Graduation
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HI so the older step son is graduating soon. do you think it would be a hole thing to do not to go ? My partners ex will be there of course and his fmaily and hers, i fell like mabye i should just sit it out and let them do there thing. I have a gift for him of course. Or do i go ? he would not even notice im not there to be honest .
Dont go
Schedule something. Spa day. Friends Day.
What kind of relationship do
What kind of relationship do you have with him (the stepson)?
its ok ,, hes 17 so you know
its ok ,, hes 17 so you know lol
What does your partner want?
What does your partner want? I would have preferred not to go to SD's graduation. Sitting in the sun, listening to the speeches, waiting for the kid to walk across the stage -- not my idea of fun. But, he wanted me to go with him. I went.
he wants me to go ,, he said
he wants me to go ,, he said im goin to be there for him and my step soin its not about me he said
Are he and the stepson
Are he and the stepson usually there for you? That comment wouldn't sit well with me unless they were.
My partner is always there
My partner is always there for me, my step son no
Were you invited? I wouldnt
Were you invited? I wouldnt go unless i was invited. I gave SS17 a card with a message stating he was "one step closer to adulting and becoming independent!" and a $50.00 bill. His dad signed the card and gave another $50.00... We were not invited to the "graduation" (not a real one, just some high school equivalency program but not GED) although BM2 told the children she was planning on inviting my husband and I to which i smiled and nodded (was going to fake some type of illness or work related obligation and let husband go on his own) but it turns out,they ended up having it without asking any of us to come
It would depend first on
It would depend first on whether or not you were invited. The second question would be what kind of relationship do you have with SS?
What's the plan for his
What's the plan for his graduation.. is there a party after? is he going to lunch with mom? with dad?
If you are generally close to him.. and there are tickets available.. I would go with your DH.. no need to sit next to BM. It's a milestone for his son.. and I'm sure he will appreciate you going with him.
If you have some reasonable cause to not go.. medically can't sit in the sun.. or have conflict.. then your DH could go without you I guess.
It's really up to you. your ss likely won't even know you aren't there.. and the gift will be plenty.
My partners mum will ask us
My partners mum will ask us to sit all togther as she doesnt care about anything, i dont feel the need to sit togther as a happy little fake family, i want to sit apart.
Also there is my other step
Also there is my other step son that may go hes 10, so what if he sits with his mum where does my partner sit ? with me or his 10 year old and ex ?
Also there is my other step
Also there is my other step son that may go hes 10, so what if he sits with his mum where does my partner sit ? with me or his 10 year old and ex ?
Go, be radiant at your partner's side.
Beam your happiness. Before the event, get a rockin hot dress, a full spa day make over, and a beautiful hair style.
The oppostion can respond as they choose with the caveate that if they get toxic, you bare their ass.
Keep whispering sweet nothings into your SO's ear and pump him up for the event.
Living well is the best revenge. Go and enjoy your revenge, together wih your SO.
Personal opinion, you should
Personal opinion, you should go. Even if it's uncomfortable for you and even if you think he won't notice. My SD is graduating this year as well and I DO NOT want to go, but I'm going, and here's why:
My own parents divorced when I was 10. My dad remarried when I was 14 and my mom remarried when I was 18. Both of my step parents went to everthing they could to be there not only for me but for their spouse (my parents). It didn't phase me then. I liked them and wanted them there but didn't think much of it. Now that I'm an adult and have step children of my own, I know what they went through to be there for me and I have a ton of respect for that. My step parents and I have a great relationship now and I wouldn't change it for the world. I am so glad they sucked it up and went to my graduation and everything else they could.
Just go and worry about yourself and your SO. No one else. And SS obviously...
Im going :) gosh i wish
Im going :) gosh i wish alchol wasnt frowned upon at these things lol . its in a church as well
Good luck - I hope it all
Good luck - I hope it all goes well!