Watching kid while partners ex is out of the country's
HI so in my last forum we discussed the 11 year being with us while his mum made holiday plans while school was still still in. My partner decided to take the little one so the older one shouldnt and wants to watch his younger brother for that long. My question is the 18 going on 19 thats not in school nor work, do we have him over more to feed him during that 2.5 weeks ? really for gods sake he should be doing either schoo, or work not just sittinh there. he will have the house to himself for 2.5 weeks and wont leave his room ,, nor more so if hes not even lending a helping hand with his younger brother at all.
I find it strange to feed him and make sure hes ok for that time as 1. he chooses not to take up any of his time doing anything at all. 2. doesnt want to help with his brother ., why should we go pick him up and bring him over when he can take care og him self really.
He always declines going wuith the family anywhere, he doesnt do shit all day.
Do we still bring the lazy bum over during that time ? mind you he still comes everyother weekend till now .
No, let him sit in his room
No, let him sit in his room at his mom's house. My brother, at 18, was looking after me and my sister when my mother went out of town for work. I was the youngest at 13. Our dad lived close by so he was our go to if an emergency came up that my brother couldn't handle. Other than that, my brother made sure everything was taken care of at home and we were just fine.
An 18/19yo does not need to
An 18/19yo does not need to come over. Particularly one who is not in school or working. If anything, BM needs to leave him home with no food other than a box of ramen noodles. He can starve otherwise.
That was a key learning moment my parents gave me. My last spring break of my first two years of college mom and dad did not give me a dime and I had no place to go other than my dorm room. The school was planning on shutting down the boilers, light circuits, etc.. I had to get approval to stay in the dorm. I had a dozen packages of ramen. Not enough for 10 days. I supplemented ramen with tomato soup. Made from water and ketchup packets that I harvested from an number of burger joints in town near my dorm. Some tabasco, some seasoning and ketchup packets makes a servicable tomato soup. But ramen and ketchup packet soup were not enough for me to avoid a lesson. Deliver to standard or.... have a long hungry spring break.
If SS actually gets a job
He would not be able to come over for two weeks. He would have to work. DH has this figure out. If he makes DS get a job visitation will stop. If he does retail he will be working all holidays. As getting Christmas Day off but the day after Christmas is big in retail. Thanksgiving, then Black Friday
I shudder at those memories.
I shudder at those memories. I spent 6yrs of my life on that schedule.
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