17 year old step daughter
Last February my partners daughter called him ranting on the phone that I'd been badmouthing her nana(his mother), and she would never speak to me again because I've been "brainwashing" him.
Nana told the skids I was making him take the family home from them by making him sell it.
The former family home has to be sold or the ex raises money for my partners share if the divorce when youngest reaches 18(in 4 years time)
Ex has had 13 years to prepare for this.
She will be able to draw a % of her pension and borrow from parents at this time so has a choice not to sell.
She is playing the victim and not explaining to sad that she agreed in court and that this is what happens after divorce.
Step daughter thinks her dad is wrong and should walk away with nothing and give everything to ex.
How sad, when it sounds as if
How sad, when it sounds as if SD is the one who's actually been brainwashed.
Your MIL is not a friend to your marriage. I hope you and your H have made the necessary adjustments to keep her at arm's length, and I hope your DH called her out on her toxic behavior.
So this financial arrangement was created and agreed to by both parties in divorce court? If so, your DH should gather all his documents from the divorce and have a sit down with his daughter to acquaint her with the facts. At seventeen she's more than old enough to hear the truth and needs to, but your DH needs to take control of the situation and teach his daughter not to believe anything a winged monkey might say.
Yep. Facts are needed to
Yep. Facts are needed to counteract this grab of pity. Just for giggles, find a calculator online and figure out how much the ex lost by not refinancing when rates were low. My BM waited til the last minute (years) and lost tons of money for spite. Idiot.
Greetings - what ever happened
What ever happened to your situation from 2020>?
It sounds like its gotten worse. How old is this Skid that is ranting?
Definitely get that paperwork together and smack whomever upside the head with it (TM Rags) - not seriouslym but well EVERYONE needs to have the lies smacked out of them and to replace them with the truth.
Thats utterly ridiculous. It sounds like the ex is a toxic person and she has full custody?
Time for daddy to sit the spawn down for a CO review.
Line by line, word by word, letter by letter. Then disect the idiot spawn's toxic parotting of BM with the facts in the CO.
Keeping a rolled up copy of the CO handy to beat the snot out of the toxic X and toxic Kool-Aid guzzling spawn (figuratively of course) every time they spout toxic crap is the best way I know of to keep the X in line and teach the kids to protect themselves from the toxic manipulative PASing parent.
Facts are neither good, nor are they bad. They are merely facts. Play them hard and confidently keeping the toxic noses scrubbed in the manipulative stench. they create with their behaviors.
Hopefully the kid will learn the facts, recognize the truth regarding the manipulations of the toxic end of their blended family equation, and learn to protect themselves from the shallow and polluted end of their gene pool
IMHO of course.
I'm not sure how you got
I'm not sure how you got pulled into this situation.. how you could be accused of badmouthing anyone.. unless you attempted to in some way discuss this situation with SD 17.. and your words were twisted in some way.
Your SO absolutely needs to set his kid straight.
1. Nana is not party to the divorce agreement... so while she may not be intentionally misleading you.. she does not know or understand the order. That is not saying your nana is a bad person, but she does not apparently understand the reality of the agreement.
2. The agreement has always been in place that your mother would stay in the home until you were X age.. and then if she wanted to remain there? She had to buy out my half that I delayed taking in the divorce agreement. If she could not buy it? Then the house would be sold and I would get my portion from the proceeds and she would get hers.
3. This agreement has been in place for more than a decade and at any point, your mother could have planned for this.. and it's noone's fault but her own that she has left it to the last minute.
4. To be clear.. I had an ownership interest in the house you lived in with your mother.. and at 18.. I am entitlled to my share.. she knew this and agreed to it... this is not a surprise or change brought about by my relationship with anyone else.
5. I'm sorry that you are upset by your mother's situation, but I am not obligated to continue to subsidize my exwife any longer and will not be doing that.. if your mother has not planned for this outcome? that is not my problem.
I'd say "...if your mother
I'd say "...if your mother has not planned for this outcome? That's really poor parenting on her part, and not my problem."