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I think we've turned the page

ICanMakeIt's picture

I think we've turned a page in dealing with step drama.

This is a momentous occasion I never saw coming. DH has been in the midst of being stripped of even more time due to sports this Summer after he already agreed to losing two weeks for the ever important school version of the sport.

A week later he gets hit with a request for an additional week for the travel version try outs that have no make up time.

DH had Summer plans for a pretty big trip to a landmark SD wanted to see. Been talking about it for the last couple years. He worked his a$$ off after the initial change to rearrange things and now this. This change will completely do away with being able to do the trip at all due to schedule restraints now with his work in this reduced timeframe.

When DH reached out to SD to let her know he was sorry he wouldn't be able to do the trip now in the reduced time frame by allowing her to literally cut her visit in half, do you know what the little $hit said via text??????????

"XYZ Landmark isn't going anywhere, I'd rather be able to attend the try outs".  

Then SS whom we haven't seen since June last year, when asked if he would like to come visit for a long weekend sometime in Summer (since he isn't doing Summer College classes) said and I quote "I don't prefer (insert economy airline name)".

MY jaw is on the floor at the entitlement! 

But we have made progress because DH is checking out and not allowing his blood pressure to be affected. He saw that viral " Let Them" post and I think has taken it to heart. 

 

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Aniki-Moderator's picture

XYZ Landmark will be there when SnottyDaughter is an adult and can bloody well pay for the trip with her own money. 

Fingers crossed the only airline DH can book for SnottySon is (insert economy airline).

I hope you and your DH enjoy a nice vacation without the Snottys.

Rags's picture

Airline my ass. More like economy bus line with the smelly druggie sleezballs falling asleep on her shoulder for the days it takes her to arrive after every shit hole town stop over along the most circuitous route possible.  No direct bus route for her. See how she likes feeling what transpires when she pisses daddy off.

Diablo

ICanMakeIt's picture

You are absolutely right.
I will die on the hill of ever paying for her to visit XYZ landmark

Harry's picture

Make it an adult only trip.  Send post cards. [ are there post cards anymore?].  Facebook where you are. All the great restaurants and bars you are out 

ICanMakeIt's picture

That's MY plan at least  ;-) 

I've not seen this place before and would like it so why should we ALL miss out.

ICanMakeIt's picture

Let Them

by Cassie Phillips

Just Let them.
If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM.
If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM.
If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM.
If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM.
If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM.
If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM.
If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM.

Let them lose you. You were never theirs, because you were always your own.
So let them.
Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you.
Let them prove how worthy they are of your time.
Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life.
Let them earn your forgiveness.
Let them call you to talk about ordinary things.
Let them take you out on a Thursday.
Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to.

ICanMakeIt's picture

Obviously it's geared toward adult relationships, but some parts are applicable I think. 

Winterglow's picture

This sounds like Rags' philosophy of "judge people by what they do, not what they say".

Rags's picture

Categorize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.  Don't tell me, show me. Etc.

There are many variations on the same message.