I said kind of a mean thing lol

My husband has a friend who impregnated a woman who has 3 kids from a previous relationship or marriage (?), I don't know her, so I don't know the situation. The friend and this woman are not married. So today my husband says to me:

"Do you know my friend who was going to have a baby?"

Me: Yes.

Husband: Well it ended up being a stillbirth.

Me: Well tell your friend to run the other way.

Husband: *walks out of the room*

I'm sad for their loss, and I know it's so sad and devastating to lose a baby (I had a miscarriage last year and have an 11 week old baby now) but my first instinct was to think of how this man just got a free pass out of StepHell before he even entered in! I hope that my husband's friend doesn't get her pregnant again and gets to escape stepparent life.

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Wrap it before you tap it is a self preservation policy.

I am sorry for this guys loss, however he did dodge a major bullet.

He needs to move on and make sure he gets the short circuit between his brain and his balls fixed before he ends up back in the same situation, with no reprieve.

What do you think that your DH's reaction indicates?

Rags, exactly! The friend

Rags, exactly! The friend dodged a major bullet and I love your comment about the short circuit LOL!!

I actually asked myself the same question as to why my DH walked away and I think it's because my comment made it clear to him how I feel about being a stepparent.

I wonder why your husband

I wonder why your husband walked way like he was the father and you highly offended him

Or maybe your comment signaled to him how unhappy you were doing step life with him.

oh well that shit is the truth. 90% of the time step parenting has no benefit to the step parent. And most of us go in with good intentions but don't find out until later when it's too late to easily extricate ourselves.

Lillywy00, you're exactly

Lillywy00, you're exactly right. I went in to this thinking, "Well, other people do it, so it must be fine" and with good intentions and only when it's too late do we realize what a hard life we signed ourselves up for. I actually love being a wife and a mom, but not a stepmom.

P.S. I've been enjoying reading your blog posts! They make me laugh. It looks like you're not completely locked in and that you have an escape plan? I wish!

Same. I like being a mom more

Same. I like being a mom more than I like being a step mom having to do all the fucking work for these bio parents with no compensation/ no boundaries and these disrespectful entitled demanding skids who will do anything to run you off so their maladjusted bio parents can get back into their toxic ass relationship.

I hate doing ANYTHING that I have no input into and has no ROI

At least with my bio kid I can set rules/boundaries and they're followed. These mfs here are militant as shit and I can't wait to ditch this Disneyland dad and his non-stop obligations/expectations

Yeah the dude tried to lock me in (tried to convince me to marry him, wants a baby, etc) but when I envisioned a life with him it felt like it would be miserable as hell while he ran his bitch ass all over the city for his kids with his ex wife, I'd basically be a married single mom dealing with his dumb ass.

Unless he did a swift 180 (acquiesced to my needs more often, grew a pair/stood up to his demanding exwife and kids, made more money/paid more bills around here/fully understood his exwife and kids place in this operation/etc) then I see no benefit in marrying him and definitely no benefit in having a kid with him because he has no boundaries with his ex wife/those skids, I'm on edge every time his kids with no home training arrive at this house, and he doesn't provide to my standards, the sex is wack (and if I wasn't borderline asexual with decent morals I probably would have cheated on him) so I'm lining up to leave his ass as soon as I can

If I have to operate financially and energy wise like a single woman then I'm going to be single without the ties to this ball and his multiple chains so I can live my life in peace

Ugh sorry you're experiencing

Ugh sorry you're experiencing all that drama. I don't even know you and I can't wait for you to ditch your Disneyland Dad too! lol A burden will be lifted from your shoulders and you'll get to have calm and peace in your life and in your home. I can't wait to read your blog post when you tell us you've finally left! I'm rooting for you and I know I'll be living vicariously through you when that time comes for you :)