I no longer have a Facebook account, and this is one of the reasons why - ie issues over interaction with SKIDs.  In my experience, Facebook has the ability to create ill feeling like nothing else, so I avoid it.  My DH once threatened to divorce me because I didn't want to friend the SDs - so I deactivated my account straight away.  He wouldn't ever do that nowadays, but a lot of water has passed under the bridge since then. 

I accepted my toxic SIL's friend request for the sake of peace at family events and promptly blocked her from seeing anything I post. My fb is for my family and true friends only. 

People are still on Fakebook?  Honestly no I would never friend Spawn on Fakebook, very simply block her so she can't see any more of your posts.  What's the worst she's going to do?  Unfriend you?

Not interested in being Fakebook friends with skid. In fact, I've blocked everyone (in-laws) who are friends with BM. I am very private and don't want the rare pics I post to be shared with her.

Facebook gives nasty people a platform to snub people. Either defriend her or ignore.

My OSD46 used to post something, and if I commented she would like everyone's comment but mine. So ridiculous.  I defriended her and she acted like a baby about it, after she "ignored" whatever I did. It's  a really stupid game.

So - recently last April there was a blowup where I ended up blocking SD22 Feral Forger and Sd15 Backstabber/Munchkin. They told their mother, Toxic Troll, stuff that they saw on my timelines for Instagram and Facebook, as well as some lies and manipulations. Long story short, I blocked those skiddos!!!! They do not get to see my life. I do a lot of posting and do a lot of activities. Feral Forger told her mother "Dad took Clove to a fancy restaurant and cant even wish me happy birthday!! And she sent me a present and he cant even spend time with meeeeeee!!!! Whaaaa". Her mother used that to flog my husband with, to show what a horrible father he is...etc. That he "chose Clove over his own chiiiiiillllllddddd"
This was back when we were still civil to each other and I had taken her out to lunch and sent a b-day present in the mail.
She claims she "just mentioned it", and her mother fabricated the rest, but now I know better.

Truth was , that it was CLOVE taking her husband out for a nice fancy dinner...rather than the other way around, and he mentioned that, but after that I just got fed up and blocked the b!tch.

So - block the b!tch.

Honestly, I would just block her. If you have a relationship, you can communicate via calls and texts. If she doesn't call or text you, it's probably not a relationship worthy of being FB friends. Sounds like she just wants to be nosy though. Is she the type of person that would "fill BM in" on what you guys are up to? She sounds like a snoop. 

When BM found out I was pregnant, she messaged me on FB and added me. She was only snooping and was all in our business. I blocked her after she was commenting MULTIPLE times on my ultrasound pics. WEIRD! 

Why do people think they have to add every Tom Dick and Harry who friend requests you? It's your Facebook page. 

I use FB and other social media mainly to keep up with friends and family.   I have learned to not get into debates, participate in religious discussions, or political discussions on FB, etc...

I'd rather chew on barbed wire. I have everyone that is related to stepkid (beside my husband) blocked permanently.

Hi Bamb! I didn't think my SS wife had any reason to dislike me but then the whole social media interaction thing made me wonder. She never "liked" any pictures I posted on Instagram or FB, She doesn't have a big presence but she does post pictures of her husband and kids. Lets face it, when we want to be part of the family it is easy to notice these things and take them personally. I've gotten over it bothering me. I just do the same, rarely "like" anything she or SS posts since I know they don't care if I see it or not anyway.

I blocked my SS, and restricted my SD postings so that they don't come thru my feed. Ignorance is bliss. 

I have not had much contact with the skids since their father (my sweet husband) passed away two years ago. I often thought of unfriending them because honestly, I don't and never have, liked them very much (and the feeling is mutual). I deleted my Instagram, only FB now. After thinking it through, I thought, let them delete me if they want. In order to get around social media weirdness, I have them on a filter, so they don't really see much of what I write (honestly, my page is pretty boring anyway). I will sometimes look at their pages, but they don't put much up. They are mostly on Instagram or Snapchat, which I am not. 

I stopped putting much weight into anything they post or say or like either because who cares. My stepdaughter was always a bit of a miserable B anyway. She never made me feel welcomed or included (this is after being with her dad for 30 years). As far as pictures, I always tried to put things up or tag her. However, I don't remember any pictures of me? She would have "family" pictures and never included me in anything. However, there was one picture she posted was when we all went to a family vacation (almost all funded by me) and I was passed out in a lawn chair lol. Lovely.

That was kind of an eye-opener for me. Since then, I don't bother commenting, liking or even wishing anyone happy birthdays anymore. I put no effort into any relationship and it's a huge relief to have that dysfunction removed from my life. I am waiting for the unfriend, because I am not bothering. My friend always says "Let the trash take itself out." Never a truer statement.

I know it's easy to "over analyze" things on social media, and sometimes she will post something stupid or angry and it just makes me laugh because how miserable does one have to be to post that kind of stuff?

Dog or kitten memes are more my style.

Facebook is just for nosy people,I delete unfriend anyone I don't interact with or restrict viewers ,I usually delete posts after 5 days or put it to privacy settings for my viewing only,I mean why keep it once everybody has viewed it or liked it commented it's really no need it being their any longer, Facebook has caused me many dramas over the years,I prefer the Facebook story mode on the Facebook app,That way you can see who viewed it and know who your stalkers are or nosy people lol plus your post is only valid for 24 hours,I had some 300 Facebook friends at one stage now only 89 all of which I know family and friends,I get my regular likers and commenters which is good,I've had people like that before too,Oh I saw your Facebook post but yet they never like or comment but would only comment on something which causes debate or says something smart ,Those kinds are usually the first on the deleted and restricted lists lol

SD35 posted photos of her birth and tagged her dad. Gross.

It's simple ... sad but likely true...

She added you so that she could see everything that you post to show BM... "SHE didn't want to add you as a friend BM had her do it.  I am not on Facebook but my family is and the same scenario happens ...  BM, her family etc try to friend my son and family hoping to catch a glimpse into mine and DH's life... We are very private and forbid pictures and mention of our lives on Facebook.  

Again I know very little about social media but can't you share only certain things with her and not allow her to see everything?  Personally I think that would drive them crazy!

In the beginning when things were all rosy I was friends with 2 of the 4 on Facebook but then as the toxicity leapt in I unfriended them - and boy did that blow their little toxic minds! Gave them more ammunition about how it was "me who wronged them" blah blah...Only protects me from seeing things though - they still whinge about what their Dad does or buys etc because he is friends with them on Facebook.

I'm FB "friends" with SD...but I have noticed that she never, or at least rarely, likes pictures/posts about me and DH...he writes the sweetest things for our anniversary and my birthday,  and it would appear she doesn't see them, but I know better. 

I became her step mother when she was 14 and she's 19 now so I assume she would treat any other woman the same...and her parents had been divorced since she was like 3.  Its clear to me in the way she behaves that she resents her parents not being together. 

When behavior gets to a point though,  you gotta block that stuff.

can be divisive. I refer to the people who seemingly spy on you as FB Voyeurs. They're nothing more than technological peeping Toms when they watch but don't comment, or share anything.

I really don't have the time to sit around and read what who is doing, and peruse photos of their every meal.

DH and I are very private people and I don't want any of my information put out there.

For the record SK's and I aren't friends in the real world, so why would I invite that into my digital world? I want NOTHING to do with them on ANY LEVEL.

This made me chuckle....not because it's not a true concern but because I found myself in the same situation.  I finally unfriended my oldest SS on Facebook (mostly because he's a DB) and I've set it up so his wife can't see anything I've posted (although we're still friends on fakebook).  I've posted pics of all the grandkids together (including their kids) and tagged her in the pics and she ignores them.  That happened twice and I thought "I don't need this crap" and did what I needed to do.  I disengaged from this SS and his wife and their HUGE egos several years back and it was a very freeing feeling.  Unfriend her; if she asks why just naively say 'did I?' What do you care.  Don't give your precious love and energy to people that are playing with you.

I blocked both SD's years ago.

I don't want to look at their nonsence and filtered photo shoots. I don't want to read the oldest disgusting sexual posts.

II feel so sorry for my SO. They friended everyone he knows.

My sister is friends with them and shows me on ocassion the crap when I ask.

Sometimes, I need to know what is causing my SO's mood...9 of 10 it's becauae one of the SD's is acting out.

BTW, they are 39 & 35.

They have no shame....no self-respect.

Ugh!

-Sigh

So....

But DH is so they can see anything I post where DH is tagged. They never comment but I know they watch our posts because they make snide comments to DH from time to time about how they or BM can't have nice things like we do because they have school or work. Wah wah BM finally had to get a real job.

I don't care that spending our own hard earned  money and being happy makes them angry. If anything their jealous, petty and bitter, entitled "golden family" children from the 1st family response shows DH their true colors. He gets sick of it, especially after all he has done for them. He kicked entitled BM to the curb. They may get the same treatment if they act like her and don't get themselves in check. 

I don't have stepkids on my facebook friends. We don't have a good relationship with the stepdaughters, but i do have 3 of the stepgrandkids on my facebook friends who are my stepson's kids. 

Years ago. Including their mother who blocked me. That's just fine with me. 

lol -- I just unfriended and blocked my adult skids after several years. At one time, I had a somewhat decent relationship with SS, and I was ok being friends on FB with SD because FB was the only place where we could get info on what was really going on in their lives when they were younger (various concerns ranging from public calls to strangers for out-of-state rides for underage kids, exorbitant amounts of money spent on certain things when we were told BM didn't have money to pay her phone bill, BM's travel and leaving underage skids at home unattended, problems at school, international travel not ok'ed by DH, etc.).  

It was no secret that the skids felt they could not or did not want to interact with me online or even acknowledge my existence. What burned my butt, though, was that they have also pretended for the most part that DH does not exist. DH has taken SS on vacations to places like Key West and Costa Rica and not one photo was posted. Skids would visit us (from out of state). . . same thing. DH had major surgery and all was mum. All the while, if their mother farts, they will post on Facebook how aromatic it was and how it was so wonderful, they held a party (sorry). Every move they make with their mother results in photos of hugging, cheek-to-cheek selfies and expressions of love and worship for the cult mama. 

As with holidays, crises, weddings, birthdays, etc. (thread about the SD obituary), these toxic types also use social media to send their passive aggressive messages or outright expressions of hatred.  

I finally decided that my skids have no right to any access to my life, and, honestly, I'm sick of knowing about theirs. I used to (even recently) think it would be mean or cause "feelings" if I unfriended and blocked. Well, so be it, bitches! 

I was friends with SS and his wife on Facebook for a few years.  She-Devil, SS's wife, caused a huge stink when she told a ridiculous lie about my mother.  The whole clan was up in arms thinking that we allowed my mother to do something that we didn't let MIL do.  All because we set needed boundaries with MIL.  Then She-Devil got pregnant.  Seeing her Facebook posts made me want to throw up in my mouth.  I deleted her.  I also noticed that SS was constantly sending pictures and videos to my husband about the Grand Spawn while claiming that he wanted me to be grandma.  BM had already passed away, so none of his behaviors were attributed to her influence.  In fact, he had pretty much cut BM out of his life.  Pictures from the baby shower were posted, none included me or my daughter.  We were there though.  Mothers Day, he drove right past my house to pick up MIL to meet up with my husband's older nephew and all celebrate Mother's Day.  But SS claimed that I was his mother.  
Grand Spawn is born, he wants me to play grandma, yet doesn't send me any texts, pictures or videos while bombarding my husband with them.  Yeah, sure, I believe you SS.  
Things came to a head when I skipped the baby dedication and refused to come to Thanksgiving at their house.  He wanted to talk, so we talked on the phone.  All he did was justify his and his wife's behavior.  I was done after that.  Later on I noticed that he had deleted and blocked me.  I was amused, then I was relieved.  I blocked him back, blocked his wife, and blocked them both on my phone.  
 

Just a heads up.

As far as Skid online presence, my Skid is an social media ghost. He has nearly zero social media presence. He has an online gaming presence, but not a social media presence.

I have never blocked anyone I actually know. I have blocked the obvious scammers.  Countless numbers of them.

My wish for you all is that you all get as LUCKY as I did and end up with the toxic SKID suddenly blocking YOU instead if thats what you wanted as much as I did. At least THIS way, I can stop feeling guilty for deciding to make that move first. May your wishes come true. I had gotten to this point where I am not even upset. Actually felt relieved. SD29 may have thought she was being slick and being all powerful getting in the last word ( being blocked me MID convo too so im thinking that has to be show herself to look immature instead ) Meanwhile, .the truth is that I had already restricted access to her prior Fakebook pages and blocked those first. She just happened to beat me to the punch this time around when she used a new profile just to bug me with on Messenger. All in all..the trash took itself out which is always nice...just got to hope she doesnt reappear again. 

I just use FB as a remain in contact and get updates on friends tool.

I have learned to not use FB for anything more than an HBD post or something like that. Nomemes that could possibly be interpreted as political, no current events comments, just pics and catch up stuff.

I am fortunate that I can just about instantly forget something that irritates me and immediately move on. Most of the time anyway.

I unfriended my OSS and have his wife blocked from anything I post. No need .

Nope to the NOPE. Don't do it. Or if they reach out and friend you really LIMIT what they can see and what you can see of them. The likelhood that this will turn out well for you is slim to none. They may not do anything overtly but they will watch your page, be hurt by your happiness and cause problems. ASK ME HOW I KNOW. :D 

But it really does not matter in the least. SS has as close to zero social media presence as one can get without it being absolute zero.