Offer I CAN Resist.....

Delusional Disneyland Dad tried to tell me we need to have a 'talk' / coming to J3sus.

I'm like "dude you will have a coming to L*cifer and I will have a coming to J3sus then I will pray those demons will be released from your mind and body."

Anyways this dude

accuses me of being "selfish" because I wont allow him or his destructive spawns to play around with my expensive furniture/appliances that I purchased (but made the mistake of bringing into this house because now he acts liks him and his kids are entitled to my sh*t) and intend to sell. I have to explain to his incompetent a$$ that when I sell my items I want them left in the condition I had them in and they should be off limits.
Half a$$ed admitted that he was wrong for allowing his kids to disturb my ability to sleep by letting them cook at 11:30pm 2 weekends ago. Still no apology for yelling at me nor trampling over my boundaries to feed his kids.
Admitted that his kids used to help him clean up more when he was single then tried to make excuses ("well that was when they lived with me fulltime").... KNEW his a$$ was trying to get over on me by trying to designate me as the free janitor. F%ck that!!!
Stupidly admitted that he couldn't afford $150/month to help with my kid's financial needs because he had 2 other kids he was financially responsible for. And when I grilled his a$$ (of course he tried to change the topic before I figured out what a douch3y thing he was saying) I told him that I would only marry someone I was raising kids with and how could he afford to have a kid with me if an extra $150 a month was going to send him to the poor house. He would have to admit either he is a hypocrite / sh*tty step-father was not about to expend resources on a step-kid (ok then why tf are you expecting me to expend any of my resources on your kids?!?) OR he would have to admit if I married him/we had a kid then I would be 100% financially responsible for said kid (aka married single mother) ..... Neither of which type of man I want to be with....he quickly changed the topic

His offer? = He would allegedly work on this reationship and make his kids behave better at this house on the weekends AND pay more household bills AND clean up after himself/make his son clean up in the bathroom but he required sex twice a week (BARF!) ..... Not to fond of sex quotas required for a man to act like a decent human and make his kids act normal too. Plus he seems to think just waking up and deciding to act like a gentleman will excuse all his sh*tty behavior from him and his kids. This offer will be declined. It's not the lifestlye or type of man I want long-term.

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Maybe you should smack him

Maybe you should smack him with the harsh reality that if he'd been doing all those things and beyond, the chances are that he would already be getting all the sex he desires. There are few men as sexy and desirable as those who are good fathers, attentive lovers, and who pull their weight around the house.

The fact that he feels he has to bargain, demand even, is SUCH A TURNOFF! Gawd, but he's clueless!

Trust me... another man (our

Trust me... another man (our previous couples counselor who was a man) told him what I had been trying to tell him was "Dude if you want seggs, why are you putting the cart before the horse and most women don't work like that"

He wasn't raised properly. And I am not wasting my time trying to educate a middle aged man on how to respect women/be a better lover so they'd want to voluntarily sleep with him.

Yo, Winterglow,

You've written;

There are few men as sexy and desirable as those who are good fathers, attentive lovers, and who pull their weight around the house.

How very true! We celebrated our Canadian Thanksgiving yesterday, serving a smorgasbord for 8 people. After our guests had departed, DH cleaned the kitchen, washed the dishes, swept and vacuumed. By the time that he’d finished and we were relaxing over a shared bottle of wine, he looked good enough to rout Brad Pitt, in terms of attractiveness (mind you, watching him play football with his son and grandsons earlier in the day had already stoked my interest).

Selfishness is a trait that I find both repulsive and unacceptable in a relationship; I endured enough of that in my first 2 marriages and vowed that I’d never tolerate it again. In fact, I dated my DH for nearly 5 years before I had built enough trust to move in with him.

Lilly, your boyfriend is simply not worthy of your lifetime commitment. He ‘talks the talk’ because he suspects you of planning to bail and quite rightly so. I can guarantee that the minute the ring is on your finger (attached to a colossal, invisible ball and chain), he will slide right back into his old ways. This oldster has been around the block more than once and knows, all too well, the ways of self-interested men.

So, my dear, continue as you have been, preparing for your departure. If your boyfriend is ready to make some concessions regarding his kid’s behaviours, all the better. All I can recommend about his ‘sex twice a week’ is to ‘close your eyes and think of England’.

Your DH gets it g.d. I am very happy for you both.

Winterglow is right. I try to be that man. That is the man my I try to be. Though in the interest of full disclosure, I prefer to outsource as much of the house cleaning and yard work as possible. I am Mr. dishes and clean the kitchen after meals, etc... Just like dad. I up his game by also doing most of the cooking.

Yay me!!!!

Required sex?

I If he isn't man enough or adult enough to keep your interest in being intimate with you, he can F-off on any sex except what he provides for himself.

IMHO.

Keep him the hell away from you.