected, I’m in complete agreement that moving two states away was your only pathway to permanent freedom and peace of mind. Hon, you ROCK!

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Wed, 08/14/2024 - 11:54pm

Thank you so much GrannyD. I appreciate all the encouragement and support from you over the years. 

♡

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Thu, 08/15/2024 - 8:14am

I'm so glad we've become friends in real life - not in person just yet, but SOON. You were there for me when I escaped my XH2 - the nasty covert narc.

And it was an honor to be your friend as you navigated your escape from your narc XH. Your evolution has been nothing short of remarkable, and you're such a fantastic example to me, as well as a supportive friend.

Happy dance for you!! I am so glad to know you. ((hugs))

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Thu, 08/15/2024 - 10:43pm

You are awesome! 

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Submitted by Harry on Thu, 08/15/2024 - 9:04am

Found a place to start over.   House memories are hard. No one understands unless they live it,   Sad that you got involved with a bunch of losers. Who couldn't let go.   But this is the first day of the rest of your life .    Congratulations 

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 08/16/2024 - 12:44am

I am thrilled for you.

Distance is a true reprieve when dealing with toxic people.  Now you have your own world free of them.  That was an incredibly wise move for you to make and I am so happy for you that you did it.

Live well and prosper.  

Give rose

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Submitted by Lillywy00 on Sat, 08/17/2024 - 5:16pm

Too bad you cant do reverse surveillance on him .... to see the look on his face once he drives by again and realizes "Tim and Sue" now live at 123 Apple St. 
 

Lol!

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 08/29/2024 - 8:00pm

Though it was not a plan, DW did this same thing and left the vortex of toxicity. In her case, it meant leaving her hometown and her family when she was 18.  She never lived there again.

I am so sorry you lived this. 

Enjoy your new world and your new life adventure with the toxicity in your past.